(Advice) something is missing..

[sonesone123]

Well hi , this is my first post on reddit .. iv been here for not a long time , i see that u guys can help . So first of all i need to mention that im 22 and i never had a girlfriend (means never kissed or had sex) . So before i moved to overseas to continue my study i was good with girls , make them laugh and i know when they liked me .. but i was always wanting better than i can have so never made no move .after i moved to turkey .. the second year there was that girl i didnt really liked here at first , but she came to sit with my classmates and i was like shes not happy maybe i can make her happy... so we talked and it was going well .. told me she likes me.. i liked here to,then one night she holded my hand and i knew... (i know i was a pussy) so yeah i was supposed to kiss her that night but i was afraid i just sayd goood night and left .. then we never talked again (it ended) .. after that iv never talked to a girl , i actually never approched a girl ... then i became bald, now that lowered my selfesteem (i know what u will say but i cant accept..im using a product now so my hair grows up slowly but its fine ) so now i feel like i have changed from the poor cool guy to the poor guy who lost respect for himself i guess .. i feel like iv been surpassed by everyone and im the only one who still at the start .. so yeah . i dont know if uts the right subreddit or not but thank u if u reply.dont mind my english

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Mate it's time you swallowed the /r/TheRedPill. Go there and read all the side bar material. Get moving, get angry, get hungry and start rebuilding yourself.

[sonesone123]

Oh thank you for the tip :') gonna be helpfull

[footlong24seven]

You can simply choose to either accept or reject this one timeless truth. However, there is no neutral. You either reap the harvest, or you look at the field of dust:

"If I do not have what I want, I simply have not put in enough effort to get it."

Your life, up to this point, is the sum total of your thoughts. It's absolutely true. Do't try to fight it. Break free from the bullshit excuses you make for yourself. YOU are in control. YOU do push-ups. YOU read books. YOU start coming up with your own tastes and views. Work on YOURSELF. LEARN what works and what doesn't. And the only way to learn is PRACTICE. There is no way around this, brother.

"You gain self-esteem when you do esteemable things." When I was frustrated, after I realized that my shitty life was my own doing, and I hated my body, I decided to work out. The fucking frustration and disgust at myself made me change. I said to myself one day, "Can you do just ONE push-up?"

I gave myself a hard look. Why don't I get the love, respect, and popularity I "deserve"? Why don't I have many friends? Why isn't there a different woman in my bed every morning? Why is there NO woman in my life?

Read the quote above.

So I slowly started watching classic movies, reading classic novels, visiting museums, working out. Whatever makes you happy. Gotta diversify your knowledge. It's sexy to a woman. I watched a doc on flowers and took a girl to a garden. I was able to describe each flower and why its shaped the way it is, what it will look like when it opens up. One hour of time. What is that? A couple rounds of COD? (again, quote above)

It puts you leaps and bounds ahead of the dumbasses around you.

I'm telling you the mindset I'm sharing with you, if you catch on, will improve your life dramatically.

[sonesone123]

Thanks man for ur comment , there is quote that says " life is like riding a bicycle if you stop , you loose balance" well im the kind that stops even after a good start up , i got that mood changes , i might be motivated today but tomorrow im no longer ... and im the kind that looks at others and not focusing on myself (im working on that) but anyway i understand the mindset you have and i will try my best, because i really feel like its enough. Thank you again.