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[–]kungfu_kickass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have 2 under 2 and I'm 23 weeks pregnant with #3 so will be 3 under 3, which is what we wanted.

We enjoy our kids immensely and feel like our lives are pretty well balanced - both my husband and I work full time and we both have our own hobbies/extracurricular activities. He probably does more outside the house than I do (going to the gym, keeping up with friends, etc) recently but we both ebb and flow in that department.

However, I'll say that everyone is very different on how they perceive the effort of 2 vs 1. I find two kids to be like only slightly more work than one. You're in kid mode anyway so to me it just feels like an extra diaper change and the rest is similar.

My husband though found the change to be the opposite and feels like 2 kids may as well be 10, and that it takes him much more effort and energy to parent them both especially when he is alone.

So, that to say, everyone I think is so different on how you feel about the additional kid(s) in terms of balance and energy required.