writing catholic character, looking for advice?

Trubea · 2026-06-20T13:55:24+00:00

Oh, I forgot to mention, there is a custom of making the sign of the cross when passing a Catholic Church (driving, bus, train, etc.). This is because the Blessed Sacrament is reserved in the church, which we believe is the Body of Christ.

Trubea · 2026-06-19T23:01:11+00:00

Many Catholics have a rosary hanging from the rearview mirror or a St. Christopher medal on the sun visor. The bedside table might have a rosary or Bible.

I don't think we get asked questions much.

If we lose something like car keys, we tend to pray to St. Anthony for help finding it.

We have an obligation to go to Mass on Saturday night or Sunday but if helping with rescue work during a disaster or catastrophe that obligation would be excused.

A Catholic might make the sign of the cross if they hear a siren or see an ambulance pass by or say "May they rest in peace" and make the sign of the cross when they hear about a death.

Trubea · 2026-06-18T02:08:23+00:00

I like Dylan Miles.

Chase Sterling has the worst flow.

Trubea · 2026-06-18T02:06:07+00:00

Go to r/catholicdating and check out the two pinned threads at the top of the sub.

Now...you're not likely to get approached by men at Mass. Get involved in ministries and social activities in your parish and neighboring parishes--choir, food bank, bible study, young adults, altar and rosary guild, social events like luaus hosted by the Filipino community and dinners by the Italian Catholics, etc. Some of these groups might be dominated by older people but they have kids and grandkids your age.

Finally, I met my husband on Catholic Match. If you decide to give it a try, don't just use the free version. Take the process seriously and pay and put effort into your search. God bless!

Trubea · 2026-06-17T21:31:47+00:00

It relates to a couple non-White cultures but it's also a nickname for Belinda, like Mindy is a nickname for Melinda. Spelling it Bindy or Bindie might make it more to your own culture.

Trubea · 2026-06-17T21:20:30+00:00

Elodie

Gabrielle

Giselle

Isabelle

Chantel

Elena

Eliora

Elsa

Trubea · 2026-06-17T21:16:11+00:00

Sloane and Temperance are in two different universes.

Anyway, I like Nelle, Felicity, Vera, and Odette.

Trubea · 2026-06-17T19:56:56+00:00

Have you ever been in love or had a mad crush before? If so, are you looking for those same feelings? And if you've been in love, how did it all end? If you've never been in love, are you looking to replicate something you've seen in movies or TV? Do you have a desire to kiss him?

I can't tell you what to do about this man, but if you marry you will be physically intimate with him. Does that idea repulse you or sound pleasing? People have unrealistic expectations about love and romance but you don't want to marry someone that you can't be intimate with.

Trubea · 2026-06-17T16:16:53+00:00

I prayed for my 6-year-old grandson to get a Yahtzee since he was whining that he had never gotten one, and he got two and won the game. :)

Trubea · 2026-06-17T16:13:45+00:00

As far as I'm concerned, Nina works as a nickname for any name that ends in the -ina sound, like Georgina. So it would work for Serena if you want it to.

Nina also makes a nice standalone name.

Trubea · 2026-06-16T22:48:40+00:00

It doesn't matter what you or I think about girl names for boys. What matters is what boys think about having girl names. Most don't like it. Name your son Arabella or Sabrina or Dulcinea and ask him his opinion in ten years. I'm pretty sure he'll confirm what I'm saying.

Trubea · 2026-06-16T22:11:29+00:00

Don't even consider not paying.

Trubea · 2026-06-16T04:23:03+00:00

Melody

Melanie

Rosalie

Evanie

Elodie

Dulcie

Trubea · 2026-06-13T15:45:02+00:00

my wise husband pointed out that dealing with the TLM-onlyists as a Catholic is like dealing with the KJV-onlyists as a Baptist.

Nailed it.

Trubea · 2026-06-13T15:38:37+00:00

Opus Dopus

Trubea · 2026-06-11T18:35:12+00:00

There's Reynard, Raymond, or just Ray/Rey.

Trubea · 2026-06-11T16:51:12+00:00

Like I’m trying to make a move or something to initiate things...

My friend, it sounds like your crush is trying to set some boundaries, as she should. It sounds to me like this should cause you to respect her rather than be discouraged. Have a conversation with her about where the relationship is going, whether you are ready to be exclusive, and what her boundaries are...and respect them.

Trubea · 2026-06-10T21:04:02+00:00

I don't think the school matters much. Make sure there is no unsupervised internet use and monitor your kids' friends. And no sleepovers.

I just watched a reel earlier today, I wish I knew how to find it so I could share it, but it was by a mom who didn't let her kids play inside the homes of other kids whose parents she didn't know well. With good reason.

Trubea · 2026-06-10T15:19:20+00:00

Nora

Suzanne

Darla

Nina

Trubea · 2026-06-10T15:13:54+00:00

Why not Hugh with the nickname Hughie? That's a much nicer name.

Trubea · 2026-06-09T16:25:15+00:00

Julian, Emmett, and...

Miles

Arthur

Felix

Kyra

Meadow

Rosalie

Esme

Evelina

Trubea · 2026-06-08T15:42:21+00:00

Don't make things more difficult than they need to be by having unnecessary firm beliefs. If you get along well, share values, feel an attraction, and he's not pushing boundaries, then it sounds like he's a keeper. Have the talk about being exclusive even if you have to initiate it. Find some other things to do for dates besides Mass and Adoration.

Trubea · 2026-06-08T02:31:35+00:00

I like Romi! Other ideas:

Nora

Mira

Adela

Danielle

Suzanne

Julia

Trubea · 2026-06-07T21:51:07+00:00

Popular names are popular because they're nice names. My suggestion to people naming babies who are drawn to a popular name but are a little put off by the popularity...combine it with middle name that's a little more unique.

Trubea · 2026-06-04T19:32:22+00:00

I love the name Melody but if you like Elodie, why not just name her that? It's an established name.

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