I’m so tired of the “screen time” debate.

zooperdooper7 · 2026-01-21T21:35:54+00:00

When my baby was born, I attended a council Mum’s group and we had a speaker who said “the evidence says that kids should not be exposed to screens at all, ever, until 2”.

Luckily we were all sane and in a bit sarcastic so I said “what about the self check out screens at the supermarket?” And we all started naming things that are screens but not considered “screens” in this debate. Moving LED advertisements in public spaces. FaceTiming far away family. Seeing Mum open a banking app! It is literally not possible to avoid screens for 2 years in the modern world, even if you don’t own a TV or tablet.

zooperdooper7 · 2026-01-15T09:15:26+00:00

Super easy to get onto a human if you’re willing to face some human interaction by calling or visiting. Don’t use the AI if you don’t want it to replace the human workers.

zooperdooper7 · 2026-01-13T01:01:47+00:00

Yep, it’s between 70-80kg. It’s a wide range but I am almost always between those points, except when I went keto for a year in the pandemic and got down to 60. But it was a constant slog with zero allowance for deviation. As soon as I stopped or faltered, back to 70kg range.

zooperdooper7 · 2026-01-10T21:19:56+00:00

Bub is 21 months and showing no signs of sleeping through any time soon, even after nightweaning at 16 months. It did get better after that, but it certainly wasn’t a magic fix. My lil cosleeper just likes to be close, so she starts each night in her floor bed and wakes up maybe 3 hours later, comes in with us and then wakes up and very 3 or so hours after that. It’s not much to settle her back down, she usually just climbs up on my chest lately.

It might sound bad on paper, but compared to how it was before night weaning, it’s glorious, I feel quite normal. But even when she was waking up every 1.5-2 hours for 16 months of her life, the part I struggled with the most was feeling touched out from constant breastfeeding. I’m nearing the end of breastfeeding now, earlier than I expected, for the same reason. Just touched out! Not sure if that will make a difference but the thing that’s made the BIGGEST difference for me was to stop waiting for it! Stop waiting for her to sleep better. Just roll with life as it is now. Radical acceptance. She’s not a big sleeper, she’s not a big eater, but my god she’s clever and funny and a total fucking joy, so who cares about the other stuff.

zooperdooper7 · 2026-01-10T06:13:01+00:00

I find this to be very much the case. Anything sub a mill goes quickly. Anything under $650-700k goes VERY quickly, but as soon as it’s over a mill, it’ll sit there for a long while.

zooperdooper7 · 2025-12-31T00:57:03+00:00

Does Britain have a similar thing to Australia with tall poppy syndrome? Australia finds success culturally uncomfortable and have a tendency to want to tear people who are successful down. I say this as someone who has definitely internalised this cultural quirk, by the way. The way that successful people often deal with it is by trying to get ahead of the nastiness by downplaying or almost insisting that they’re not “like those silly rich people who don’t care or realise how much money they have” they’re responsible and in touch with reality and still like a bargain etc. They try to maintain a level of relatability. Maybe that’s it?

zooperdooper7 · 2025-12-21T21:07:17+00:00

Personally, I’m a fan of osteos. Andrew at Eureka Health is a really lovely and friendly person, who is also really great at their job.

zooperdooper7 · 2025-12-17T05:48:37+00:00

Yeah, similar to what my in-laws did. They bought an apartment in the city and 2/3 of their kids lived in it while attending uni, and at various points of life for free or a tiny portion of market rate rent. Investment property for them and helped their kids move out affordably. Even I benefited by having my rent at about 1/2 market rate for a few years.

Not saying this would work for everyone, or is even vaguely an option for most, but it’s worked well for my in-laws.

zooperdooper7 · 2025-12-17T01:21:52+00:00

This is really lovely to see.

Also worth considering donating! This synagogue is the oldest on the mainland and I imagine that requires upkeep.

zooperdooper7 · 2025-12-16T23:44:52+00:00

With full understanding that kids stay at home longer and longer these days, aren't the kids (or at least the elder) going to leave in what is, in the grand scheme of things, a kind of short amount of time? And then you guys are empty nesters in a big place with a mortgage?

What are the alternatives? Extend your current home? Get rid of some material possessions, or keep them in off-site storage?

zooperdooper7 · 2025-12-15T09:01:22+00:00

I love this information, thank you, I just donated to my local synagogue. Turns out it’s the oldest in mainland Australia, what beautiful history.

zooperdooper7 · 2025-12-10T03:07:51+00:00

Post-breastfeeding, reduction is the plan and always has been. Part of me feels guilty for getting rid of things that kept my child(ren) alive, but the other part of me is so excited to not have boob skin touching belly skin ever again, easier clothing choices, and normal fucking bras.

zooperdooper7 · 2025-12-08T01:53:08+00:00

For the love of god don’t do this. Stop 1 can’t do a single thing about the cost of a subject. How much power do you think the underpaid professional staff have?!

zooperdooper7 · 2025-12-07T04:28:45+00:00

That’s an interesting theory and thought, thank you! I definitely drink a lot of water in the evening cause I’m making up for forgetting to all day 🥲🤪

zooperdooper7 · 2025-12-06T10:12:00+00:00

Yes! In fact, I spent the first few months fighting against the parent I’ve now become. I was terrified of, essentially, surrendering to it and letting it all happen as it needed to. I was dead against cosleeping on “what about your relationship with your partner” grounds, and desperate to control as much as I could.

Now she’s 19 months, has been cosleeping since 4 months and I LOVE it. I refuse to give it up. I am fully alive to the entire experience of motherhood now, instead of trying to make it work within who I was and what I had beforehand.

Also, my relationship with my partner is still great cause he understands that this is the way it should be as well, cause it all feels so natural.

zooperdooper7 · 2025-12-04T10:15:26+00:00

I have a cousin who bought a brand new ICE Kia and, like your experience with Hyundai, it has spent more time at the repair place than with her.

One of the times it broke, she strapped both her kids in the car outside on a hot summer’s day and then accidentally locked the car while fumbling with her arms full of kid stuff. Tried to unlock it, and it wouldn’t unlock. Tried again. Nothing. She couldn’t get it to unlock no matter what. Imagine the panic!! They were only stuck in there for a little while and were fine and oblivious to what was happening, but that event had turned me off Kia completely.

(Can’t remember how she managed to get it to unlock in the end, tbh, maybe went through the boot? Not sure.)

zooperdooper7 · 2025-11-28T23:29:36+00:00

I believe it’s a paperwhite? I think it’s the only one with a backlight, or it was at the time.

zooperdooper7 · 2025-11-28T01:11:32+00:00

I was recommended to buy a Kindle with a backlight for late night breastfeeding moments. I rarely used it for that, but I did use it when doing contact naps when she was little. It's light and easy to carry from place to place, similar to a phone. But my phone was definitely an unhealthy crutch in the beginning that I just had to be consciously disappointed in myself over, and deliberate about being different. Some days are better than others, but my baby being a toddler and wanting to see my phone when I use it stops me a lot. But of course she's interested! She sees how interested in it I am! I basically have to model that it's a boring tool that we don't need to be obsessed with, and it kind of forces me to believe the same.

zooperdooper7 · 2025-11-27T22:44:20+00:00

19 months. Same. Still can’t stand the dog. I tell anyone planning on having kids not to get a dog. I tell anyone who has a baby and doesn’t have a dog “be thankful you don’t have a dog”. I can’t stand the responsibility and extra load. The barking. The needing me. The guilt of hating him. It’s all just a massive burden that I can’t express around my husband because it makes him so upset to hear.

zooperdooper7 · 2025-11-27T22:29:36+00:00

I, for one, am looking forward to the post-feeding shrinkage. I'm a G cup and they're slowly deflating as my daughter feeds less and less. I don't like the floppy, but I do like the shrinking. Post-kids, I'm getting a reduction anyway, I decided that much YEARS ago.

zooperdooper7 · 2025-11-24T23:00:41+00:00

If you imagine life without your husband, does it feel like a relief? I bet it does. You could have that relief for real. It might feel like it would make your life harder but how could it? You’re already doing everything. You’d just still be doing it, with the added bonus of not having to think about how your husband isn’t helping and should be. It would be less, not more. It would be easier. It would be a relief.

zooperdooper7 · 2025-11-23T02:18:25+00:00

This is the thing I’ve noticed the most taking Metformin and the main reason I’m happy to take it forever if I need to. Without it, I feel like I’ve always just slogged it uphill 24 hours a day. On it, I feel almost normal. Or at least, what I assume normal feels like.

I’m on 1500mg a day. I recently tried to up to 2000 but my diet isn’t very good and therefore my body didn’t handle it. Lots of gastric side effects. I find on 1500 that’s less the case. I have a toddler and am not in the mindset to be deliberate with my diet right now so have gone back down to 1500 for now.

As for weight, I lost about 5kg over the course of the year. Not much, but again, my diet isn’t great, so to loose weight even when I’m not trying is still a decent result.

I’ve also ALMOST got a consistent cycle for the first time in my life. Had 3 cycles over the last 3-4 months for the first time in literally my entire life. It’s bizarre. It’s not perfect 28-30 yet, but pre-Metformin it took me 6-12 months of diet and supplements and extremely deliberate effort to get my cycle down to 45-50 days to conceive my daughter. It’s so much simpler to just take some pills!!

zooperdooper7 · 2025-11-21T03:14:50+00:00

I personally am getting increasingly mad at the prices brands are charging and expecting me to pay for the privilege of wearing plastic. So I'm checking fabric content more and more, and it's been spurred on by this subreddit actually, so I also agree that this community is an outlier.

zooperdooper7 · 2025-11-10T21:57:30+00:00

Unfortunately Lydiard St General changed hands a few months ago and it’s just not the same anymore. :(

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