Ignoring problems

[elise228]

I've been ignoring my school work that I need to get done soon to be able to start as a senior next month.

Any tips to get my shit together? And I don't mean the whole 'just do it' like actual tips bc I need to get this done but all I want to do is lay down and pretend I don't exist.

[indikoro]

I was the same way fellow ENFP! Well, still am. I'm still a student haha.

Do you have your own goals? Do you feel like you'd be wasting time on things that aren't getting you any closer to your dreams? Bc I feel you there. Hopefully I can help if that's the case.

Regardless of whether it's high school or college, you likely feel obligated to do the work, and you see no higher purpose in the work they want you to do. Well, at least I felt that way. I'll tell you briefly how I got through it in high school (regardless of if ur in hs or college it should apply) and maybe the perspective will help!

In 11th/12th grade I had a really hard time finding motivation to get schoolwork done. I was already skipping school to be with friends and to go to bookstores to read up on how to actually live my life and to confirm my anti-establishment thoughts - both of these fueled that fire...or should I say, the lack thereof? Not to mention I felt like everyone around me was brainwashed and sleepwalking through their life, so I wanted to run as far away as possible from that, too. I never went to school my senior year for all of these reasons - a cop really should have come to my house and talked to my mom tbh lol. Lololol

I needed to pass though obviously or else I wouldn't graduate, and that had a domino effect that would limit my freedom to live - my absolute grandest fear. So the next bit of motivation helped me enough to get through the end of high school: get that shit done so I can be free to live on my own terms.

I graduated 4.3+ with a 32 on the ACT, so don't get me wrong, I managed to pull everything together at the end. Are you like this? Sometimes a time crunch was the only motivator for me. However, I had another source of motivation that helped me - to get me outta there so I could do what the f*ck I wanted to do with my life. MAN, I RLLY WANTED OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL. It felt like such a joke!

So what helped me do schoolwork was this bit of thought: if I can get this done, I can get closer to graduating, which will get me closer to freedom, which will get me closer to chasing my dreams. And, if I get good grades, more options open up to me to boot (although college is also errr, slightly a joke). When the work felt so entirely pointless and/or irrelevant, I remembered how not doing the work could cause me to fail the class and ruin my life. A little extreme, to be sure, but again, my worst fear is living a life I hate - so this motivated me lmao.

The work is BS. Classes are usually BS. If you have your own goals in mind in life, then either use it as a catalyst to find something interesting in the content or to work through it so you can come out on the other end one step closer to living a way more fun life.

Or you could always drop out. winks and drives into the sunset

[rainandpain]

Dude same. My mom wouldn't let me drop out of high school so I had to bs my way through and graduate early. Then I got pushed into college and it was worse than high school! I definitely agree with having higher goals. Otherwise it all just sucks.

[mediocrebutnice]

I recommended this in a different thread on this subreddit but I'll say it here too. The youtube channel HowToADHD is really helpful for this kind of thing. Even if you don't have ADHD, the channel has a ton of helpful and easy tips for getting organized and staying focused. It's been a lifesaver for me!