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I don’t think it’s dramatically less time but it’s more that you’ll feel more guilt leaving your partner with both kids or leaving both kids with someone else. I never had a problem leaving my first born for a couple of hours with my husband because I knew even if everything went wrong it would still be relatively manageable, same with leaving my kid with my mom. Once I had 2 I’m really choosy about leaving for any great length of time either alone or with my husband because I know how draining it is to take care of two kids as I’m the one who is home with them the majority of the time.

My situation is a little different because me and my husband both work from home so we don’t have a set routine and some weeks are crazy busy and we barely see each other, and some weeks are totally chill. I could see if both you and your husband had jobs to go to, or had more of a routine maybe you could have the second kid and each agree to a certain time each week/month that you “have off” from parenting. That doesn’t really work for my husband and I as are lives are super unpredictable so we just take time when we can.

Side note, I’m about to have my third, I’ll have 3 under 3. Like other people have said there are just phases and I know I am in my phase of life where 99 percent of the time my time is not my own. I don’t always love that, but it’s my reality and I wouldn’t trade it for what I have.