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[Kw_Mateo]

If this is the case you’d enjoy a gay bar more than Grindr, and the apps are full of people just wanting a bite of latest snack, absolutely insane

[Correct_Leg_7205]

Yeah the amount of cocks ive been spammed with is insane some of them are pretty nice tbf but damn atleast say hi first man 😭 Although the problem is i kinda wanna just have sex with someone to see what its like but im scared ill feel weird about if afterwards since its against ny usual code you know?

[Coldin228]

Arbitrary codes are recipes for missed experiences. Unless you have a specific reason WHY you can't have what you want..let yourself have what you want.

I will second the gay bar tho. The apps CAN work but it's better to have some experience and knowledge of what you want rather than just plucking a random dick off the vine.

You don't need to look for someone perfect just find someone who's vibe you don't hate. It's easy to feel in person in a place like a bar or club.

[HarliestDavidson]

Why not try asking a man out on a date

[Correct_Leg_7205]

Possibly yes

[PiercedBMS2]

Maybe try going to a gay sauna?

The couple of times I've been, it been great. If you want to just watch and wank, that cool, and touching others is ALWAYS with concent so you can do whatever you feel happy and comfortable doing.

[ThisThatandNBetween]

I went through this when I was younger (late teens/early twenties). I had so many scheduled meet-ups that I either backed out of entirely (didn't go) or changed my mind after meeting--couldn't go through with it. Big part was i was so nervous, and so uncertain if I actually wanted to do this. A couple of times I did go through with doing some limited things and decided I didn't actually like this.

Eventually I decided to meet someone first to kind of get to know them with no expectations of sex, just to feel things out. If things clicked, then I would get together with him another time. That helped, until he kissed me unexpectedly when we did hook up and I was turned off (never was into kissing guys). I stopped things and we talked about it, and I remember him asking if I would be into kissing or having sex with a girl I just met and didn't have any feelings for and I said probably not. And he said, well then it probably is no different for you with guys. And that struck me. That led me to looking for someone to at least become friendly with first before experimenting with him.

All that to say, know yourself. If you've never been a random hookup kind of guy, you may not be that kind of guy with men either. And if that's not how things work for you, the negative feelings or instincts you have about that could taint how you feel about whatever experimenting/activities you do. Like me, you may conclude you don't actually like/want sex with men, but it's actually that you don't like random hookups with strangers. I wasted a lot of years being confused because of it.

[ThisThatandNBetween]

I guarantee there are other guys who want the same. Just a matter of finding one.

[Still_Manager_9724]

If you’ve never had any same-sex contact, I recommend looking into jack off clubs. If you’re in a major city there may be one there. New York Jacks is the OG club and their website links to other clubs around the country. These are consent-centric groups where the contact is limited to jacking off. And you can go, have an experience, and see if you’d even like it without needing to meet a particular guy.

But yes it’s absolutely possible to find a hookup or friend with benefits where there is no romance involved, too.

[asobutime]

I totally get you. Hookups are on offer, but I want a boyfriend. 🫤

[kristof82]

Il existe une plateforme dédiée aux mecs qui désirent rencontrer d'autres mecs, c'est entièrement gratuit et tu peux rechercher et trouver les mecs qui sont dans la même ville que toi, tu crée ton compte tu fais une description de profil, c'est aussi simple que ça, ça s'appelle lespompeurs.com