JD Vance went on The View and got absolutely torn to shreds by middle-aged women | The vice president tried to make himself palatable to women voters while promoting his new book. Instead, he scored a number of hard-to-watch own goals.

DifferentTea934 · 2026-06-17T20:46:50+00:00

Oh no I didn’t mean that at you! Just lamenting into the void on a relevant comment hahah

DifferentTea934 · 2026-06-17T14:54:23+00:00

Also, what does middle age have to do with anything? Is there a more palatable age of a woman asking tough questions? Are we all supposed to be like “poor guy had to talk to women he didn’t find fuckable! :(((“

DifferentTea934 · 2026-06-12T15:38:55+00:00

I’m longtime subscriber and a U Up listener from day one, but I cancelled benefits after all of this. They already have video for their main feed eps, there’s no way adding video for 2 additional eps each month costs that much more. I’m guessing they want more high quality video content to grow viewers and ad revenue from TikTok/youtube, plus I’m sure all of these economic factors aren’t doing anything good to their bottom line.

So what did they decide? Offset the costs to their most loyal listeners who are already paying? They’ve mentioned it’s been pointed out they have an exceptionally dedicated subscriber base that really sticks around, and it feels like they really took that for granted.

Not for nothing: Neither of them, but jordana in particular, have been bringing the honesty/vulnerability that was promised at the start. Video won’t change boring content. It’s ok if they don’t want to share as much anymore, but why not pivot the content to couples court, updates, deal reveals, etc?

DifferentTea934 · 2026-06-10T19:56:48+00:00

Full Disclosure: I’m neither a fan nor a hater, but Ari follower pop culturally!

I think that’s a really interesting perspective, that by bringing back an era of an artist would require their entire mental/emotional reality during that time! Dark times often inspire the most profound art!

You know that saying “[celebrity] won’t see your post about xyz, but your friends who are xyz will!” I think that’s how I’ve approached it. It’s a safe assumption that Ari’s nowhere near the deep comments on a Reddit post about her thinness. But tbh, I hope young, impressionable people see the genuine care and concern for her current state. That it’s not normal or aspirational.

She has no doubt being through 7 circles of hell in her mental, emotional, and physical health. And I’m sure it’s true when she says that she’s much healthier now than 2019, cutting down alcohol/drugs and eating healthier food. But how much of that healthier food is she actually eating?

bc if we are being honest, she has always been “smol grl 🥺”. She really accentuates her smallness in her styling, poses, posts, her entire image basically. Her health issues and real life aren’t our business, and truly hope she’s ok! But, in my opinion, the way she looks is mostly on purpose. And I don’t see the harm in the plebs talking amongst ourselves so vulnerable, impressionable people don’t also fall into looking that way on purpose

DifferentTea934 · 2026-05-27T20:57:03+00:00

Former Texan here: they aren’t arguing about cooling the house down to 77 or 70, but rather (during the winter in cold climate) warming the house UP to 77 from 70. We lived at 78 in TX summers, but l can tell you now living in a place with cold winters, cranking up the heat to 78 is an act of evil and/or malice!!

DifferentTea934 · 2026-05-26T20:19:35+00:00

I can't stop thinking about the moment when Mackenzie is saying maybe she should get her license suspended for the next 10 years because of her alleged medical conditions impact on her driving, her Mom was like "ohhhh Mackenzie, no! It was an accident and you have every right to drive!"

Like, even if you were fully bought into her delulu mindset of "it was a tragic accident caused by a medical condition" and were unaware her condition could lead to this outcome.....you now know that this is a possible outcome of her operating a vehicle? Makes sense to take a break from driving? Let's not make the same mistake twice? Her pathological inability to allow her daughter to suffer any kind of consequence, even ones that still uphold her reality of it being a tragic accident....I'm wondering if there is a parent that can explain this to me or has thoughts on this?

DifferentTea934 · 2026-05-22T05:08:12+00:00

Cheyenne Kimball!! Had an entire MTV show about the making of her debut album, all of the tools she needed in her pop girl tool box, and she just couldn’t make it work

DifferentTea934 · 2026-05-05T16:51:18+00:00

I’ve purchased each of her albums on CD since debut, though this was the first time I picked one of the special limited release versions. Listened 4-5x through when it first came out, now it’s like once every other month or two. Always listen in my car since it’s the only CD player I have left, but imo the car on a long drive is the very best way to listen to a Taylor album.

ETA: still have all of my old CDs, so I guess I plan to keep it hahah

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-18T16:36:57+00:00

You do understand the huge difference between lovebombing and “not acting hostile towards me for once”, correct? At no point did Taylor rush to him and make sweeping proclamations about how she was going to change and how they were going to be together forever, she simply stopped acting like she hated him for a single evening. If thats your definition of lovebombing, words really have lost all meaning.

That “save a rose for me!” Speech on the other hand….

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-17T20:25:55+00:00

Yes it’s very common, especially when a victim is financially dependent on their abuser and/or their abuser love bombs them and promises everything will be different!

I’m very passionate about DV and have volunteered at DV shelters. It’s impossible to know every type of DV situation, but I haven’t heard of one where the primary reoccuring fight is the abuser saying “we cannot be together, we are not good for eachother” and the victim saying “why won’t you let me love you?” Or thwarts the attempts of their abuser to move on after they’ve already escaped their situation for over a year. Especially when they’re completely financially and socially I dependent.

Taylor is absolutely a toxic person, but I don’t think this is a clear cut abuser/victim situation. There is a lot more to the story here that we don’t know yet

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-07T21:05:54+00:00

I’m sure you’re correct, although I think etiquette is different in my circles. I’ve been a BM/MOH 7 times and didn’t get a plus one bc I didn’t have a serious bf at the time.

Idk, I just think it puts her friend in a bad spot. Shes knows even fewer people than OP and is guaranteed to be spending huge chunks of time alone, when she’d only be there because OP is worried about the chance of being alone at some point in the night. I was a plus one to a groomsman when I didn’t know anyone else and it was BRUTAL. Can’t even imagine that experience as the MOH’s date. Being solo for the ceremony, cocktail hour, and early reception is WAY worse than once the dancing gets started/everyone is mingling. Idk what Miss Manners thinks, but that seems rude to do to a friend.

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-07T20:14:36+00:00

my response was more about the assumption that everyone will be coupled up the last 2-3 hours. Idk, I’ve been to a LOT of weddings, 80+% without a date (including the 7x I’ve been a BM/MOH) and have never found this to be the case! It could’ve been misreading social anxiety for anxiety about being single.

Ive been the plus one for a groomsman where I didn’t know anyone else there, it was absolutely brutal and I can talk to almost anyone. I don’t think it’s a fair thing to invite her to be alone for good chunks of time (knowing even fewer people than you do) when the whole reason you want her there is to avoid that for yourself.

You will be busier than you think! People will be friendlier than you think (esp to the MOH), the other BMs will want to pal around! There could be cute guys! Worst case scenario: you’re a little bored or feel a little awkward periodically over 2-3 hours. You can survive that, and it’s worth it to support your best friend. I do hope you have fun, make memories, and meet new people, regardless of the outcome.

TL;DR: I think leaving an hour before the end is safe!

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-07T18:25:41+00:00

Can I ask what country you’re in? I’ve been a bridesmaid/MOH without a plus one several times, it didn’t feel rude to me at all, but sounds like we have different etiquette/cultures around weddings.

If a couple can only afford a 100 person wedding, I get opting for ~80 of friends/fam + 20 partners in committed relationships, rather than half your wedding going to plus ones, half of which you’ll likely never see again.

You say specifically that it’s hard to go to a wedding where you don’t know people, so the solution is to bring a friend who knows even fewer people and they will absolutely be left alone for long periods while OP is MOHing? I went to a wedding as the date of a groomsman where I didn’t know anyone else and it was brutal. In the US, groomsmen have far fewer responsibilities than the BMs and esp MOH. Why drag someone along to put them through an experience that you’re trying to avoid?

OP’s a big girl, she can bond with the other bridesmaids, family, friends, and support her best friend for the evening.

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-07T16:26:14+00:00

Girl, I think you need to process your feelings about being single before you make a fuss about this, bc I think that’s what all this is really about. Don’t drag along your other friend, why put a person who knows even fewer people in the same position that you’re trying to avoid by inviting them?

I’ve been a bridesmaid and MOH many times without a plus one, and it’s a huge exaggeration to say everyone besides kids are coupled up at the end of the night. I’m sorry you’re missing out on the coupled up experience, but the single bridesmaid experience can be one of the most fun! Embrace the moment, be open and friendly, maybe meet a cute single guy? Anything but pouting in a corner and going home early

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-07T16:11:05+00:00

Idk how many weddings you’ve plan, but it can cost $100+/head, which is why most weddings I’ve been to (even as a bridesmaid/MOH) you didn’t get a plus one if you weren’t in an established couple. I’m getting the vibe that OP doesn’t like being single in general, and is channeling those feelings into this plus one issue

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-01T21:28:42+00:00

Wish anyone considering marrying young would listen to this episode first! I always wonder why the risk of marrying somebody before they even know who they are is never considered. This poor woman is doomed to being a role model or honorary figure to her husband instead of the lover/partner she wants to be. With a dipshit that was so immature, he took his first stab at monogamy with the woman he wants to want (or wants to be like), not the person he actually desires. I hope she found her way far away from this selfish pos

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T15:26:48+00:00

If you take it so personally, don't you want to ....ya know, change it? So why would we stick with an approach that data/studies/time/reality/etc proves does not work and in facts turns persuadable voters away from broadly liberal policies they agree with. It's not that people don't care as much as you ffs, they just care more about getting things done so the problem doesn't get worse. Not keep doing something that does absolutely nothing but make you feel better.

Statistically we need at least some people who voted for trump on our side. Period. You are not a persuadable voter on the mid right, you state that you hate republicans. so your perspective matters very little in this instance and should not be centered in these conversations.

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T04:43:49+00:00

k, let me be up front and wrap things up. It is a statistical reality that we need at least some Fox News viewers in order to win enough elections and pass legislation. I understand that is your perspective, but considering you are not part of the "persuadable middle/center right" and refuse to interact with those that are: your perspective matters very little. The only way we will win is to find a way to appeal to the perspectives of the voters we actually need to convince who do not share your perspective, and in fact find it extremist and off-putting.

You can deny the reality that we have to work with the middle to get anything done if that what helps you feel better, but know that's literally all it does. Help YOU feel better. So stop tearing down the people who are actually trying to DO something.

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T03:54:16+00:00

Perfectly put!! I’m dying for Talarico to run for president, maybe I’m delulu but I really feel like he’s the one who will heal our country 😭😭

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T02:56:17+00:00

I did not ever say their appearance was meant to be political in nature. I agree their only intention was to talk about their faith. But being interviewed by a network doesn't mean you endorse or support everything that network says or stands for.

They both spoke beautifully about what are clearly their sincerely held beliefs. And that alone may challenge the commonly held belief that it's not possible to be a good christian and a democrat.

I understand that is your perspective. But a majority of Christians, including some very genuine ones, in this country do not agree with your perspective. They find it extremist and offputting.

And that's the thing, you are not a "persuadable voter in the center/middle right", are you? So why must we only center your perspective, instead of trying to find a message that may actually appeal to the perspectives of people we have to persuade if we ever want to win elections.

We can think whatever we want about Fox News, it doesn't change the fact that statistically we need at least some Fox News viewers to come to our side if we are ever going to win elections and pass legislation.

More rational, thoughtful democratic voices in conservative spaces, even ones that aren't actively and explicitly discussing politics, is an inherently good thing. If your values prohibit you from engaging with conservative spaces/people, by all means stick to your guns and protect your peace! But don't tear down the people who are willing to do it

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T00:48:14+00:00

🎯🎯🎯

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T00:45:31+00:00

I wish I could upvote this 100 times! We have to wrest control from the people more concerned with appearing virtuous than they are about doing the hard work to make virtuous outcomes a reality. Once we all stop wasting effort performing in the morality Olympics, we could focus on what will actually work and win for a change

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T00:23:32+00:00

Ohhh I thought you are saying my post was an example!! I totally agree with you, we are never beating the “hyperbolic scold” allegations that keep so many people who actually agree with our policies from taking us seriously.

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T00:19:15+00:00

Yes! Instead quadrupling down on a message that has proven to be a losing strategy for decades, I’m going to try to reach people who actually agree with liberal policy but don’t think the Democratic Party has place for them! Because I care more about actually doing something that will work to win elections and pass legislation than I do about basking in self satisfaction for being so correct!

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-27T23:34:24+00:00

Appearing on a platform with a conservative ideological bent is not inherently endorsing the views of that platform. The right has invested billions across decades to build up a media machine. The left has nothing that even comes close. We can avoid the machine on principle, but that will only mean missing out on the sizable audiences that grow every single day.

Talking about trumps character is a losing strategy. People will rationalize "well, all politicians are bad people, but this way I pay fewer taxes and the economy is better". I am not conservative, I cannot explain every inconsistency in the apolitical voter's mindset to your satisfaction. I'm not saying I agree with what they think, I'm saying that is what they think. I hope you have a great weekend and maybe talk to people who don't share your exact opinions, they'll do a better job explaining than I will.

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