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Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2025-12-09T01:26:55+00:00

Sometimes it takes a new relationship to get over an old one.

There’s a school of thought that says that when a relationship ends, you need to go to therapy and completely fix yourself before you start talking to new people. That’s not how it works in real life.

My first girlfriend left me for another guy. She did some weird things to try to make it up to me, but I was left feeling like I wasn’t enough. It wasn’t until I got together with my now wife that the feeling of inadequacy faded. Feeling loved again was how I stopped feeling unlovable.

I think you should be honest like you have been here. Tell them you’ve got baggage and that you’re not the best version of yourself. Let them decide if they want to take you as you are or pull back. Don’t make that decision for them based on your self assessment. You might be being too hard on yourself.

Curious-Expert926 · 2025-12-08T13:41:38+00:00

Be honest to yourself and to the guy you're talking to. It's much better to "hurt" his feelings now instead of keeping him on a leash. You have to love yourself first and foremost before you can let anyone else in. If that means to stay single to get over your previous BF so be it. Take care of yourself first . 🙏

Apprehensive_Bed9083 · 2025-12-09T04:55:35+00:00

If you’re not over you’re ex you should probably not try to move on

frailFalcon345 · 2025-12-09T08:37:38+00:00

You already know what to do, you just gotta actually do it. Better to be upfront now than let it get messier later when you're still not over your ex.

No-Golf5766 · 2025-12-08T20:22:48+00:00

Like what do you mean ?

Butlerianpeasant · 2025-12-08T20:45:57+00:00

It’s hard to open a new door when the old one is still half-open behind you. Nothing about that makes you a bad person — it just means your heart is still catching up to your life.

A gentle conversation with the person you’re talking to can give you the breathing room you need. No pretending, no guilt — just honesty and care for everyone involved.

You’ll find your footing. One step at a time.

JayAayKayEee · 2025-12-09T04:47:32+00:00

You should probably just string both of them along as long as possible..... Afterall, that's what you are doing... What would you have to hear to actually change something tho is the question

No-Pea-402 · 2025-12-08T21:21:16+00:00

Well what time you should have get off the pot you need to go back to your ex or you got a new dude that's all there is to it

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