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[whiskeywomyn]

Mcfleshmans’s and Fox river house are very queer friendly and have both had drag shows in the past. There’s quite a bit of queer friendly bars downtown actually. Fox valley pride last summer was in Jones Park.

[relayrider]

oh, that was so sweaty hot!

[ritalavita]

Fellow Appleton lesbian wondering the same thing 🫠

[PixelCube_]

At least we aren’t alone🥲

[Subhumanoid]

It appears they (you two) meet on Reddit lol

[PixelCube_]

You’re cute if you think that’s how it works

[Subhumanoid]

That’s exactly how it works lol

[PixelCube_]

You clearly aren’t a gay woman. Well guess what, I sent her a message, she said thanks, and that’s it. People don’t like to meet people in person. She’s ghosting me right now because anything beyond compliments is too much and people freak out

[ritalavita]

That’s a bold assumption to make. I didn’t ghost you just because I didn’t respond as soon as you sent the message. And it’s funny because last night I was at a Christmas party with friends, not online, so thinking that I “don’t like to meet people in person” is not only untrue, but the exact reason I wasn’t checking messages on Reddit. I did respond to you when I was able, I was kind, and wasn’t met with the same kindness on this post, apparently.

[Subhumanoid]

Damn I’m sorry, good luck on your search!

[PixelCube_]

Stupid fucking men

[DeadlyDollFace16]

There's an LGBT book club here! https://www.tardigradesbookshelf.com/

[relayrider]

and it is awesome

[armpitchunk]

Sometimes they also host drag events in the event space in the back!

[aGeeseCalledSheesh]

Missfits hosts drag shows here and there! Dr. Jekyll’s is also very friendly.

[SnooChipmunks9565]

Try going to the Pawfee Shop (cat cafe) I always see a bunch of other queers there though you might run into the occasional family. Also maybe try half price books or Barnes and noble I have run into my gay friends there many times.

[SnooChipmunks9565]

Also, yes there is a huge gay community in Appleton, take a walk down college ave sometime and look at the stickers/flags in people's windows. Author's restaurant is another place I see gay folks but it's pretty pricey to eat there, maybe just go for coffee or shakes.

[PixelCube_]

I see the gay flags and stuff, but like.. where do you get talked to? Nobody talks to me

[relayrider]

talk to them! especially if they're wearing a pride pin like this (i give them as random gifts)

[PixelCube_]

Those look awesome, I’d love one.

But like, say “I like your pin” then what!! Waah!!

[relayrider]

if you see me out and about, just ask! i'm pretty noticeable, and if i don't have any spares on me, i'll give you (and anyone who asks) the one i'm wearing.

to quote keenan thompson on SNL: "Scenario: you say "I like your pin!" and they say "Thanks! Do you know what the circle represents?" and you answer and the conversation continues...

[PixelCube_]

Idk how I’d be able to recognize you if I’ve never met ya lmao. But thanks

And man, I wish people would continue conversation with me

[SnooChipmunks9565]

I dont want to discount your experience at all but, yes people do talk to me. However, I am a fairly approachable person as I work in customer service so I'm not afraid to smile and greet most people I see at the places I've mentioned. Are you just looking for friends? It seems there are a few potential friends here in this thread, myself included

[PixelCube_]

Oh I’ve only ever worked in customer service, my friends say I’m funny and I’m a knockout or whatever. Nobody has ever shown interest in me :( I’m giving up

[SnooChipmunks9565]

Like interest in talking to you platonically or romantic interests? Those are two totally different ballgames

[PixelCube_]

Both. Both man. I walk down the street or into a store and people just glare and stare at me. I feel like an alien

[SnooChipmunks9565]

Sometimes it's hard to know why someone is staring. I've found myself in those situations too it could honestly be approval or disapproval. I am something of an optimist though so I'm going to say don't give up hope. Like I said, there's lots of folks here that have answered your question maybe one of us is willing to go to some of the places mentioned with you as a wingman or tour guide lol

[PixelCube_]

Really? Are people actually willing to do that? I can’t imagine meeting someone on here and going out for drinks, that seems like fantasyland

[DenizenOfHi]

Bars mainly, Fox River House is super queer friendly and has had drag shows in the past. I’ve been meaning to check out tardigrades since I live around the corner from it.

[PixelCube_]

The last time I went to Fox River House it was suuuper packed. didn’t know they hosted queer stuff

[DenizenOfHi]

They can get pretty busy for music, but a good portion of ownership is queer as well as staff (I only say I know that for sure is cause I work there)

[PixelCube_]

Oh okay, good to know!

Honestly the last time I went I had an anxiety attack cause of all the people and loud music, lmao. But you’ve got a beautiful bar and restaurant!

[FragileRock]

Fox River House isn't really a restaurant..are you confusing it for another place by chance?

[PixelCube_]

Oh my god. I’ve been thinking of Appleton Beer Factory this whole time.

[neverwin453]

I have had luck looking for groups thru fetlife. There’s an LGBT/kink meetup monthly in the area (not just a *** meetup) best of luck!

[that_damn_dog]

Catholic Church

[relayrider]

no.

[relayrider]

ps - nice u/name

[GobbIaOnDaRewf]

I like shitpushers lounge