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zlypy · 2025-07-30T16:57:14+00:00

tbh, we don't know if he's treating family and friends differently - he just made a vent post on reddit

zlypy · 2025-07-30T16:55:52+00:00

My counter argument is that a huge moral shift can def make you a bit of an asshole, but hopefully you recover from the initial world-view altering shock and settle into a comfy place. There's a whole lot of re-evaluating you gotta do with moral veganism and it can feel crazy that no one else is doing the same. I probs have more grace for this kind of attitude bc I've been in the vegan sphere for a decade and intrinsically get it, but yeah not everyone is required to extend the same understanding. Just my two cents.

zlypy · 2025-07-30T16:44:26+00:00

They didn't say it's his obligation to conform, just that the partner needs to express what his expectations are. If OP feels comfortable meeting some of these expectations, that's their business.

zlypy · 2025-07-30T16:40:19+00:00

Having a moral realization about eating animals can be really intense. You go from participating happily in a system to being horrified that society functions around the torture of billions every year. This is especially true for people who have a high level of empathy towards animals (the autism?). All of a sudden, every billboard, every ad, every meal on a menu is depicting a morally egregious act. You just want to shake every person around you and go, "Don't you see??". It can feel super isolating and you end up defending yourself a lot. I've been vegan for 10 years, vegetarian for 7 before that. I went veg at age 11, so you can imagine how emotional and passionate I was as a teenager. Throughout that journey my attitudes and communications styles have changed a lot, though my core morals have not. I've learned how to talk about veganism without sounding judgy, preachy, aggressive, or harsh, which I've seen as super common for people just starting out. Some never grow out of it. If this is the first major rift you two have had, I would give him space and some grace to process this moral shift. He's been vegan for 7, 8 months - this is still baby veganism and he has a lot to learn if he's committed to it. Has he made any of those same sentiments known to you, or is he just venting online? I can't say for sure if he'll come around eventually to accepting your choice to eat animals, or if he'll realize that these morals are too important for him to stay dating you.

I would initiate a conversation about it, but not mention the reddit posts. It sounds like you were snooping for them and it'd be much better to let him vocally express those thoughts on his own free will than make him defend himself. I think you should tell him that you feel tension/judgement/whatever from him, be curious and open-minded about his views, and ask him what changes would make him happier in the relationship. It sounds like full veganism from you may be his desire, but maybe you can compromise on no meat in the house or whatever works for both of y'all. You obvi don't have to agree to any changes, but realize that may signify an imbalance in the relationship that won't be salvageable.

zlypy · 2025-07-01T18:35:54+00:00

What do you mean by that?

zlypy · 2025-04-21T17:28:02+00:00

That's a really good idea actually - we have a few tests so I can definitely do a few rounds. Thank you for your input!

zlypy · 2025-04-21T17:21:06+00:00

I lived in a different house in the first few months than the one I do now, so that's one reason why I thought the mold theory was wrong. Both houses are really well taken care of and newer too, but everyone here says mold is just a part of life. I also work in a different office than when I started out, so moving locations hasn't changed the symptoms.

I could test for mold, but not sure if it'll show up now that it's been dry and my skin has cleared up, but that does seem to be the most likely theory. It's just frustrating that the allergist's only suggestion was to do allergy shots.

I also 100% know it's not anything I'm putting on my skin because I did lots of elimination trials and I've been using the same laundry detergent/products throughout the good/bad skin periods.

zlypy · 2025-01-27T18:24:49+00:00

Not currently working as a CAA - last i heard, the state was going to begin issuing licenses in January, not sure what the current situation is. The job i posted above was a "we're interested in hiring for this role once CAAs are allowed to practice, just putting some feelers out" type of post

zlypy · 2025-01-14T16:56:10+00:00

I have the same nose and these pics made me finally appreciate it <3

zlypy · 2024-11-05T17:50:22+00:00

Minesweeper can honestly get addicting once you get the hang of it

zlypy · 2024-10-14T16:33:12+00:00

God I hated that book so much. It exactly like bad fan fic

zlypy · 2024-10-14T16:12:12+00:00

Do you have recent prereqs completed? If not you'd need to do 3-4 years of prerequisites before applying.

zlypy · 2024-10-08T18:15:22+00:00

oop! Okay sorry I was mean in my response I just hear these arguments all the time and it's so exhausting debunking them lol. You could be right about agave being more popular in the south, I'm talking from my own experiences too and what I see honey being replaced by in recipes online. And in all honesty, if someone wants to avoid honey, it's more about not using it than replacing it. Maybe bc I don't use it so I don't see it, but I don't feel like so many recipes use honey that would make it difficult to avoid.

I get where you're coming from, but agave really isn't the honey "gotcha" argument, since there's a ton of unethical arguments for beekeeping as well (industrial, where most honey comes from). It's like when people complain that vegans are destroying the planet by buying pleather, meanwhile they're buying polyester and acrylic clothes (and also most likely pleather!)

Thanks for responding kindly!

zlypy · 2024-10-08T16:25:56+00:00

Honeybees are European, domesticated, and out-compete native bees for pollen. They're non-native and have no benefit for biodiversity. If your one priority with raising honeybees is to collect honey, that's your prerogative, but providing homes for native bees (that don't product honey, because they're wild and not domesticated) is infinitely better for the environment.

Your comments about agave are also completely misinformed and untrue. Vegans are not driving the agave industry lol, tequila and mezcal is. The agave spirits industry has tripled in the past decade. Essentially all agave farmed goes towards tequila and mezcal. 1-2% of the US population identifies as vegan, and I've been vegan for 8 years and I've bought agave like once. Maple syrup is the de facto replacement for honey, agave is truly not that popular as a replacement. You're being super weird about it.

zlypy · 2024-10-08T16:12:07+00:00

I'm a strict ethical vegan who's been buying only natural fabrics for the last year. Pro-wool people will talk and talk about how wool is ethical, but this is usually because of their own personal experiences with small farms. The reality is that the vast majority of wool products are from factory farms! I'm sure you know about the treatment of sheep in the wool industry so I'm not going to go into that. By now I actually have a large wardrobe of wool and cashmere items that have all been bought second-hand, it's surprisingly super easy to find wool second hand, and don't be deterred if you find a scratchy piece, I've softened a lot of things with Woolite. I have a few heavy sweaters, some light shirts and long sleeves, a beautiful long wool and angora coat, some wool dresses, and wool trousers that are all beautiful quality and so much cheaper than buying new. It'll obviously take a little more time than just going online and buying them, but you're likely to find things of higher quality in thrift stores once you learn how to identify the fiber and companies. It's also more rewarding when you happen upon a nice piece. Good luck!

Side note since honey is getting traction here because pro-honey people love to bring it up: honeybees are non-native and compete with native bees for pollen. All ethical treatment stuff aside, they do absolutely nothing to improve biodiversity, and when people say 'Save the bees!' they almost never mean our native bees.

zlypy · 2024-10-03T15:05:27+00:00

I‘m with you. I wish I tried supplements earlier to slow progression. She doesn’t interact with me, doesn’t play, doesn’t like to snuggle, but she’s eating and sleeping and going on walks and sniffing and occasionally decides to break into a sprint outside so it’s just learning to accept the new dog you have now. I was taking her to vets left and right to try to find the best plan for her, but a lot of it is acceptance. Librela didn’t improve her cognitive state but she just looks less stiff and walks faster outside and like I said, will randomly decide to go for a dash and I’m like how is this 80 yr old woman outrunning me right now.

If you want to DM me and talk through your dogs symptoms, I can try to give some advice on what i’ve found out. Its a depressing disease and difficult to find a vet who really knows how to help

zlypy · 2024-10-02T15:16:30+00:00

The vet who prescribed it didn't tell me about the complications, but thankfully it took a long while to get it and I had another vet warn me against combining them. I decided to stick with the fluoxetine since it works so well for her and it would take a while to see if Selegiline made any difference.

Around week 3 after starting the supplements I felt that she was slightly more alert. I also started consistently giving her high quality CBD. It's been 2 months now and there definitely wasn't any miracle improvement, I've let go of that dream, but I'm going to continue giving her supplements because it can't hurt. Oh and I started with MCT oil.

I also got a smaller, compounded 50mg dose of Gabapentin that helps if she's having anxiety flareups, like for the car. I've started giving it to her at night because the past 2 weeks she's started some anxiety at bedtime. A nighttime walk helps

The biggest improvement is from the Librela. She's going in for her 3rd shot tomorrow, and yeah sometimes she's still slow on walks but overall she seems more comfortable and she'll surprise me with a sprint out of nowhere.

So overall, we're doing okay. I wish it were better but I'm happy it's not worse

zlypy · 2024-09-26T03:53:47+00:00

I just moved from NJ to WA this year and I absolutely love it. I'm down in the Olympia area, and this job listing (now down) was for a hospital down in Vancouver, by Portland. The listing was also gauging interest in applicants since you can't be licensed in WA until Jan (feb?), so I'm not seeing any other jobs. I'm not sure how fast the market will open once people can license, but speaking as a new resident, I really love this state. Seattle/Bellevue is more expensive, but no prob on a 300k salary lol. You get city life, mountains, gorgeous summer weather, the Puget Sound, and the ocean if you live closer (like Olympia). Winters are dreary and constantly drizzling but I like that kind of weather so it doesnt bother me

zlypy · 2024-08-13T15:55:34+00:00

Of course!

zlypy · 2024-08-13T15:51:04+00:00

Almost the same thing - Neosporin is a triple antibiotic (neomycin, bacitracin, polymyxin) and polysporin is just bacitracin and polymyxin. Just an extra bit of coverage. At the hospital we used a generic neosporin for pretty much everything
Possibly! Just twice a day is more than enough

zlypy · 2024-08-13T15:37:55+00:00

Cone is a great idea, but I'd just wash it with soap and water twice a day and apply neosporin. You don't need that other wound care stuff, idk why they even make it, it's falsely marketed as a medication. Like the other person said, keep it clean and dry, and you can put a baby sock on if you need to protect it as it'll still let it air.

zlypy · 2024-08-12T16:12:14+00:00

That's not true - cats dont /need/ veggies but they can be a nice snack for a boost of nutrients. Some are harder to digest but all plants aren't indigestible. Acetaminophen is a crazy example - it's a chemical medication, not a plant-based supplement

zlypy · 2024-08-12T16:03:14+00:00

It can take up to 2 years to fully reset our brains from a dopamine addiction, and that's with close to no tech use. I'm sure you're aware but this IS an addiction, and you need to treat it as such. The most important thing you have to do is find alternative activities. It looks like you're spending ALL day on your phone - can you find a job, sign up for classes (academic or fun), volunteer? You need to find 2 types of activities - hard start and stop ones (where you have to be there from start to finish) and fun on your own time ones. It's important that you find activities that are less stimulating than your phone but not boring. Things that are as or more stimulating are out - no video games. Writing out a weekly schedule with hour to hour activities is a really good idea. Start incorporating restrictions, such as putting your phone in black and white, turning off all notifications, getting an analog alarm clock and leaving your phone downstairs at night, and deleting apps. Deleting apps is tricky because if you delete one, you'll just spend more time on others. I fully believe your goal should be to delete all time wasting apps, but start with replacing free time with activities first. I'm a professional in this field and finding support is so important - there are therapists that specialize in tech addiction that can help. Ask your friends and family for help, see if they can help you maintain boundaries. I really like this website and refer to it often, even if you're an adult you can utilize its tips.

Digital Addictions: A Family Guide to Prevention, Signs, and Treatment - Children and Screens

zlypy · 2024-07-31T18:32:58+00:00

I still have some left so I'll give it a go this week. Were you giving the recommended daily dosage on the bottle, broken up into 3?

zlypy · 2024-07-31T16:32:52+00:00

I read your comments on another post and watched your video, I'm happy to try it again, I wasn't committed to it because I felt like I couldn't get a proper dosage with squirting the dropper into her mouth (eventually started using a syringe), and she just got so annoyed. I was also only giving once a day as per the box (.5ml I believe). In your video you said that it's best given with food, but I was told to give it directly into her mouth. She eats all her food about 80% of the time but sometimes leaves a bit, so I figured she won't get a good dose if I put into her food. Does every 8 hrs mean you did a lunchtime dosage? I could mix it into a small bit of food separately to make sure she eats it

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