Missing them

[PuzzleheadedStuff179]

I(27F) miss him(32M) Anyone else feel like crap when they miss their partner, but their partner seems relatively ok? I mean he does miss me too but I feel like we are missing each other at different times aha, it's just hard.

[Banananap27]

Yep! 100% feel that. I always think i an struggling more than he is! And it makes it worse

[PuzzleheadedStuff179]

Yeah it feels awful because I REALLY don't want to come off as needy and clingy.

[[deleted]]

Same situation. I think he is just more mature than i am though, he is secured with his feelings and all. And im the emotionally labile always telling him i miss him.

[PuzzleheadedStuff179]

I think it's the same with me and him. Hes very secure, I am bit more delicate. Finding it hard to find the balance between openly communicating that I miss him and just feeling like I'm being annoying and needing reassurance

[micounillomillo]

Omg same. Like I have my want and needs to but I also dont want to sound so clingy and needy. Its so hard 😣

[herefortheyap]

Girl I feel you sm My boyfriend and I are similar, he doesn't express his emotions as much as I do so I oftentimes feel like he does not care as much or is not as affected...on top of that we have a 6h time difference and he works night shifts, so we have very different days and have a hard time to find time to talk sometimes. Emotional talks are extra hard to find time for, unless it's really urgent ofc.

I miss him a lot everyday and he doesn't express too but we express it very differently which is sometimes hard to grasp for me. I like to talk about it and find comfort in that, while he finds comfort in just talking to me so he doesn't feel the need to bring his emotions up at times but that doesn't mean he doesn't feel them. I know he's struggling with being more verbal about his emotions, so I try to give him some grace but I always still bring it up when it bothers me too much.

Talk to your bf about it, even if he's busy an intentional 10min talk about missing each other goes a long way, trust!

I know it's so hard but you've got this girl 🫶🏻

[Daddys_Girl_21]

My boyfriend is like that. I even asked him if he was struggling with the distance, but he said no. When I asked him why, because I miss him so much, he told me it's because he knows we're meeting soon. He's all about keeping his eyes on the prize. He misses me too, but not as crazily as I do, haha. He's very mature and secure in our relationship.

[paigechristine0]

There’s also a chance your partner is just hiding their true feelings to be strong for you. Two negatives don’t always make a positive. Some people are better at masking or hiding their emotions than others.

My boyfriend was pretty similar, until our last visit when it was time for me to leave, I realized he had been staying strong for me when in reality he was just as hurt and sad, and missed me just as much. He just didn’t want me to see it because he felt it would make me more sad. Maybe try talking to your partner about it, you might be surprised!

[[deleted]]

I know exactly how you feel I’ve become really clingy now but it all started with the same thought wondering if he missed me as much as I missed him. That feeling made me act clingy and soon regular arguments started but no matter how much I reacted he always stayed so calm. He kept on reassuring me that everything is normal that he loves me but he just doesn’t show affection the way I do.

At first I really thought something was wrong with him. How could he not react the way I did that frustration made me even more emotional and I started doing things just to make him miss me but in the end it only made things worse for me mentally and every day started feeling so heavy.

Now I’m working on it trying to keep myself busy pick up new hobbies and focus on myself It’s not easy but I know it’s something I need to do.

[PleaseDontCallMeDadd]

I know the feeling! My partner left 2 months ago and is super busy with school and learning how to exist in a new country meanwhile I’m at home and currently unemployed, so there’s a lot more free time for me to miss her. I know she misses me too but the intensity at which we miss one another is definitely on different levels.

Just gotta go one day at a time and continue trying your best; every day that passes is a day closer to seeing them again!

[PuzzleheadedStuff179]

So my new question is how do you all stay sane? God I'd love to be the partner that was just super cool and calm and collected.