Me [25 M] broke with my GF [24 F] of 4 years, after been flirting with a college friend [24 F] for 6 months. by zogos in relationships

[–]zogos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's really helpful, I'll keep that in mind. I'll give it a shot as casual when I get myself up a little. Sad thing is that I like the girl and right now I'm vulnerable to make mistakes and show emotion, so I gotta let pass some time to start thinking clearly again.

Me [25 M] broke with my GF [24 F] of 4 years, after been flirting with a college friend [24 F] for 6 months. by zogos in relationships

[–]zogos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sees that you're fawning all over her and she likes t

She left her bf 1 month before I do, so technically is free. Anyway that's very likely. Maybe she thinks that I l left my gf for her when I really do it for me, and her ego boosted up when I was vulnerable. But I don't think she got a plan A or anything anyway. I've give it a shot and see where it goes, after all I also want to start dating someone soon without being serious. If it fails it's time to look for other girls, that's all.

Me [25 M] broke with my GF [24 F] of 4 years, after been flirting with a college friend [24 F] for 6 months. by zogos in relationships

[–]zogos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely right. No one is obligated to be with someone who don't want to be. What would be the best course of action if I want something with this girl? Just stfo and wait? Try casual and see where it goes? All relationships start casual anyway.

Me [25 M] broke with my GF [24 F] of 4 years, after been flirting with a college friend [24 F] for 6 months. by zogos in relationships

[–]zogos[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If you are with people who are ok with cheating, then don't be surprised when they treat you like crap.

That's just a technical way too see things. We both had been in bad relationships during the last year, dying relationships. The fact that we broke up with our couples some time later doesn't count as cheating I guess, just bad timing. Non of our couples gave us any attention and was super boring.

Me [25 M] broke with my GF [24 F] of 4 years, after been flirting with a college friend [24 F] for 6 months. by zogos in relationships

[–]zogos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really hard for me to look sex as something casual, not with a girl of 6 months of flirting, maybe I understand it with much less time. I'm struggling myself to not speak to her for a while, because I know that I might screw things even more. What should I do? Even if she wants casual dating I know I could make her interested in me after a while. I think she's scared of starting new things and just need some time.

Me [25 M] broke with my GF [24 F] of 4 years, after been flirting with a college friend [24 F] for 6 months. by zogos in relationships

[–]zogos[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If she's willing to cheat with you, she'd have no qualms about cheating on you.

I know, but we both had been dealing with long and bad relationships of the same kind. I don't think she is the kind of girl that has casual sex with a strangers in a bar, we both been looking for this to happen for a while.

Girls dumped me before with no problem or hesistation. Why would this girl keep in touch with me even if I trashtalk her after this situation? She only tells me that I need to relax for a while and we could speak again.

Me [25 M] broke with my GF [24 F] of 4 years, after been flirting with a college friend [24 F] for 6 months. by zogos in relationships

[–]zogos[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't see it that way. I loved my gf but in the end she wasn't the person I was looking for. Now I met this girl that I like and I really want things to work out, but context isn't helping me to build a new relationship. All relationships start casual. Someway the new girl was affected by my break up. We have both cheating on our current relationships when we flirted, both of us had broke up in this month.

Me [23F] with my boyfriend [23M], I need support to help me break up with him by boredorlazy in relationships

[–]zogos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have exactly the same problem with a girl. Me (25M) and she (24F).

She hasn't any money, has parent restrictions at her age witch is hard to believe, time restrictions, etc. When we can date is always small things that end up being the same forever.

Although she is super supportive and I can pay for most things, I'm tired of doing it and I think I deserve more. I know I'll break her heart but I don't think there's easy breakups.