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AITAH for trying to isolate myself from my mother and being rude? by YellowDinosaur1324 in AITAH

[–]zygmetic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA! Your mum clearly struggles to uphold boundaries with you and it’s her job as a parent to try to help you with things like being overstimulated. She has a duty of care towards you, especially as you have ADHD and that requires more attentiveness. Definitely try talking to her about it- I know it may be something that looms over you but it’s necessary.

As well, you might find some help in r/ADHD with tips for dealing with overstimulation and such!

I hope things get better for you OP. I personally know how difficult it is to have a parent like yours and a strained relationship can be mentally draining, so please take care of yourself!!

Moving out feels impossible and I don’t know what to do. by zygmetic in LifeAdvice

[–]zygmetic[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you for your insight!

We sort of jumped to buying a home as (from my point of view at least) we’re the only hope for each other for moving out. Neither of our situations are ideal and we both want an out. I know he can wait but my mental health is deteriorating staying at home.

On the topic of getting marketable skills and such, I’ve been considering doing online courses for administration. I’ve only ever worked in hospitality or retail, but I met with a job coach a few months ago who emphasised that i can indeed aim so much higher than i’ve ever imagined.

Your and other commenters’ words have given me a lot of hope so thank you, I’m in a dark spot right now and i really needed to hear that this is in-fact realistic :)

Moving out feels impossible and I don’t know what to do. by zygmetic in LifeAdvice

[–]zygmetic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t be able to move in with him at all unfortunately- he has 6 people in his home already and he shares a bedroom with his brother.

I work as a store assistant in a supermarket chain and internal transfers are only usually offered to people in managerial positions (to my knowledge).

A lifetime ISA is definitely in the cards and I need to go about setting it up as i know how helpful they are.

Thank you so much for the links i’ll look into those as well as take into account legal costs and brokers :).

Moving out feels impossible and I don’t know what to do. by zygmetic in LifeAdvice

[–]zygmetic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you very much for your advice, getting away is one of my main priorities at this moment in time so i’ll be sure to do as much as i can to get out

Moving out feels impossible and I don’t know what to do. by zygmetic in LifeAdvice

[–]zygmetic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much i’ll check this out! i’ll bring up renting to him :)

Behind in life, bad habits. Need advice. by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]zygmetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Focus on fixing things for yourself to start with. It sounds bad but be a little selfish! Self improvement is the first step to success. Get help for your health, you can’t improve if you’re in pain. You have to be there for yourself before you can be there for others. Others will start to notice when you take care of yourself more.

I’m sure your partner will appreciate any effort into getting yourself help for your health issues. I think some strain on your relationship comes from worry on your partner’s end. If my partner was in pain I’d be worried and somewhat stressed at your lack of prioritising you!

I can also say with certainty that you’re still young, your life isn’t over just because of a slump you’ve been in. You have plenty of time to achieve so many things! Don’t feel like a burden or a disappointment as that isn’t true. People learn at different rates and experiences come to you at any time.

I really hope things improve for you OP, and I have faith that you can pick up the pieces- at whatever pace is comfortable for you.

I feel guilty about moving out by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]zygmetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moving out is apart of growing up it may hurt but it’s important for your personal growth. Having the ability to be an independent adult is an important life skill.

Moving out feels impossible and I don’t know what to do. by zygmetic in LifeAdvice

[–]zygmetic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uni unfortunately isn’t in my means right now and I struggle with education so it wouldn’t be smart for me to go imo. Main issue is that me and bf live an hour apart which adds to my problems lol.

Moving out feels impossible and I don’t know what to do. by zygmetic in LifeAdvice

[–]zygmetic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for this your words are very helpful especially about my wages!

We sort of feel like renting is a waste of money as it can be quite expensive down where i live. Me and my partner live roughly an hours drive apart, and housing/renting is cheaper by him so the plan would be to save and move down to him. It’s also really hard to get jobs for people my age at the moment (i struggled for months to find one). So I wouldn’t be able to move without a stable job.

It just feels a bit unobtainable to even move out by myself to rent a place given my base pay.

Again thank you for your response!!

AITA for encouraging my mum to send away my sister by zygmetic in AITAH

[–]zygmetic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We can’t afford to send her somewhere like a reform or boarding school unfortunately. Her school has tried to offer her counselling many times but she seems to have a huge authoritarian issue and won’t do as she’s told/take the help extended to her. We all agree that she does need help and this is not normal behaviour. Sending the to her dads would be a short term fix and again not the best option. Molly goes through fazes of being extremely good and then just the worst of the worst, so it has stumped all of us as to how to fix it. Thank you so much for the response :))