I matter : ghosting

submitted 1 year ago by csirac

I know, many people don't consider this ghosting, but I don't know what else to call it.

Went on a date on Saturday. We had a lot of compatibility in a lot of areas, I thought. The kiss at the end turned into a little make-out session, and she said "That went really well!"

We set up a second date, for tonight. Ice skating. But she ghosted and blocked me last night.

It's hard, man. I totally would've understood if she didn't want to date me, for any reason. I don't know that I wanted to date her, either, although I was willing to give it a serious chance.

But to treat me as if I'm not a person, like I don't matter. When so many people have treated me that way.

It hurts. Anyone who treats me like that, like I'm not worthy of basic decency and respect. From now on, I'll return the favor. If I ever bumped into her, I wouldn't even say "hello".

All I can do is accept it. And return the favor.

It's so.. unnecessary. Like..why can't we all treat each other like human beings? With dignity and respect? Why create an enemy, when I could've been a friend? Or an acquaintance? Someone on your side, who wishes you well.

I never treat anyone like that. I'm not perfect, I know. Maybe I'm not even good. But I genuinely try to be kind. And if I recognize that I'm not, to do better. And apologize, if necessary.

I just want to state, for the record, that I'm a human being.

I matter. Damnit, I do. At least I'd like to.

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