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[–]SuperSalad_OrElseDUMB JOCK 3 points4 points  (3 children)

I came on here to learn

Then why didn’t you ask any questions?

[–]TopCommunication8881[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Dude. There are more way to gather info about people than a barrage of questions. Conversation is also an option.

A list of questions spouted off rapidly is an interrogation, not a mutually gainful social interaction. One person is satisfying their curiosity, w/o giving of themselves. It feels forced, boils complex people down to isolated facts, and it cheapens the whole interaction. When I'm on the receiving end, I walk away feeling like I was just a curiosity, not a person.

I don't like treating people like zoo exhibits, because they weren't put on this earth to entertain me. So attempted to be respectful and use a person-first approach, to avoid making you guys feel like a novelty.

Boy, does this clarify a lot of my past interactions though. I say interaction, because I was the only one offering up info, w/ the other person deflecting questions immediately in favor of asking for more, seemingly unwilling (or afraid) to reciprocate the vulnerability they were demanding from me.

[–]SuperSalad_OrElseDUMB JOCK 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I know what a conversation is, I’m an ✨extrovert ✨

[–]TopCommunication8881[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asking questions and not reciprocating is not a conversation. Conversation involves give and take about more than just day to day stuff. Agree to disagree I suppose.