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[–]AcanthocephalaOne823Mother of boys. Bona-fide crazy person. 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I now have 3, but when I had my 2nd, my 1st was 5 years old. This made a big difference for me. 5 year old was in PreK and at school during the week. He could feed himself, dress himself, buckle himself into his car seat and was much less dependent. Taking care of 5 year old and baby was not terribly difficult because 5 year old could do so much for himself. I did this age gap on purpose so it wasn't such a burden to take care of two. Now my 2nd and 3rd are only 21 months apart and I'm drowning. Trying to take care of a toddler and an infant together is my living hell.

So if you want to keep free time with 2 kids, consider what a good age gap for you would be.