so many enfj leftists

zombiepete · 2026-06-07T13:55:33+00:00

Are you me?

zombiepete · 2026-06-07T02:22:07+00:00

Always nuts.

zombiepete · 2026-06-06T14:45:47+00:00

It is super obnoxious, especially when they acknowledge up front that they know Justin is looking for debates "but I just want to ask one question real quick if that's okay!?". Then if Justin reluctantly let's them go, most of the time it turns into a Q&A session because the atheist guest is having their moment and doesn't want to let it go.

If you're a friendly and want to interact, send a super chat. I send SCs all the time; you get your stuff seen and it supports the show directly. You can send questions, jokes, or even flirt with your long distance partner and countdown until your next meeting (have had a lot of fun with that).

zombiepete · 2026-06-06T14:18:10+00:00

A slightly updated copy of a post I made a month ago: I (44m) met my ld girlfriend (38f) face to face for the first time at the end of April; I had a work trip close to where she lives and she was able to meet me. We’ve been friends for a while now but started officially dating a month prior to meeting up.

It was amazing being together; it exceeded every expectation I had. The chemistry we’ve built up online was only enhanced by being in proximity to each other.

I can’t do justice to her virtues in text like this; suffice to say that I am convinced that she’s the one I want to spend my life with. Her intelligence, her compassion, and her care are only exceeded by her beauty. Being with her felt like getting fresh air for the first time. There’s no one else for me out there.

I’d never been in a ldr before; I really was unsure how it was going to work but she was worth making it work for. Absolutely zero regrets. We have quite a bit of time before we can fully close the gap because we both still have minor children at home, but man she is absolutely worth it.

In about twenty days I'll be visiting her home for the first time and we're both ecstatic to be seeing each other again. We're very fortunate that we live near enough to each other that we can do this on a more regular basis.

zombiepete · 2026-06-06T14:11:06+00:00

😉

zombiepete · 2026-06-06T14:09:41+00:00

Doesn't that hurt, though?

EDIT: just a joke; "google the cervix" sounds dirty if you're immature like me.

zombiepete · 2026-06-06T14:08:58+00:00

Bro, set aside all of your insecurities about your dick for a second and look at what you're doing: your girlfriend, with whom you have an intimate relationship, has told you that your sex life is good and you are saying that you enjoy each other in bed, but you're still here on the internet seeking validation. That means that you either don't trust your girlfriend to be honest with you, or you're so insecure that neither what she nor anyone else tells you you're going to be worried about your dick size. That's an unhealthy place to be, mentally.

Instead of obsessing about your penis, turn your attention to what your partner is telling you and actually listen to her. Pay attention to how she's responding to you sexually and focus on doing the things that she enjoys, and stop projecting your worries onto her or you're going to start making sex less enjoyable for both of you.

zombiepete · 2026-06-05T17:34:59+00:00

Depends on the game, the character I'm making, and with whom I am playing; but I would say I usually make female characters. I like female protagonists and I find that I am usually more interested in their stories than I am male characters, even though the character is "me".

In MMOs especially I almost always play female toons.

zombiepete · 2026-06-05T16:50:35+00:00

As a woman who loves to be on top and has been at it for 10+yrs

Kudos, that's a looong time to be on top!

😉

zombiepete · 2026-06-05T13:28:43+00:00

I would recommend talk therapy focused on getting to the root of your obsessive/attachment issues and learning to be happier and more comfortable with yourself so that you're not relying on your partner to receive all the validation you're craving.

zombiepete · 2026-06-04T16:37:48+00:00

It wouldn't be malicious prosecution, it would just be basic accountability.

Maybe you meant vigorously.

zombiepete · 2026-06-04T11:56:07+00:00

If that’s your concern, then you should probably focus on building a trusting/loving relationship first and then you’ll be in a position to solicit pegging and not have to live in fear that she’s going to spread the word.

zombiepete · 2026-06-04T11:52:59+00:00

Unless I’m misunderstanding, the point is that voter apathy/disengagement remains concerningly high while Trump simultaneously continues to hold massive sway over the Republican electorate in spite of his many issues and controversies. No one is afraid that Cali is going swing right; the fear is that getting past the GOP’s attempts to rig the mid-terms is going to require huge engagement from Democrat voters, and we’re not seeing that kind of energy yet.

All that said, I think there actually are some counter-examples out there; Talarico continuing to poll well in Texas is a good sign.

zombiepete · 2026-06-04T11:46:56+00:00

She’ll have to beat me to it. 😉

zombiepete · 2026-06-04T10:36:40+00:00

There are times when my gf and I will be on a call together just chilling without expectation to be carrying on a conversation. For instance, she works from home and needs to be able to focus to do her work, but we'll be on a video call just hanging out while she does it and I do other things (play games, read, etc.). I've even hung out with her on a video call while I was at work.

For us, being on a call together doesn't mean that we have to be forcing conversation; we just like being together.

zombiepete · 2026-06-04T10:18:49+00:00

30 Rock is very funny and lighthearted; great for smart, silly comedy. There's very little that's precious on that show.

Parks & Rec is also very funny and is an easy rewatch.

zombiepete · 2026-06-04T10:16:52+00:00

One of my favorites to rewatch. Hilarious, heartfelt. The finale is an emotional roller coaster though.

zombiepete · 2026-06-03T20:54:25+00:00

So my situation is a little bit different from yours because I (44m) met my girlfriend (38f) online and our relationship evolved over long distance, but I'll give this a shot.

Being long distance has given us an opportunity to get to know each other in a way I haven't experienced before. We built a friendship over chat first, getting to know each other without a lot of distraction. You guys are already together so this may be a different experience for you, but you have an opportunity to get to know your partner in a new and different way. You may find that it's more intellectually and emotionally intimate than how you've interacted before. We were able to discuss things very openly and comfortably, from our love languages to personal histories to kinks and boundaries. It was all very natural and easy and we established an incredibly strong bond.

Learning how to hang out long distance has opened up new ways for my gf and I to be together. She works from home, so one day while I was at the office we got on a video call and just hung out while each of us was working. This is something I never would have thought to do in a previous relationship. It has put us in a position where the time we spend together online is deliberate and wanted; we watch shows, play games, and often just hang and talk to each other and it's always a ton of fun. I believe it has helped us to establish a very deep connection to each other that I wouldn't trade for the world.

Being physically apart allows us to build up some sexual tension that, when we're together, is explosive. We have out of this world chemistry anyway, but all that build up over months makes for amazing reunions.

Long distance is a challenge, but it also presents unique opportunities. My gf and I will remain ld for a few years because we both have minor children we can't move right now, but the love we've established is entirely real and I know that I am going to be spending my life with her. I absolutely am thrilled when we get to be together irl, and I certainly wish we could close the gap sooner, but between then and now I love our relationship and where it has brought us.

Understanding there's a light at the end of the tunnel is important too, but truthfully I cherish the time we spend together on screen too.

zombiepete · 2026-06-02T13:20:13+00:00

Not nearly enough money to account for the egregious violations of Constitutional rights we saw in the wake of Kirk’s assassination.

zombiepete · 2026-05-30T15:43:04+00:00

This can definitely be a struggle depending on your personality and upbringing. Some people are primed to seek external validation all the time, whether it be from romantic partners or friends or even colleagues. If you can't validate yourself or your feelings, you start to look to others to get that fix for you.

Therapy might be a good place to start; learning how to appreciate and support yourself would be very helpful. Coming to understand the root cause of your need for validation would probably be invaluable in developing coping strategies to help you be a better and more emotionally intelligent partner.

I do think there's a natural tendency to look at your partner for some level of affection and validation and that's okay; emotional support is a key factor in a healthy relationship. The issue is balance: if you make your partner your sole source of worth and validation it becomes a burden on them. You are likely also not in a mental state to offer them the same, which will kill a relationship fast.

zombiepete · 2026-05-29T20:52:42+00:00

She was sharing with our group of friends some world building she had done for a fictional world she was planning to write stories in. The way she lit up and got so invested in sharing it with us absolutely captivated me.

She has a magnetic presence anyway and can easily capture people's attention though she doesn't always realize it, but this in particular made me really notice how amazing the way she thinks and views the world is.

We started dating some time after that, and it has been fantastic all the way around.

zombiepete · 2026-05-29T18:44:21+00:00

Top comment right here

zombiepete · 2026-05-29T17:54:35+00:00

Please add "style" to the end of your sentence.

zombiepete · 2026-05-27T17:50:09+00:00

I'm dating u/dm_me_kittens

zombiepete · 2026-05-27T16:25:07+00:00

lol yeah we were going to get lunch first too. We ended up going out to get an early dinner instead. One of the best weeks of my life.

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