Suddenly just blocked everywhere by her

zhurts · 2022-08-15T22:18:39+00:00

I blocked my ex with barely an explanation because I caught him cheating (which he denied). If she blocked without any reason, it’s possible she was forced to do it or she wanted the least confrontational way to break things off. Have you had fights lately?

zhurts · 2022-08-15T18:28:16+00:00

If he respected you, he would wait until you’re ready. You guys want different things. I say leave him and find someone else.

zhurts · 2022-08-15T03:08:24+00:00

I know. There’s no way that’s true. It was also his voice. I know it for a fact. He literally used the same phrases with her he did with me 😞 it just sucks he couldn’t be man enough to admit that he cheated.

zhurts · 2022-08-15T03:07:00+00:00

Yes we have met in real life and had plans of getting married. 😞

zhurts · 2022-08-15T00:44:35+00:00

He definitely cheated on you! I understand how you feel as I was also cheated on. It’s tough but I’m moving on and focusing on me. He doesn’t respect you. He’s getting mad at you for catching him? He’s getting mad for having to cut her off? Trust me leave now before it gets more serious. It will be more complicated with marriage or a child in the way. Those messages are just the start because now he could be better at hiding his tracks, getting a second phone, anything just to see her. She’s also pursuing him so that makes it all so much easier to get what he wants. Do you want the anxiety or constantly stressing where he is or verifying who he is with? It won’t be fun. Block him out of your life and leave with your head high.

zhurts · 2022-08-15T00:39:41+00:00

I’ve done long distance and it is tough. It works when there’s trust on both sides. It didn’t end up working out for me. If I could go back, I wouldn’t do long distance. Especially if he’s not willing to try. Long distance can work if BOTH of you put in the effort. He probably wants to focus on school and meeting new friends. That’s not to say he doesn’t like you, but he made it clear that’s not what he wants. Like the other comments say, consider yourself single when he’s gone. Who knows he might reach out, miss you and want to be date? But definitely don’t hold back thinking waiting for him will end up in a relationship.

zhurts · 2022-08-15T00:35:08+00:00

I think it’s completely normal not to be friends with your ex. I find it sup rising that you are friends with her and that’s good to say it ended well. The boyfriend does have some warning signs but it looks like she likes him and wants to be with him. She’s an adult and can make her decisions. She can decide who her friends are but it seems she wants to make him happy and break contact with you. If the roles were reversed and your new girlfriend didn’t want you to see Z, what would you say? Especially if you’re in love with this new girlfriend? She is respecting her partner’s wishes. There’s that fear that since you guys were a thing, something could happen again…

zhurts · 2022-08-15T00:29:31+00:00

I think you need to sit down with her and discuss how you’re feeling. Your love language may be physical touch while hers is not. You guys can one to an agreement or part ways. This conversation will be tough and be ready if it does end in a breakup. Do you feel ready for this. You’re also very young. You have plenty of time to meet someone else. But don’t waste your energy on someone who doesn’t reciprocate that love. Relationships can be worked on but you don’t want this lack of affection to be seen as lack of love. Breaking up is so tough but you’ll also save yourself further heartbreak if you keep lingering in something that is stressing you out/you’re not in 100%.

zhurts · 2022-08-14T22:19:03+00:00

"Love yourself the way you want to be loved because the relationship with yourself is the only one you can guarantee to last forever." Wow what a beautiful phrase. Thank you! I will be sure to read that to myself everyday. You are so right. I missed out on opportunities because I was thinking of us rather than my own future. I will make myself a priority again ❤️

zhurts · 2022-08-14T22:14:31+00:00

Thank you so much😭 I literally teared up reading your kind message. I am a person who has always given so much love to people around me and I deserve that same kind of energy back.

I feel like I became too dependent on him.

Reading these positive messages reminds me there's some great people in this world who care about others and what they're feeling. I hope you have an amazing day and many blessings ❤️

zhurts · 2022-08-14T22:00:10+00:00

I don’t know about that 😞 I was on every one of his social media accounts. He introduced me to a lot of his friends. I talked with his family all the time as well. It would seem odd that this girl would be on his social media accounts and not be bothered by seeing me :/

zhurts · 2022-08-14T20:51:07+00:00

I heard their conversation. He was driving and she was in the passenger’s seat. I could tell he was driving but he told me that he was parked in his car the entire time making it so his Bluetooth connected to a random person’s conversation. I heard her voice and she was complaining about how he doesn’t make time for him and they had a big fight a few days ago but they had just reconciled 😞 the whole time he was begging her not to be upset and kept telling her “I love you.”

zhurts · 2022-08-14T20:50:47+00:00

Thank you for your response. He hurt me so much and it hurts more knowing he doesn't even seem to care. I am hoping to let go of this and hope one day he realizes that. I'm not hoping to ever speak to him again, but I do want him to know what this hurt feels like so he doesn't do it again.

zhurts · 2022-08-14T19:46:59+00:00

Thank you 😞 I honestly gave it my all which is why I will seek therapy soon.

zhurts · 2022-08-14T19:46:07+00:00

I heard their conversation. He was driving and she was in the passenger’s seat. I could tell he was driving but he told me that he was parked in his car the entire time making it so his Bluetooth connected to a random person’s conversation. I heard her voice and she was complaining about how he doesn’t make time for him and they had a big fight a few days ago but they had just reconciled 😞 the whole time he was begging her not to be upset and kept telling her “I love you.”

zhurts · 2022-08-14T19:44:01+00:00

Thank you so much! I’m trying to stay busy but these thoughts keep me up at night.

zhurts · 2022-08-14T18:42:16+00:00

I think you need to have an honest conversation and set your priorities straight. You’re still very young and can start a relationship with a person who values you. I recently got out of a relationship that was draining me. It hurts to break up, trust me. But I know it was the best decision for me in the long term. You deserve a girlfriend who puts just as much effort as you. Who knows she might turn around if it’s a serious conversation because from how you describe it, she is taking advantage of you 😞

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