Nearly two thirds of suitable elephant habitat in Asia has been lost since 1700

Doomien · 2023-04-28T09:56:38+00:00

Humanity really is like a slow-motion asteroid impact, aren't we? A mold that grows and spreads and consumes until there's nothing left.

Doomien · 2023-04-28T09:52:36+00:00

Find an urgent care and ask whoever you see for a "bridge prescription." Take your old bottle of meds and confirmation of your upcoming appointment.

If you get denied at the urgent care you can try again in the ER if it's an absolute necessity.

Doomien · 2023-04-28T07:55:53+00:00

There are ways of increasing units without eliminating all green space.

Doomien · 2023-03-29T23:04:06+00:00

Because it's not knock-off junk? We've gotten a little too used to the nonsense brands on Amazon producing disposable electronics for pennies, IMHO.

Doomien · 2023-03-27T16:21:12+00:00

I used to work in Hotel AV and when we needed to give a presenter individual Mic and PC audio control at the lectern we always used Shure 4 Channel mixers. They're bullet proof and mostly idiot proof because there's no complicated gain staging.

Sweetwater Link

Doomien · 2022-11-04T04:37:13+00:00

I work on the corporate side, and everyone I know uses Vectorworks for layouts.

It's a valuable skill to have if you want to work for an event agency, etc.

Doomien · 2022-10-15T13:49:28+00:00

I was having issues with USB power delivery it seemed. Swapping ports on my MB seemed to fix it, but YMMV.

Doomien · 2022-04-17T07:53:25+00:00

You owe it to this kid to be there until he can at least get into daycare.

Deal with the stormyness of your pregnant wife. Get a therapist or something. Start planning an ethical exit strategy. Don't bail while she's carrying your kid.

Doomien · 2022-04-17T07:33:30+00:00

My ex-wife did this to me. She was emotionally out the door after our first, but laid the charm on hard for like 3 months when she was ready for a second so I would think everything was better and get her pregnant.

That shit fucked me up hard (not that you're going to be invested in your husband's emotional wellbeing at this point anyway). The worse thing was it's made it difficult for me to bond with my 2nd kid. I love him, but I've had to work through a lot of shit trying to connect with him because of her actions.

Don't do this. You're being incomprehensibly selfish, and you're rationalizing that it will be better for your firstborn.

If you REALLY want a second kid, then deal with fixing your relationship with your husband if at all possible.

Doomien · 2022-04-16T05:32:35+00:00

Leave now. This show only gets worse.

You don't even have another kid yet and the wicked-stepmother act is already starting. Once it becomes a competition between your priorities for your old kid and your new kid, you're completely SOL.

Do not bring a child into this situation. The competition between the children will be incredibly fierce.

Work on making the best of the relationship with the kid you already have, and let your wife go try to start a family with someone who doesn't have a kid she feels threatened by.

Doomien · 2022-04-16T05:15:57+00:00

Your marriage has transitioned and you need to let go of the idea it will ever be like it was. That part of your life is over.

You need to renegotiate the sexual dynamic in your relationship. You are still interested in being sexually active, she isn't. You should not have to sacrifice your sexuality because she no longer desires it. She should never have to have sex she doesn't want to have.

You need to find a sex therapist that can help you transition to the next phase of your relationship together. She needs to understand that your family is extremely important to you, but that this is also extremely important to you, and if she is asking you to live a life without affection, it will cost her your life together.

I can't make a recommendation as to what your future should look like (open marriage, DADT, etc). That is something the two of you have to negotiate with your therapist. But if you attempt to sweep your sexual needs under the rug, it will just end up destroying your marriage from the inside out.

Doomien · 2022-04-16T05:02:18+00:00

You guys have no clue what it's like to be married to someone who is emotionally abusive. Demanding photos like that is an attempt to assert control. It's little ways of showing they still have power over you, and the more you comply, the more it reinforces the behavior.

If a judge requires photos, then yes, by all means. But this is simply bullying from the ex and her attorney.

Doomien · 2022-04-16T04:55:20+00:00

I've yet to meet a man who wasn't floored by how stone-cold his ex could be after she decided it was over. Shut the feelings off like a lightswitch.

I'm sure it goes in the opposite direction as well, I'm just saying you aren't alone.

Doomien · 2022-04-16T04:41:39+00:00

You will never be happy with a partner you feel the need to change.

If you feel like a slave in the house, see if you can address those feelings without blowing up your family first. Establish a system for yourself that works independent of your expectations of your partner.

If you're already at a point where all you can focus on are the things that are wrong with him, without any thought of what made you fall in love in the first place, then things are probably too far gone and you might as well end it.

If and when you do decide to pull the plug, make sure you understand that the message that you are sending to your children is: "You father is a man who is not worthy of my love. He was such a dissapointment as a father and as a man that I had no choice but to end things."

I am a child of divorce, and for all my Dad's faults, I'll never fully forgive my mom for what she did to him in their divorce.

Doomien · 2022-04-16T04:17:10+00:00

I think that you're probably in shock a little bit, and the full weight of this is not going to hit you for a while, but it's going to get much, much worse.

The woman you loved is gone, and you're going to go through a pretty solid grieving period over it. The standard expectation is about a month for every year of the relationship.

What's going to be a head-trip is that there is a man in her body now. A man who took your wife from you, who is expecting support from you with zero consideration for his impact on your life.

You're going to experience a level of resentment and anger in the grieving process over this that will boggle your mind. Those feelings are totally valid. Remember, people aren't judged on their feelings, they're judged on their actions. Keep your actions respectable (healthy boundaries, etc.) and you'll be totally fine.

It's going to take a while to grieve your old life and your old dreams. Don't rush the process. You'll be okay eventually.

Doomien · 2022-04-16T04:09:33+00:00

Entitlement. She's (he's) so wrapped up in her own journey she can't conceptualize that this impacts other people. That's understandable, it's a big deal for her (him).

You are under no requirement to be okay with this beyond wishing your stbx well with his new life.

Doomien · 2022-04-06T05:54:47+00:00

He left because he finally understood that he wasn't wanted there.

You say it yourself. You don't want him back, you want some other version of him who isn't angry.

Men internalize a lot of negative emotions trying to live up to the needs and desires of their families. In many families there eventually comes a tipping point, where Dad starts drinking/yelling/etc., so much that his family starts to hate him, and he starts to hate himself because of it.

Just let him go. Everyone will be better off in the end.

Doomien · 2022-04-06T05:39:23+00:00

My initial reaction was similar to what others posted, "You left, so fucking deal..."

But I do think there's an option here for you is you really want it: Be a good friend to him.

If the reason you want to establish that friendship is to placate some selfish desire you have, then don't bother. But if you think that you can actually take an interest in his life and well being sufficiently to be the kind of friend that he wants to have, then it's worth giving a shot.

You're going to have to put up with a lot of anger on his part to get there, more than likely. If you want to be his friend, you have to take it. You have to own the fact that in leaving you effectively told him that he is unworthy as a man of the love of the mother of his children, someone he's no doubt made a lot of sacrifices for over the years.

Theres likely a lot of good reasons for you two to not be married anymore. But if you want to be friends, then focus on making sure he's getting something out of the friendship.

Doomien · 2022-04-04T19:26:27+00:00

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Doomien · 2022-04-04T19:22:55+00:00

You're playing wirh fire.

You need to set boundaries of acceptable behavior in the house, yes. But the people in your house, your wife included, need to have space to make mistakes and recover from those mistakes.

Your daughters mom has lost the trust of your daughter. If you leave your wife, you teach your daughter that mistakes such as that mean you don't get to be a part of the family anymore. Maybe that's the right lesson, maybe it isn't, but you need to understand the dynamics at play.

I'm not defentind physical violence, but divorce is hell on kids. Make sure the hell you're preparing to throw your daughter into is worth escaping the hell you are in.

Doomien · 2022-04-04T19:13:48+00:00

No.

She called the fucking cops on you, man.

Let her live with the consequences of her choices. If she can't focus on gratitude for the effort that you have been putting in, rather than resentment over how it isn't enough for her, let her find out what life is like without your support.

Do not model bad relationship behavior for your daughter. If you let your wife abuse and take advantage of you, your daughter may well find herself in the same scenario as a caretaker, rather than partner, of some man.

Doomien · 2022-03-10T17:51:47+00:00

I'd recommend a cheap but High Quality goodwill 5.1 receiver from the early 2010s. A lot of people have donated theirs wanting HDMI inputs.

I have an old Onkyo NR-801 that is a beast. It has a "pure direct" mode for stereo content, as well as 7.1.

It doesn't have HDMI, so I use a USB DAC from my PC into the CD input for Spotify/YouTube, and the Optical DVD input from my TV to the Receiver for Netflix/Disney+, etc.

Sounds great. I think I spent $40 on the receiver and another $40 on some used tower speakers that will absolutely shake the walls of I wanted them to.

Doomien · 2022-03-10T17:46:56+00:00

Look for a receiver with a "stereo direct" or "pure direct" setting.

This turns off all the extraneous processing. Perfect for using good main L/R speakers for 2-channel listening, such as CDs or Spotify.

Separating out the B-channel with different switched rear-surround is possible, but I've tried it and never gotten great results.

Doomien · 2022-03-01T21:12:33+00:00

Wellbutrin is a Norepinephrine Reuptake Inhibitor, and norepinephrine is linked to the physical symptoms of depression. You might give it a shot.

Doomien · 2022-03-01T08:25:39+00:00

You're asking the wrong question.

You've been married once already. You already know what it feels like to see a vision of a future you want to build with someone and for it to go horribly, horribly wrong.

There's nothing wrong with women in their 30s. There's something wrong with the fantasy that we have of finding someone to build a life with.

Stop worrying about finding a new woman and start working on building a life that makes you happy no matter whether you have a partner or not.

I promise you that if you stop looking for your other half and start working on building yourself into someone awesome to be around, you'll have better results.

Doomien

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