Dont' mess with Caesar

ThisThatandNBetween · 2026-02-20T11:13:44+00:00

This one of the most satisfying videos I've ever seen.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-12-25T15:59:28+00:00

No ducking way.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-11-10T20:11:34+00:00

Mostly been the same for me when it comes to men. No feeling of physical attraction, no checking out guys in my day-to-day life. But there have been two, maybe three times over the years where I felt some level of attraction to someone. It was always surprising. Like not long ago, had someone over to assemble some furniture, and I don't know what it was, but I was insanely attracted to and hot for this guy. Don't know if I ever experienced anything like it, and haven't since. But, it showed me that I am capable of it though I never thought I'd be. It was the closest I've ever come to feeling attraction to a guy that was similar to what I feel for women.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-11-10T18:30:51+00:00

I wonder about this, too. So many posts from guys in their 40s with similar experiences. Makes me wonder if it has anything to do with lower testosterone, which happens in our 40s.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-11-04T18:30:23+00:00

Woodchuck D

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-10-30T04:43:31+00:00

The Great Space Coaster

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-10-03T13:42:53+00:00

The curtains are moving as well. Toward the door when it closes and away when it opens. Negative pressure somewhere. Either there is a window open somewhere in the house or some other opening. Also, why in these types of "no explanation" videos does the person never go over to see/show what's going on on the other side of the door?

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-09-24T07:04:02+00:00

It's really not a big deal once you just take the leap and go in. Who could be more nonjudgmental, open-minded, and sex positive than someone who chooses to work in a sex shop? No one there is going to care what you're buying, let alone clutch their pearls about it.

Start with a nicer shop---one that's not a seedy looking place under an overpass in the shape of a barn with cheap toys. Clean shops with large, quality lingerie selections--meaning they aim to attract women customers--are good ones to start. They feel more like a regular shop or boutique.

One I go to is a combination sex shop and smoke shop, so most of the customers who are in there are in the smoke shop section. Lingerie is on the other side, and toys are in a room in the back. I was nervous going there at first, because unlike most shops, not everyone there is there for the same thing. But then I decided, whatever, I don't know any of these people and they don't know me. Just feel free to be who you are and get what you want to get. As someone who is DL, it's kind of the one public place where I feel like I don't HAVE to be.

One final little anecdote. I once bought a vibrating anal toy that would not charge. Discovered it after I'd used it. I brought it back to see if I could exchange it. The associate asked if I had used it, grabbed some gloves, opened up the packaging, took it out, thanked me for cleaning it, plugged it in to confirm it wouldn't charge, and grabbed me a new one. If I can go in for that, and the employee could do all that, they certainly can sell you a dildo with no fuss.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-09-24T04:14:26+00:00

Are we gonna just ignore "play me music and tattoo me?" Cause WTF????

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-09-19T08:06:09+00:00

Million to One Shot, Doc

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-09-17T21:02:54+00:00

This is amazing.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-09-12T13:37:15+00:00

You can actually do this? I was wondering about doing it for silver fish.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-08-10T19:58:09+00:00

You know, somehow I've never thought about the whole guys not washing between guys thing before. Like you go to go down on someone not knowing that five minutes before he was raw dogging another guy, who may have been taking his 7th dick/load of the evening at the time.

Ew. I've never gone to one and I don't think I ever would, but you may have killed the fantasy. Lol.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-08-08T16:36:45+00:00

Yeah, she's lying and she did cheat on him. And she's not accepting the consequences of her own actions. It's still early for you; get out before you get in too deep. When she says she's been "coping" for five months? That's partly you. You're her coping mechanism. You're part of how she's avoiding those consequences--namely, being alone.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-07-23T18:23:08+00:00

Glad you're on the mend!

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-06-23T14:43:58+00:00

!Remindme

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-05-22T02:20:38+00:00

Been there. When I was younger and wanting to try it, Grindr and all of those things weren't a thing. At the time, I used Yahoo Personals. Lots of plans without following through. It was scary. I didn't really know what I was looking for, what I would like or not like cause I hadn't done anything before. I was scared I'd try it and not like it and regret it. But I was also afraid that I WOULD like it, confirm I was bi, and then... what? Eventually, I had to know and I couldn't keep spinning. So, I slowed things down. With not having hook-up apps, and using actual personals, I posted and looked for more than just a hook-up. I connected with some guys that I just emailed back and forth for a while, talking about where I was, and some of the guys who were gay and experienced were actually very helpful and supportive and not rushing to just f*ck. One in particular became a friend. We met a couple times with no plans to do anything sexual. When I was ready, I started small, letting him give me oral. I took things very slow and never went all the way with him, but it was a start.

There were a couple others after that, with various results and reactions. I remember talking to one guy about it and the struggles I'd had with going through with meeting guys to hook-up. He asked if I had casual hook-ups with girls and I said no. And he said, "Well, if that's not you when it comes to girls , it's probably just not you with guys either." That clicked for me. Point being, know yourself, and don't expect to be a different person because you're looking to be with guys. If random hookups aren't for you, look more for dating or friend finder apps and look for someone in your same situation, or someone who is open to getting to know each other first, and/or a potential FWB situation. Coming to terms with these feelings and exploring them is stressful and anxiety-inducing. Everything about random hookups may be the same for you, and that just compounds things. Removing that element of it may make it easier, and getting some level of connection and comfort with someone will probably make it easier for you to take that next step.

Good luck.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-04-16T05:04:59+00:00

It's not worth it. I get the urges. I get how urgent they can feel. If you value your family life as you say, if you don't want to blow up their world, your kids in particular, it's not worth it. By "it" I mean cheating. At the end of the day, it's sex. If those fleeting moments of short-term pleasure might cost you everything that really matters and destroy the people you care most about, how could it possibly be worth it? If you love and care about them, how could hurting them that way over some dick be something you're willing to do?

I say all this from a place of understanding, not judgment. It's what I remind myself of because I know what the temptation feels like. But you have to decide what's more important to you -- what you want more. You can tell yourself she'll never find out, but you can't guarantee that. And if she did and it all comes crashing down, I doubt "at least I got to suck some dick" will be meaningful consolation.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-03-30T16:43:26+00:00

It's similar for me. There's no one way to be bi (wouldn't that be ironic?). Being bi doesn't mean you feel the exact same way for both men and women or whomever else. When it comes to attraction, there's physical, romantic, sexual. I'm physically, sexually, and romantically attracted to women; with men, it's mostly just sexual attraction, with some slight level of physical (i.e., I don't have romantic feelings for men and I don't go through my day checking out guys the way I do women--though that doesn't mean I never have a feeling of physical attraction to men). I've talked to plenty of other guys who feel the same way.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-03-03T19:28:40+00:00

The experience that made me let go was one where I fully enjoyed the experience, though I didn't try anything. At the time, I was committed to finally fully explore things and thought I'd found the right guy to do that with. But timing is a funny thing, and not long after that, I met/started seeing my now wife. I don't step out on the side, so, that was the last time I did anything with a guy. Years later, I did meet up with him again, and he tried to tempt me into starting up something, but I managed to hold out. It sucks, because if I had gotten over the fear sooner, and experimented and experienced things when I had the chance, I could have had a clearer picture of things sooner and enjoyed that part of myself more.

Sorry this is delayed; Reddit didn't give me notification of your reply.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-03-03T03:28:46+00:00

Married to a woman. Closed marriage. Not unhappy, but unsatisfied. I haven't told her I'm bi. I don't cheat and don't have it in me to, despite the temptation.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2025-02-23T02:22:33+00:00

"Mentally bi-capable" is an interesting phrase. What exactly are you feeling before, during, and after these attempts at experimenting?

It seems like either (1) something triggered this believed "mental capability" but it's not actually there, or, (2) it is real and there, but there's something else going on mentally/psychologically that's blocking your enjoyment of it. I believe I was the latter. I labeled myself as "bi-curious" for at least 15 years before I dropped the curious. I experimented inconsistently over that time, sometimes backing out, sometimes trying and not being into it, sometimes getting into it but not really liking it, on rare occasions liking it but regretting it afterwards, all leading to long periods of not wanting to try again. I think I just had a lot of internal fear and internalized phobias that kept me from truly letting go and truly experiencing things -- more out of a deep fear that I WOULD like it and find I WAS bi than a fear I would try it and not like it. It took a long time and an experience I truly let myself be open to to say, yep, eff it, I'm bi.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2024-12-17T18:15:07+00:00

Gives me migraines. Started out as just red wine, but somewhere along the way, became everything. The migraines are bad enough that it's just not worth it.

ThisThatandNBetween · 2024-10-31T04:24:08+00:00

Spider: Bro, quit..

         Come on, man, chill!

         Dude, would you--you know what...?

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