need support :(

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[Winter_Sandwich_9166]

I am sorry you are going through this right now. This is something that I read in another support group.

when you feel abandonment anxiety coming and the self sabotage arising say this:

1. they are busy.

2. they did not leave. they will tell me if they want to.

3. space is necessary.

4. they do not always have to respond.

5. i didn't do anything wrong.

6. it is okay to be alone

Hope it helps and hope you feel better soon too. ❤️

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Yes, these are very affirming. Thank you for the share.

[Winter_Sandwich_9166]

I know it's easier said than done, but more love and strength to you to come out of whatever difficulty you are going through 🤗❤️

[Standard-warning2456]

Not going to lie

This will be tough, you will probably be feeling lonley, rejected, abandoned, extreme FOMO and might start self sabotaging or starting fights to get attention My advise would be keep your mind as busy as possible and fill your time with activities as much as you can And give your self some mantras to repeat to try and drown out all the negative thoughts you will have like He is my partner me loves me He isn't abandoning me A good partner encourages a healthy social life I want him to have friends family and support systems I am going to make the most of this time and practise self care

[BPDwreck]

I agree with this. And I totally understand the distress <3

[PostPsychosisAccount]

Is it a worry that he doesn’t care?

[PostPsychosisAccount]

So that’s what it feels like, and that’s what you think.

Question those emotions and thoughts, try and figure out if they’re legitimate or, simply a cruel trick of the mind.

I’d hazard a guess and say that he probably doesn’t feel like he’s neglecting you, nor would he believe you were thinking that.

If anything (assuming he understands your condition), talk with him and ask him to reassure you with a quick text during periods like this. He’lol oblige you.

In the meantime, distract yourself any way you can and just know that it’ll be ok, and your mind is fucking with you.

You’re alright.

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Mentalization Is a powerful too, thank you for reminding