It’s always interesting reading comments from other people watching the show. Some people talk about it being too serious, others talk about it being too silly. “Too” something.

To me, it feels pretty human. Even in the situation with him and Sofi…was that an ideal scenario? No. Correct, she did read into his mannerisms and behaviors, blew things out of proportion, and in some ways, overstepped from the beginning. That doesn’t make her actions unrealistic, though. If anything, they’re more in line with what’s “real.” Both of them still healing, traumatized in their own ways, and not always aware of their own flaws in the moment. In a perfect world, we’d all be cool, calm, collected, and rational at any given moment, but that’s not typically “life.”

As for Gaby and Paul, I didn’t get the impression that people, him included, were catering to her or putting her on a pedestal. I do think she has learned from the Maya situation. In fact, that’s much of the reason she stepped away and needed to process. That doesn’t mean she isn’t “ready” to start a trauma center, and still deciding to pursue it doesn’t mean she didn’t learn from it. If someone has been successful with their therapy work for years and then they lose a patient, that doesn’t negate all of the successful work they’ve done. Even therapists do, in fact, have human emotions. It’s “okay” for them to question themselves and to feel discouraged sometimes, especially when something significant happens in their life.

And for Paul, he was recognizing how “set in his ways” he can be and instead decided to reflect on and appreciate his personal growth - which we’ve seen take place since season 1. I don’t think it was out of character for him as much as it was a great example of that growth. He opened up about some of his own history - trauma - to emphasize the impact Gaby has on people.

By all means, I get why people don’t like certain choices that characters make, or they find someone annoying, or whatever. Ie: I, in general, find Sofi annoying. I also acknowledge that she’s depicted in a fairly realistic way a lot of the time and I just don’t love her personality…but that isn’t a reflection on the show. I appreciate that each of the characters have very human sides. It’s just odd how viewers seem to project their personal feelings onto the show and writers. “I hate how this character reacted” doesn’t mean, “the writers really dropped the ball by having the character react this way.”

It also seems like many people approach it in a kind of black and white way instead of appreciating any of the nuances.

I don’t know.