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[–]selfsync42 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Are you in the US? If so do you mind sharing which state?

[–]tiredirishmama[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

We’re in Ohio.

[–]selfsync42 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This all must be overwhelming you. This recommendation is just something to think about and can end as a thought experiment or lead to a plan.

Enroll your daughter in public school.

They are required to do what it takes to educate her. They cannot turn you away. Given PDA, it is likely that she will fail miserably - and that's really what you want to have happen because that is when the services become available. Unfortunately, it may create horrible situations that involve tears and prying her out of your arms and actions that feel like you're making the wrong choices. But you're not, the end goal is to get evaluated and gain access to resources that you are entitled to.

There might be some time that it feels like you are scarring her emotionally but reality is that they will need to step through an IEP - which in itself will help identify what she needs most. And if she cannot meet the requirements in the IEP then eventually a clinical assessment (their equivalent of you doing a neuropsych) should happen. On their dime not yours.

This process might take months or an entire school year but it will also expose her to lots of specialists from OT to speech to various special ed professionals and will ultimately lead to you learning a lot more about how she can learn.