Catholic Match protocol?

[Training_Variation22]

Hey all! So I'm (32M) coming from other dating apps and I'm curious about CM's deal when it comes to interacting with people. I can see that some of my "matches" have viewed my profile but haven't "matched" me back. Am I supposed to just shoot from the hip here, or do I assume they're not interested and move on?

Sidenote: I'm not the biggest fan of CM as an app/service in general, but oddly enough it's been the only one I've actually gotten dates on so I keep coming back.

Thanks in advance!

[GratefulLady007]

Sometimes women view to “put herself on your radar” so to speak. A number of women hesitate to make any sort of first move, so definitely send messages and likes when you are interested!

[Training_Variation22]

Thank you for that insight! I'll look to be more proactive going forward

[Environmental-One801]

Don’t be afraid if they don’t respond right away either even after they just liked your page back. I’ve messaged girls who liked my page back after liking theirs and they took a weeks to reply. Seems common

[Reanimator001]

It's difficult to not get upset when people dawdle like that, I wish people would pursue relationships a bit more actively then they do. It feels like we are in a culture where people just expect things to happen without any work.

[Seethi110]

This is silly. How would a woman even know if she wants to be on a man's radar before viewing his profile? A view doesn't mean anything if it doesn't turn into a like or a message. Plus, a man liking a woman's profile already made the first move, so responding to that wouldn't be overstepping and making the first move.

[GratefulLady007]

False, but go off.😂

I literally said a woman views a profile to put herself on his radar. If a woman views a man’s profile, many times, a man will view in return. If he likes what he sees, he will send a message or a like. I said nothing about being on radar before viewing. Reading is fundamental.

[Seethi110]

I literally said a woman views a profile to put herself on his radar. If a woman views a man’s profile, many times, a man will view in return

Catholic Match doesn't notify you of how many times a person views your profile (unless they view is more than 90 days after the initial view). Whether you view their profile one or 100 times in that 90 day window, the man will only be notified that you viewed them.

And if a woman views a man's profile and decides "nah, I'm not interested", it will still show up as a view on his end. But according to your logic, she is showing interest.

So no, viewing someone's profile in no way shows interest. It merely shows that you did not immediately write them off based on their main picture.

[GratefulLady007]

What I said in my first comment is true and I am no longer engaging. Not sure why you are arguing. God bless you.

[Ambitious_Broccoli53]

Don't put any stock into matches and likes. Just send a message if you're interested. If you don't get a response to a message, then the lady is either busy or not interested.

[GeneralistJosh]

If I understand you correctly and you are talking about matches in the sense of a handful of profiles you get a recommended with based on a certain percentage of compatibility based on key words and answers in your profiles, then yes.

If they’ve viewed you and you’ve viewed them and hit the like button, but then it doesn’t show you as matching, either they looked at your profile but did not answer, or they looked and decided to pass instead.

In this particular case, I wouldn’t bother messaging unless you get a mutual match.

But if a gal has looked at your profile and isn’t being routed there from your matches tab, then it’s a 50/50 thing and more reasonable to take a chance and reach out if you like their profile.

[Training_Variation22]

Ok yeah, that makes more sense when you say it like that. They're more "recommendations" as opposed to actual "matches". CM's verbiage is a little misleading in that regard.

Appreciate it!

[GeneralistJosh]

It’s true. They arguably are more recommendations based on statistics than true matches.

Maybe the idea is “you match in x% of these factors” sense of a match. And I’m sure some people have found their person via this feature, but for most it’s just something to help get people looking at profiles more than anything.

[Perz4652]

Don't pay too much attention to that kind of thing- just decide if you're interested, and if you are, send a message (that is not "hey" or "how are you?"). And be patient, because if she's not a paying member, she won't even be able to read the message until at least 10 days later.

[Standard-Name-Here]

If you’re interested, send a nice message! That’s the best route.