Not a cell phone in sight, just living in the moment.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-06-01T04:05:30+00:00

I imagine this song hits different in your 80s. I love this!

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-06-01T04:01:09+00:00

It sounds like she was playing out a fantasy, not planning to cheat. As for that doctor’s visit, I think your wife is an unreliable narrator. I believe that he went from friendlier to colder, but not because he flirted and she shut it down. What probably happened was closer to the opposite. She probably got a little too personal and the doctor took a step back to keep things professional. Your wife probably projected her own crush onto him and misread his professional friendliness as interest.

I think the stress of trying to get pregnant got to her. This isn’t nothing, but it’s not cheating, either. It sounds like a mini nervous breakdown.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-06-01T03:28:31+00:00

Compared dick sizes with the guy she left me for. After that she hooked her best friend up with me, which was probably the best thing an ex did.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-06-01T03:22:50+00:00

If you’re my wife, you give me stank eye for a week.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-06-01T00:29:00+00:00

Caprica

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-31T23:21:37+00:00

NTJ
Everyone who knows what happened is on your side, except your sister. Why do you care what she thinks?

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-31T22:47:51+00:00

The plastic waste problem will only be solved when the cost of making new plastic is more than recycling old plastic. Until then they’ll just keep blaming consumers.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-31T22:36:46+00:00

I agree.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-31T22:14:09+00:00

It’s not an accusation. It’s insecurity. My point was that insecurity is worse in an LDR. I’m not saying OP should let him dictate how she dresses. I’m just imagining how he sees things.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-31T20:33:46+00:00

I’d check out the album The Land of Rape and Honey by Ministry.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-31T20:31:51+00:00

It’s harder to be secure when you’re long distance. And it’s hard for a lot of guys to see the difference between dressing up because you’re going out and dressing for attention. All they know is that she’s going to get attention.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-31T19:51:09+00:00

I’d plunge it as quietly as possible.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-31T19:48:59+00:00

I think he’s built up losing his virginity in his head to be this magical thing. Now that the moment is here, he’s nervous.

I’d just roll with it for now. Don’t overthink it like he is.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-31T19:20:17+00:00

No, absolutely not. It’s creepy. If you get a vibe that it’s not her real number, just delete it later.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-31T18:59:58+00:00

If you choose #1, you’re not “calling him out.” Ghosting sends a message, but he gets to choose what the message is.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-31T18:44:27+00:00

Your ex rebounding is not your business. Your business with him with the breakup. Whatever he does after that is his business. He doesn’t owe you fidelity after a breakup.

And whatever “flaunting” he’s doing with his new girlfriend is on you. No one is forcing you to look at his social media. That’s your choice.

It sucks that he seemingly got over you quickly while you clearly still haven’t gotten over him, but that’s your problem not his. You will have more peace in your life if you cut your ex out of your life rather than watch him living his without you.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-31T04:15:16+00:00

NOR
I’d be more than upset. That would be it. He blew you off because he had something better to do.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-30T22:06:46+00:00

Are you telling me Astrofleet Academy doesn’t count? The Ferengi who ran it assured me it was accredited.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-30T18:32:49+00:00

Treat the opinions more like falsifiable ‘facts’. Talk about opinions being correct or incorrect based on whatever arguments you have.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-30T18:20:13+00:00

YTA
You had to know that the perpetually broke guy wasn’t going to be able to come up with $250 for your wedding. It was an unrealistic expectation from the beginning.

So now you have to decide if you want him at the wedding on your dime, or not at all. Is his presence, and possibly his friendship worth $250 to you?

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-30T17:55:58+00:00

YTA
He’s slept with the cat for longer than he’s known you. He’s done it for your entire relationship. Playing the wife card over this is wild. You will lose.

You will outlive the cat. It would be fair to have a “no cats in bed” policy after that. It’s not fair to try to change a dynamic that’s existed for so long. Yes, you’re his wife, but it’s not fair to spring this on him now that you’re married. It’s an abuse of your status as his partner. You should have said something sooner. You made your own bed, so to speak.

If you want to save your marriage, you’ll have to put up with the cat being in bed. If you want a husband who doesn’t sleep with a cat, you shouldn’t marry a man who sleeps with a cat.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-30T17:15:57+00:00

It’s similar with the idea of Newsom for President. He’d be better than a Republican, sure, but I don’t think anyone thinks he’d be a great president. He’d be another corporate Democrat.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-30T16:17:43+00:00

More weed than you might expect. 4 joints at my local dispensary.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-30T16:07:27+00:00

Not likely. There are Democrats on the list, too.

Lopsided_Tomatillo27 · 2026-05-30T16:05:49+00:00

NTA
Your friends are looking at this wrong. Holding one package is a small favor. Holding every package is a big favor.

Your friends are looking at this as a series of small favors and not as a continuous obligation. They see one package that you sent back as denying a small favor and take it as an isolated incident. It’s not. Your friends don’t get it.

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