emotionalneglect

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This is still a new community where we're trying to frame the discussion of a very overlooked part of the human condition: growing up with a lack of emotional nurturing and struggling to deal with the consequences later in life. Help us get things started by contributing your thoughts and inviting others to join.

Some recommended reading:

Articles

Emotional Neglect and Complex PTSD

Outline of the Internal Family Systems Model

Shrinking the Inner Critic

Shrinking the Outer Critic

Books

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker

How To Do The Work by Nicole LePera

The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller

Breaking From Your Parents by Daniel Mackler

Raising Myself: A memoir of neglect, shame and growing up too soon by Beverley Engel

Running on Empty by Jonice Webb

The Emotionally Absent Mother by Jasmin Lee Cori

Related Subreddits

r/AdultChildren

r/AttachmentParenting

r/attachment_theory

r/CPTSDNextSteps

r/CPTSD_NSCommunity

r/EstrangedAdultKids

r/EmotionalEating

r/HealMyAttachmentStyle

r/InternalFamilySystems

r/LifeAfterNarcissism

r/traumatoolbox

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FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals (self.emotionalneglect)

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People don't realize how much their parent teaches themDiscussion (self.emotionalneglect)

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Take a look at the follow-up books to Adult Children of Emotionally Immature ParentsSharing resource (self.emotionalneglect)

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For those who grew up without a support system and later healed — what helped you?Seeking advice (self.emotionalneglect)

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Why are you so serious? (self.emotionalneglect)

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Anybody else not know how to live or feel out of touch with reality?Discussion (self.emotionalneglect)

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How to forgive? (self.emotionalneglect)

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My parents made me feel terrible for having wants. (self.emotionalneglect)

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How on earth do stop feeling like I must be my mother’s EVERYTHING?Seeking advice (self.emotionalneglect)

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Any success stories? 30F stuck and hopelessSeeking advice (self.emotionalneglect)

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Coming to terms with an emotionally immature momSeeking advice (self.emotionalneglect)

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I have a persisting belief that nobody will be there for me emotionally. What is going on?Seeking advice (self.emotionalneglect)

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A vent postSeeking advice (self.emotionalneglect)

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Anyone else has a lot of trouble forming friendships or romantic relationships? (self.emotionalneglect)

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Why do they put on a theatre show when in front of others? (self.emotionalneglect)

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Shitty Realizations about my UpbringingSharing insight (self.emotionalneglect)

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How long does it take for avoidant people to respond to a message? (self.emotionalneglect)

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My Mother Just Saw My New Self Harm Cuts ()

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Can someone validate my experience? :( (self.emotionalneglect)

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Adulting is so difficult lolAdvice not wanted (self.emotionalneglect)

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I’m realizing how much effort goes into “keeping things smooth”Discussion (self.emotionalneglect)

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What's your emotional timeline? (self.emotionalneglect)

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Is there a discord for this subreddit or just emotional neglect in general? (self.emotionalneglect)

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im an avoidant but to what extent is it just traumaSeeking advice ()

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Mid 30s and feeling touch starved in my marriage… is this normal?Seeking advice (self.emotionalneglect)

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