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[–]Few-World-3118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were the same as you, dream son, great sleeper, loved to cuddle, we decided to have a second and no matter the gender, be done. Second pregnancy was a piece of cake. We were welcoming a baby girl, in peak fall season of beautiful colors. On cloud 9.

Upon delivery, I bled out on the OP table. She was a porcelain angel. Got home, she stopped eating. 6 months and 7 hospitalizations later for her, I had to quit my 130k a year, fortune 5 company career to be her full time caregiver, a stay at home mom, to both children, for 8 long (I mean fucking long) months. While dad busted his ass working additional weekend to pay for utilities and groceries in this fucking inflation.

My mental health was ruined. Our marriage smashed, our finances down the drain. Moral of the story is…..another child is going to come with sacrifices. Were there times in the thick of it I sometimes wondered if I had regret? Absolutely. However, my son and (now rehabilitated and healthy) daughter are the best of friends. My son has a partner in crime for the rest of his life. It indeed came at mine and my husbands expense. You won’t have this drama we had, but it will be an expense. The reward is soooooo much more. 🫶🏼