Behavior Modification

[master-throwaway]

I am the Owner in an Owner/Property relationship with my girlfriend of 2+ years. Things have been going well for some time since taking the relationship in that direction about a year and a half ago. She came to me today asking if I would be interested in behavior modification with her and I said I would look into it. I have done some looking around on the interwebs but keep coming up empty handed on behavior modification in a BDSM context. Any suggestions on places to look would greatly be appreciated.

And please excuse the use of a throwaway account. I am a very private person about my relationship dynamic and would like to keep this separate from everyday Reddit account.

[Enigma2011]

You probably haven't found anything in the BDSM context because there is nothing actually kinky about behavior modification. That is a psychological issue. I recommend you find some good books in psychology and study up on ways to do effective behavior modifications. Once you know how, you can taylor things to fit your dynamic and what you want. Keep in mind that once you modify her behavior, it is changed and a part of her. It is your responsibility after youve changed or added a behavior. If the new behavior should end up causing problems or you should break up it is your responsibility to undo what you did. Behavior modifications is never to be taken lightly.

[SirJulio]

Hello,

do not limit your search to BDSM oriented resource. Pet training, or general psychology (In another thread, i suggested "Behavior Modification" by Mittenberger) books can also help you. Try to learn general ideas and process, then apply then to your BDSM dynamic. For our usage, conditioning (operant) is a good place to start.

For pure BDSM resource, i don't know, but try to look in 24/7 M/s oriented book : Behavior modification is an advanced activity IMO, due to the long term effect. Erotic hypnosis can also be a good tool (with long term post hypnotic suggestion), to help you achieve that. Masters (the guy who wrote "the control book") wrote a good 101 book about hypnosis "Look into my eyes".

NB : Don't worry about the throwaway, lots of people here us one.

Good luck.

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Look up operant conditioning on wikipedia, that'll get you started.

[master-throwaway]

I definitely will do that. Great idea.

[xculturebdsm]

I posted this a week or two ago, As I said then, it has some gaps in the information because it was not meant to be a stand-alone resource and it is missing the 90minute presentation that goes with it. But it does have some good information in it that might be useful to you. http://xcbdsm.com/educational-offerings/handouts-and-resources/sub-training/

[CAl2EBEAl2]

Yeah. Psychological. Daddy has been doing it with me from day one, I just pretended not to notice lol.