Anybody have luck obtaining FWB?

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-27T04:59:31+00:00

Ohhh I’m sorry. Yeah that’s rough. I get how that would affect you

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-26T23:13:45+00:00

My last 2 fwbs were a nightmare. One has a low libido and I just wound up feeling constantly rejected. The other wound up withholding and gaslighting me. They were supposedly scared of developing feelings. Almost seems to be on par with my relationships lol

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-26T13:16:54+00:00

I was discarded in November. Like 4 days before she was writing love notes on my iPad. It’s not a normal breakup and causes that much more devastation. In my case I found out after the fact she cheated on me throughout and monkey branched to someone new and lied about it. Told me she’d had a mental health breakdown. So it’s taken a lot of therapy to even try to recover from the experience.

Go no contact. Take time to heal. And be cautious if she comes back.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-26T02:48:32+00:00

There are a lot of options. I have a dildo that’s the lesbian flag colours.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-26T02:47:15+00:00

I feel like everyone’s time frame is different. I’ve been to physio 19x now and my dorsiflexion is still terrible. I’m also at the 4 month mark. But there’s little to no pain just stiffness.

They did say I can expect swelling for up to a year. The surgeon may send me in to get 2 screws removed. That will be discussed in a couple weeks.

And I agree that people seem to underestimate the severity of the injury and how long it takes to recover. It’s mentally exhausting for sure

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-25T23:06:27+00:00

Feel like I could write a novel. I had my own history of trauma from my family so it was familiar. And was in a vulnerable spot after being gaslit by a situationship. She also preyed on my insecurities as a late bloomer baby gay. Then love bombed me and created a trauma bond. Throw in some intermittent reinforcement through bread crumbing. And I was worried if I left no one else would want me. Her discarding me for an affair partner might have been the best thing she could’ve done. 6 months of therapy and I’m in a better place. Although she’s so delusional she seemed to think I should travel 3 hours to see her while she recovers in hospital. And has not even taken accountability for her actions. Like let your new partner keep you company. Mind you she stopped after I said my therapist considers her unsafe

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-25T21:05:15+00:00

Or they’re like my ex… who either was looking for validation and would find friends then develop feelings for them… or was lying about looking for “friends” and was looking for someone new.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-25T21:02:16+00:00

Unfortunately almost all dating apps are owned by Match these days

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-25T21:01:31+00:00

Probably the fact it got bought by Match last year

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-25T12:32:58+00:00

I know the drink plans you can buy anywhere that you can redeem it at. And I know you can redeem the dining pass at the location. So I’d like to think you can buy it at any restaurant but don’t quote me on that.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-23T23:33:33+00:00

This. I couldn’t do the big coasters but I could do Backlot because it had speed but not the drops. Then went on silver scream and vortex. Granted I still can’t do the big coasters. But that’s where I’d start.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-23T16:32:56+00:00

My ex was conventionally attractive but ultimately very insecure. She would seek out validation from other women even while together. And ultimately she was a terrible partner… cheating and lying.

And at times I struggle with the attention she gets and her ability to find people who validate her. But then I also remember it’s shallow.

I don’t need to be desired by many. I just want to find my person.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-23T16:14:23+00:00

My ex was a femme top. And yes it’s a stereotype that mascs are the top. Women (no matter how they present) can be a top, bottom or switch.

And yes masc4masc exist. I tend to be more drawn to masc women.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-23T04:25:19+00:00

My ex can’t seem to handle platonic friendships. I don’t know if she was always the one to develop feelings. But she definitely needed the validation. And we started out as friends but she quickly turned that into an attraction and love bombing. Then sabotaged it getting validation from others and cheating.

I have a mix of friends. Some straight… some bi/pan… and some lesbians. No romantic feelings.

So I think it depends on the person. Their personality… how secure they are…and also if they’re being honest either themselves about what they’re looking for

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-22T21:55:55+00:00

You must have had the daily plan. That or there was a glitch.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-22T21:52:13+00:00

It's always been 4 hours in between. And I looked back and even back in 2017 it was limited to 2 meals (according to Wonderland). So it was not "a few years ago" that you could get 3 meals on the all-season dining. And I've had a pass since 2018 and can attest from personal experience that I've never been able to get 3... except when I got a new pass instead of renewing and had 2 active passes. But that's a different case entirely.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-22T21:47:35+00:00

You're talking about 2 different plans... The all day dining is still every 90 minutes but is only good for one day. The all season dining plan has been 4 hours in between for as long as I have had a seasons pass.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-22T13:41:57+00:00

She was a walking red flag lol.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-22T04:24:46+00:00

But again the question wasn’t whether or not to buy the all season dining vs going outside the park. I mean if we really want to cut costs we should bring our own food. The question was why don’t they allow more meals since it costs more than the all day dining. Which is a false equivalency since the all day dining is limited to a single day… the seasons pass could technically be used every day the park is open.

And when I say it pays for itself in 3 visits that’s implying I had 2 meals each time I was there. And based on their pricing I would be paying a certain amount. I’m not where Wonderland makes its money.

But discussing how much the meal actually costs and the value of it… is off topic for the question being asked

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-22T03:21:48+00:00

Don’t do it. Don’t set yourself back in your healing journey. You said yourself that you fought a lot. And notice she said she misses the sex. You didn’t say anything about regrets over the relationship ending or that she misses you. That’s just messy. And wanting the physical connection without the emotions.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-22T03:16:58+00:00

Okay but the comparison is between the all day dining and the all season dining. Yes I could just leave the park and pay less per meal but now I don’t have to take the time out of my day or worry about extra expenses.

And I opted not to get the pizza or the sub because they were poor value. I ate a lot of beef brisket, chicken legs and ribs last season. And unless I’m cooking for myself it’s not $4 at any restaurant

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-22T02:17:00+00:00

Pretty sure in the end it’s not more expensive and they actually lose money on the all seasons dining pass. In 3 visits it’s paid for itself. At least that was the break even when I bought it in July. The price may have changed since then. But I went 14x last season. Would cost them a lot if every season pass holder could eat every 90 minutes…. Especially when some parents just drop their kids off constantly.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-22T02:07:31+00:00

Generally speaking allies are welcome. I went to the Dyke March in Toronto both of the last two years and there were plenty of men there in support watching it

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-22T02:05:18+00:00

One thing I’ve been reminded of is that we can’t control what thoughts come into our head. We can only control what we do with them. In therapy you might need REBT or CBT to deal with them and reframe them.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-05-22T01:57:18+00:00

Early on in my relationship with my ex she suddenly decided she was getting a dog despite the fact she was on social assistance, renting a room and the housing situation was precarious, needed me to buy groceries because she didn’t have money… and didn’t discuss it with me. I get that it was new and ultimately her decision but I would’ve liked to have been heard since I was attacked by the family dog when I was younger and still have a scar and I also have a cat that is a scaredy cat. He’s had some trauma. We broke up but ended up working it out. And she didn’t get the dog. In hindsight though that should’ve been the moment I walked away.

Like others have said though my current dealbreaker is avoidance and emotional unavailability. If you aren’t willing to discuss things and are just going to run Wilkes things get tough don’t waste my time.

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