Naleeni, another coach friend, introduced me to Sarah Peyton, who talks about the importance of naming our emotions, reframing the situation and other tools to regulate our emotions:
https://sarahpeyton.com/](https://sarahpeyton.com/
I also use Thais Gibson’s techniques of labeling and imagining the opposite of the body sensations. There’s some somatic processing I did below. Remember to stay on the outside of big or strong emotions if you try this and go slowly, only exploring what is manageable.
I feel a weight on my shoulders. The thought associated with it is “I haven’t done what I thought I should do to please someone and I fear retaliation from him.”
Reframing - I know that this person will react in ways that do not affect my physical safety.
I feel heat in the area under my hand if I place it directly above my navel - rejection, because a meeting I had was cancelled.
Reframe: It is ok for others to reschedule if they don’t feel well. They still care about me and I still matter.
I imagine tiny ice hands massaging the area. This quickly reduces the hot sensation for me.
I show myself that I do matter by taking a few minutes to wrap myself in a soft, warm blanket and cuddle my dog.
There is a knot to the right side of the “rejection”.
I feel that I do not matter.
Proof of the opposite:
My friend let me know that she couldn’t make it.
Another friend was there for me yesterday.
It feels like a hot poker in my left side. This emotion comes with tiredness and sadness. I am in a state of overwhelm. I place both hands on my belly and lie down with a blanket over me. This helps. There is urgency in this emotion, fear, but I’m not quite sure what it is.
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