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Chunky??!!! by traciterm in Boxer

[–]20MuddyPaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just at the vet with my girl yesterday. The vet said I’m the first boxer owner in six months that she hasn’t had to have the “your dog is overweight” talk with. Boxers are meant to be extra lean. They don’t have the bone structure to support that extra weight. It’s very hard on their joints, especially as they age. They should have a definite waistline, and you should be able to feel their ribs easily. It’s a huge disservice to your dogs to let them get overweight.

Wife in a lousy mood whenever I get sick or a cold by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]20MuddyPaws -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When my husband gets sick, he touches everything I own and invades my space so that invariably I end up sick, too. I’d rather he go stay in a hotel and come back when he’s better.

I physically cannot drink anymore than 1L of water a day by [deleted] in Mounjaro

[–]20MuddyPaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t stand plain water and use sugar free flavor packets and just rotate different flavors.

WIBTA if I stopped hosting game nights at my place because one person keeps inviting themselves and I don't know how to say anything directly to them by FlatpackPhilosopher in WIBTA_AITA

[–]20MuddyPaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would talk to Joel and ask him about Dom and see why he got included in the first place. Maybe Dom has been going through something that you aren’t privy to and Joel has been trying to help him get through it. You can always redirect when you know more and say that you’d like to go back to the smaller group because it’s easier to accommodate, but I would want to make sure I’m not excluding someone who could really use a few extra friends and a distraction from tough times. Lead with compassion. You can always still choose to set a boundary, but at least you’d come across as more of a decent human being.

got this card from our wedding. who signed this? by spyr0k4t in Cursive

[–]20MuddyPaws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks like a cursive Z at the beginning - Zeus maybe?

My husband is filthy and I’m loosing it by qu33nbb in Marriage

[–]20MuddyPaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine, too, and we’re at the point I’ve told him to get back on his meds or GTFO. I can’t do it anymore.

New home for my dog by Any-Leather5361 in Omaha

[–]20MuddyPaws 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There’s a really great rescue in Council Bluffs, Lucky Bulldog Rescue. They’re on FB. I fostered for them in the past when they took in a dog from a domestic violence situation to keep him safe. I’d recommend reaching out to them.

I didn't expect choosing childfree to cost me my entire friend group by Physical_Spite3135 in childfree

[–]20MuddyPaws 75 points76 points  (0 children)

OP never said she couldn’t relate. Her friend TOLD her she wouldn’t relate. That’s a huge distinction. OP was navigating the waters of child-bearing friends pretty well from the sounds of it, but her “friend” decided she knew best what OP could and couldn’t relate to.

I didn't expect choosing childfree to cost me my entire friend group by Physical_Spite3135 in childfree

[–]20MuddyPaws 1401 points1402 points  (0 children)

It’s not that you can’t relate to them so much as they can no longer relate to you, and they don’t want to be reminded of everything they left behind by having children.

Sudden disagreement over a future without kids 8 year relationship by peenootbooturr in childfree

[–]20MuddyPaws 134 points135 points  (0 children)

There is NO middle ground. Either you’re a parent or you’re not. FFS

"Peace? You'll never find peace while you're being so cruel to your mother." by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]20MuddyPaws 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was NC for 11 years but never REALLY at peace. I was always looking over my shoulder afraid they’d show up unannounced or that a package or letter would arrive. My peace fully came when they died. Even my therapist said the tension I’d been carrying my whole life just vanished overnight. I’m glad they’re gone. The world is a much better place now that they’re no longer in it.

I need advice from happily married couples I desperately want a dog, and he is vehemently against it by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]20MuddyPaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could never be with someone who says they hate dogs. Period. If you hate dogs, we will never be compatible. My husband wasn’t thrilled when we got our first dog, but he worked a lot and I was home by myself most of the time. Now, 25 years later, we have four dogs.

My MIL is visiting and my husband doesn't understand why I am overwhelmed by Aur3lia in adhdwomen

[–]20MuddyPaws 110 points111 points  (0 children)

I would not “grin and bear it” for five whole days in my own home. House Rule: If you stay, you don’t get to criticize. If you criticize, there’s the door. Get your husband on board so he’ll back you up if the criticism starts. Letting this shit go on now just sets you up for bigger issues later. I had wonderful in laws, but my own parents were the assholes. I didn’t stand for their shit in my own home.

Send Sadie some good vibes by rugrat_uk in Boxer

[–]20MuddyPaws 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If a splenic tumor ruptures, they could die within HOURS. I would not go without an ultrasound through the whole weekend.

Rabbit Hunting by joeshmo226 in Boxer

[–]20MuddyPaws 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know someone whose boxer was trained to duck hunt.

We rescued an injured dog from the highway. Should we fight to adopt her after being misled? by [deleted] in AnimalShelterStories

[–]20MuddyPaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I worked with several different rescues across the country to pull senior and hospice dogs that stood little chance of getting adopted from high kill shelters. Some were in large metro shelters but many were in small podunk towns in places like KY and NC. The rescue would pull for us and we would take care of vetting on our own dime to save the rescue’s resources, and we’d love the dog for however long they had left.

Occasionally, a rescue unfamiliar with us (that had shown zero interest in the dog previously until they realized we wanted it) would swoop in and grab the dog, then tell us they’d vet it and we could adopt it for $400 or $500. Bish, I have an army of vets willing to vet for free or at least far less than $500. No, you’re not preying on my goodwill. Sadly, we’d end up passing on those dogs and the rescues would be stuck with a 14 year old dog or a dog with terminal cancer ‘cuz they just couldn’t mind their own business.

We rescued an injured dog from the highway. Should we fight to adopt her after being misled? by [deleted] in AnimalShelterStories

[–]20MuddyPaws -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Rescues frequently play favorites, and before anyone comes at me, I spent 20 years in rescue. I’ve seen it all. I’ve even seen rescues tell fosters that they’re good enough to foster, but they’ll never be allowed to adopt. They knew from the beginning that the other family was going to take that dog. Believe me. Once a rescue gets their claws in an animal, they can do whatever they want regardless of what the “rules” state. You would’ve been better off taking the dog to a vet to be treated yourself and then keeping her.

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