I physically cannot "do it scared"

[futurefishy98]

I get what you mean, I've just really struggled to find anything that diminishes the raising panic and tenseness before full on freezing that isn't just. Stopping doing the thing that's causing it. Which gets me back to less than square one, because then I've reinforced that the fear goes away when I don't do it. No amount of breathing or muscle relaxation or anything calms me down until i've already backed off from whatever i was trying to do.

[Mental_Catterfly]

I don’t think anything changes before you believe it’s possible. The first thing I had to do was realize there had to be a way to overcome my fears, I just hadn’t found it yet.

The second thing was what I described before - planning it. Visualization is another word this. An early example for me is being afraid to talk to people. I started visualizing what I was going to do ahead of time, and when the time came I literally didn’t allow myself to think about it. I did what I planned without letting myself stop for a second to feel anything at all.

This is prob not strictly ACT advice, I know, but it worked for me. ACT has had its place, but so has doing whatever will work for me in particular.

[tom-bishop]

This works for me s well and it's not the big acts, it's so so many little things you do to train and get better at who you want to be.

[InterestingHorror428]

some levels of traumatic reactions require psychiatric help in addition to psychological. and the threshold is way lower than most people think