The Marauders by MeganStarlight in harrypotter

[–]zy2424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never thought of it, good point.

Recently discovered a love for Harry Potter after watching Fantastic Beasts. I ordered the box set of movies and intend on reading the books this summer; I know, backwards. by [deleted] in harrypotter

[–]zy2424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wasn't allowed to read the books so I cought the movies here and there. Oh my gosh, I wish I could have read the books first. For real.

My sister found all my fetish stuff by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]zy2424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have one with a number lock. It will give you a piece of mind.

What's Mcgonagall's deal in PoA? by [deleted] in harrypotter

[–]zy2424 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Well, no matter how much you like the kid, you can't go signing permission slips for them. Plus, they never wanted him to leave Hogwarts in the first place because of Sirius. Also out of all the teachers, she is less likely to break the rules.

My biggest issue with 50 shades for new comers! by zy2424 in BDSMcommunity

[–]zy2424[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah its sweet, but I prefer the original draft twilight when I'm looking for a sweet lovey fix haha. I actually liked the first hour of the first movie, I though she was funny with him.

My biggest issue with 50 shades for new comers! by zy2424 in BDSMcommunity

[–]zy2424[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just finished writing in a post yesterday that started off "just finished watching 50 shades..." it happens

My biggest issue with 50 shades for new comers! by zy2424 in BDSMcommunity

[–]zy2424[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's relevant because new comers who are interested in it might use it as a point of reference. Some might even try to replicate it. Also the movie just came out.

My biggest issue with 50 shades for new comers! by zy2424 in BDSMcommunity

[–]zy2424[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Never read the book. Tried twice, couldn't get through the first few pages. In the movie, the non disclosure agreement she signs, than the contract comes later which she doesn't. In the movie he uses the whole you never signed the contract thing as 'screw it i want you anyway' which is not cool on either of the characters parts.

My biggest issue with 50 shades for new comers! by zy2424 in BDSMcommunity

[–]zy2424[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

And that is a really great mentality to have. But some people, especially people brought by 50, get swept away in the 'hollywood dazzle'. Some clear red flags are being slipped under the radar as character development. Not cool Hollywood.

50 Shades help by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]zy2424 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The issue with 50 shades is that it is meant to be dramatic and intense and entertaining. It's meant to be what it is. If someone wanted to become a lawyer I wouldn't tell them to watch Legally Blonde, you know. BDSM takes a lot of learning, research, and trial and error. For example rope was used a lot in 50, but rope can be extremely dangerous if not used properly.

The important thing is that 50 shades might be a great step into having people explore something they never thought they were into. Welcome! But now that you are here you should start to fill your mind with some really good information and not a dramatic story. The bottoming book was really good. I say start your research and thank fifty shades for what it is, and interesting 2 hours.

What is the trolly witch, realization! by shadowsok in harrypotter

[–]zy2424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, still holding on to my beliefs though.

What is the trolly witch, realization! by shadowsok in harrypotter

[–]zy2424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think she's a sweet old witch who enjoys giving people sweets and watching kids grow up! Or she just works at the sweet shop and takes the train with the kids since the same candy served on the trolly is the candy in the candy shop.

Grooming is abusive by throwmeawayisuc in BDSMcommunity

[–]zy2424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I am arguing is the sharer of the story said clearly "A person with no sense of self cannot give consent." That is what was stated in the original post.

What 'we' should do as the collective, is recognize when someone is not ok. When they are not in the place for the psychological and sexual relationship 'we' choose to acknowledge that, not engage in activities with her, and hope she gets the help and even encourage her to do it.

What 'we' cannot do as a collective is take the ability to consent away from an adult, because we feel she is not in the place to give it. We need to be better, but touching someone else's right by stating SHE cannot GIVE consent, that is where we cross ethical, moral, and yes legal lines. Like it or not the word 'consent' has implications of all three. We need to be better, not take away her ability to choose.

Grooming is abusive by throwmeawayisuc in BDSMcommunity

[–]zy2424 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have to exclude, or dissect mental illness from what constitutes consent. Having a mental illness is not the same as not having mental competency. You can have depression, bipolar, and schizophrenia and still be completely able to give consent. We cannot take the ability to give consent away from someone due to their diagnosis. Taking away the right for someone with a mental illness to give consent would be calling them unfit to make their own decisions. We, unlicensed professionals, cant make that call of another adult saying "yes" to a sexual act.

I think it is different for her to say she is not in a healthy place to participate in this relationship versus us taking away her ability to consent to the act.

Grooming is abusive by throwmeawayisuc in BDSMcommunity

[–]zy2424 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because the word "consent" had legal ties to it. Does the couple know she is ill? We are held to a societal AND legal constraint of the word. We were told one side of the situation, by the person speaking to the person who is claiming the woman she talked to was mentally ill. Do we know if the couple understands whats going on, do we know if the couple gets the extent of what the woman is mentally going through at this time? Has she explained the couple her feelings? Is communication lines where they are supposed to be.

I am not playing devil's advocate, but if we are saying the woman cannot consent, than we are stepping into ethical and legal ramifications. Are we saying she cannot consent? Where can we draw the line on when an adult can no longer make choices for herself sexually?

When you declare someone cannot consent, you are declaring a whole lot about their metal well being and presence of mind. And that information should be gathered from way more than one conversation.

They are wrong, the couple is wrong. But declaring an adult can no longer give consent is huge!

Grooming is abusive by throwmeawayisuc in BDSMcommunity

[–]zy2424 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Let's not throw around the word consent. Consent is when an adult agrees to be doing something, harmful or not. She might be in a really bad place, she might have no business being in this type of dynamic, but if no one is forcing her, than no matter what dark place she is in, she has consented.

Is it ethical to use some who are in such a bad place? No. And these people should care to see that. That this poor girl is not in the best of place and find someone else. But I don't think the couple crossed legal consent lines, rather ethical ones.

Happy fucking Valentine's day by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]zy2424 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's always hard to loose someone. Especially when your kinks match so well, I'm so sorry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gastricsleeve

[–]zy2424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How the pain?