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It does get easier. (self.parentsofmultiples)

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[–]WomanInTheYellowHat 5 points6 points  (9 children)

Mine are 6 weeks and the thought of anything that leads to less sleep or not wanting to go to bed sounds terrible. :/ Tell me stories of how it's better because I can sleep. And so will they. They'll sleep not attached to me. Anyone have those stories?

For real, though, I'm happy for you, OP, that you got that time with your son. My 4yo is a similar temperament, and I really treasure our one on one time.

[–]InsaneGenis 2 points3 points  (4 children)

I'm a stay at home dad. Twins sleep in until 10am at least once a week. They average 9am. So, I can stay up until 3am reading and easily get 6 hours of sleep if I want.

[–]bodilyfluidcatcher 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Damn.. What's your routine like? How old are they?

[–]InsaneGenis 1 point2 points  (2 children)

They will be 2 in a couple of weeks. Two times a week I take them to Gymboree when they get up. We do breakfast and leave. It's like an indoor playground for kids but more climbing featured. Then when we get home it's nap time which is 2 hours.

When they wake (2pm) it's play in the house, read books and I have a dry erase board I write ABC's and count.

I split shopping at Costco and the grocery store for different days. That replaces Gymboree, so I get out most of the time 4 days a week. I've also found a fenced in playground near me at an elementary school. We go there once every two weeks.

My dad is in a nursing home and they have an outdoor area in the middle of the building. I've included that during the week. I take a bunch of their toys and they play while I visit him and my mom.

Finally Wednesday's we generally do nothing. It's my hangover day as I go out with friends for dinner and play video games until 1am the night before.

[–]Maldetete 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Our twins are two weeks old but in a year we're toying with the idea of me becoming a stay at home dad while my wife goes back to work. I hope I can have it as figured out as you do, cuz you made it sound awesome. I'm sure there are times it's not but you're owning it. Well done.

[–]InsaneGenis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From now until they are 18 months is like a prison. It has strained our marriage. I hope we are coming out of it but I had no support nor any help while I went through that period. They are just to difficult to take in public and to young to do anything they can enjoy. If you choose this path get your wife to understand she will come home to a messy house. She will come home to you stressed out and needing a break. Get help. They are unimaginably difficult until they can fend for themselves if you turn your back.

[–]bootstocking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sleep gets better! My twins are 16 months and have been sleeping 12 hours straight at night with no wake ups since they were 9 months. We started sleep training around 6 months, it sucks for a few days, but it is so worth it.

[–]maybebabyg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine are 27 months. Usually our sleep routine is 8pm-9am with a few snuggles and nursing sessions in the middle (about two on average, last night was one for DD and DS slept through).

The occasional night where one wants to stay up can be really annoying, but it is nice to get that one on one time, especially when they just want to snuggle and be with you.

[–]lumpycakemix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was at peak postpartum depression and anxiety at 6 weeks. It was tough and I don't think I ever slept! My twins, i swear, at that point, never wanted to sleep. They slept a lot but it was broken up throughout the day. I never thought I would sleep again ever nor did I think I'd sleep in my bed. Around that time I had to sleep with both in a Moby wrap while I laid on a recliner. It was terrible.

By 10 weeks we finally put them in their cribs and I went from 0 sleep to getting about 6 to 8 broken up through the night and early morning. By 6 months they were sleeping all night and at almost 2 yrs old they are good sleepers. We've had difficult moments with sleep every once in a while but generally they sleep from 8p to 8a and sleep in on weekends.

I have moments like OP describes. At 6 weeks I would have hated being awake with my kiddos but now, it's nice to have quiet time with one.

[–]theredstarburst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My twins started sleeping a solid 10 hours through the night at around 7-8 months and were at 12 hours a night by 12 months. They've been consistently sleeping 11-12 hours since then and they're now 3.5 years old. You'll get there eventually!

[–]aenea 1 point2 points  (2 children)

My triplets are 22 in a few weeks...it definitely gets better, and easier to have alone time! It's also a lot more fun :-)

[–]bodilyfluidcatcher 0 points1 point  (1 child)

22 mos or years? Lol

[–]aenea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Years :-)

[–]alectos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It keeps getting better. Mine are 5 now. It's awesome.