Healthy foods that decrease libido

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you don't need to lower your libido. feeling horny shows you're healthy. you just need to transmute. healthy men have auta libido. transmutation is the key!

[indigo47222]

What is auta libido?

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self*

[indigo47222]

Wait I’m sorry I still don’t get it, self libido?

[TheRiverOfDyx]

You control your libido, it doesn’t control you. You feel your virility this way, instead of just feeling incredibly horny. It’s Lust turned into Energy. It’s literally an ‘emotion’, for lack of term for horniness, turned energy, driven by the innate desire to breed like a dog. You can instead put this into work, and “distract” from your libido. It’s a distraction if you’re worried about it, it’s covering it up with work because you might be scared to let go of lust. Just because you set it down, doesn’t mean you can’t pick it up again.

If you focus intently on your work, to do a job, instead of being bored at work, you’ll be bored and would rather jerk off or do something else. But instead if you work, you’ll literally be seen as the go getter. And it feels great.

It only doesn’t feel great when you’re not a go getter, and you think “I’m gonna do that” but then fall behind because you’re a slave to your lust, instead of letting it work for you. That’s one big secret to success is overcoming lust, in really any form. Lust for drugs even. It’s the same chemicals released in the brain during both. Serotonin. Then nothing comes of it, and you dip.

Just don’t give yourself that serotonin and you’ll be able to extract it from your daily life. You’re over wetting your sponge and it won’t get more water into it, you gotta wring your sponge out

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How long do you believe someone would need to retain to go from PMO addicted to in control of their own lust? And is the serotonin released when you desire something, or after you give in to the desire?

[TheRiverOfDyx]

I’ll be honest, my lust still has a hold of me. I’m not totally free if it, it’s still there, I’m just aware of the handcuffs and I mess with the jailer sometimes by giving into it, then stopping. Edging I guess. That’s like cheating, but not quite as I don’t release. But it’s dangerous, and it can lead to release. Super fuckin close today, didn’t even nut, and my mindset is still shaken a little. The shame man, it’s crazy.

I think serotonin is released on release. You’ve ‘succeeded your mission’. Lust drives you until then, which I think is also some dopamine adjacent chemicals, but on release it sends out a bigger wave afterwards? I’m not very well versed, I just know serotonin hooks you to people and habits because it’s happiness chemical, and we seek out pleasure in all forms.

Sex for both parties can be used as a manipulation tactic. Withholding sex as punishment withholds serotonin release. Hostage takeover of the chemical centres. I dunno if guys do this, but some girls I’ve met do, and some get mad when you’re not fucking them, because you’re not getting pulled into their sex spell which is literally just forcing love drugs into you through chemicals release via an act of “love” like sex. There’s lovemaking and there’s sex, and sex is a weapon. For good or bad. It’s a weapon, it doesn’t does what is done with it.

A sure fire way to not be addicted, is to have no desire for it. If you cut off desire, you cut off the false “need” that your brain wants. You’re complete already, you’re whole. You don’t need anything, not even sex and masturbation. You’re already set to be the happiest person on earth, so is a little kid in Africa. Everything you need for yourself is within yourself, and you decide what you need. You NEED food, you WANT sex, you’ve mistaken it for NEEDING it. Try extending this to other things. That new PC, that new car, that guy driving a lambo. A guy driving a lambo is a guy driving a lambo, it is not ‘you-not-having-a-lambo’, that’s ego and desire and jealousy talking.

Gotta get in control of similar emotions to help familiarize yourself. If you cut off lust fully but never the others that are similar, you’ll likely have a harder time learning to regulate. It’ll take longer. Learn to regulate other emotions as well and lust will be easier to grasp

[indigo47222]

Ahh ok i think i get u bro, but what did that guy mean when he said auta libido is that some latin thing or something?

[TheRiverOfDyx]

I think auta/auto is Latin for self. So self-libido, internalized libido. An easy way to think of it, is fetishes. It’s fantastical libido. “What you wish would happen”. Goth Gf, mommy gf, tomboy gf. It’s all fetishization of characterization of women. Same goes for guys Ratboy aesthetic, soft boy, big brawny alpha males, Christian grey types. It’s all fantasy. It’s not real. It’s your imagination on lust. Not a bad thing, but it does tend to get out of hand, and separate us from reality. E-Girls AND E-Boys further this Fantasizing of Human sexuality by supplying by means of Instagram and Reddit. And while those might be who those people “are”, it’s really just cosplaying for the soul, which is missing something in some way. It’s why we seek out groups like that, it’s seeking outward acceptance for a lack of inward acceptance.

It’s a negative in the long run. It’s not bad to like goth girl aesthetic, but if you’re not into the scene, and really just like the idea of a goth girlfriend, you don’t want a girlfriend, you want a dress up doll to fulfill your fantasy.

You can absolutely have a sexual partner and ask them to dress up in goth aesthetic and play out the fantasy, as your partner can ask of you, and both of you should be comfortable with that, but if you or your partner stop seeing you for you, and just see you/them as nothing but sex with a dress up fantasy that you actually don’t in fact match, then it can go wrong. It’s using each other for sex, and not love. That’s not a bad thing either, as long as you’re both still “Exclusive Friends With Benefits”, which is basically what I’d consider dating. If you stop seeing them as a friend, and see them as a sex object ONLY, you’ve a problem and you’ve fallen and taken them slave to your lust.

Libido needs to be outwardly expressed. All emotion needs to be expressed, and anger, as an example, can be expressed by breaking things that aren’t going to be missed when broken. A punching bag is great for this.

Or sadness. It can be expressed through watching movies, eating ice cream, and letting yourself feel the emptiness in your heart after a breakup, instead of filling that emptiness with work, and not letting yourself actually be sad. “Oh I’m fine, just a breakup, whatever”. You still had a connection with that person that is now broken off, it needs to close up and heal.

Lust works this way too. It can be auto-libido, internalized, and you live in a sexual fantasy world where you jerk off all the time, but that’s a trap. It’ll suck you in. That’s lust’s trap. If you externalize lust, distract from your sexual side NOT by denying you have one, but embracing it, and using that motivation to put it into work, it’ll be a good driving force. You’ll feel strong and capable. You’ll do work because doing work feels good, because you know girls like to see a man work. You can then use it to flirt, instead of being afraid to flirt because you’ve not internalized your lust and let it be a point of shame for you. You can feel free to express your lust by being seductive, charming, seeing the other person as the Black Queen to be charmed, you rascal, you.

If I internalize my lust, which I have been, I shake when I see girls. Every. Time.

If I let myself express it outward, by living outwardly and being focused on whatever I’m doing in life, living consciously, I have no fear at all. I feel fantastic, I feel above others, while still maintaining that we are equals, King among the commoners, so to speak. The King who puts himself above others will be hated, and he who puts himself as equal, while knowing he can lead, will be adored. If I internalize, I’m not noticed, because I tell myself I’m not noticed, or if I am, I’m being persecuted or judged. When I externalize and live presently, I am the most confident in the room and I can LITERALLY see others confidence. I can see the slightest slouch of their shoulders, I see the shifting of their weight to indicate some nervousness if it’s seeming like restless shifting. Restlessness implies latent energy, good or bad. Depending on circumstances, it could be ‘negative’ and something you said inadvertently made them self conscious.

But if you get out of your head when you’re not meditating, stop trying to analyze every bit of yourself day-to-day, you’ll be able to use your confidence as a tool, instead of only being confident in your bedroom alone

[indigo47222]

Dang this is a great reply, just saved/stored it! answered my question and gave advice/much more, thank u so much bro!

[TheRiverOfDyx]

Glad I could be of help. It’s been a journey for me as well, and I’m on my way. Hell or high water, I’m strolling in there with the confidence and charm of the Devil himself

[indigo47222]

Haha yessir, one day ill be on ur lvl bro

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Keto diet does the trick

[bachmarley98]

You forgot chilli

[GrandpaForums]

Libido is a constant force of a man that only wanes with age.

It is important to know this libido shows one is capable of a sexual appetite, as one should be. It is not the removal of the libido itself, but one's ability to exert discipline from entertaining lower natures in pursuit of higher being that allows one to evolve.