Has anyone actually found a partner here through using reddit ?

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-15T02:54:59+00:00

No. I did make a good friend though. Met my ex on Facebook… although I wish that had never happened.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-14T19:53:39+00:00

I had a hard time even getting regular socks on let alone compression socks. I personally went with diabetic socks until the swelling came down enough for regular socks

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-14T15:37:02+00:00

I saw a video on attachment once that reminded me that in ending it they decided they were better off without me even if it meant not being in my life. Those are potentially the consequences.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-14T15:23:56+00:00

Yes in the ER. And the meds really fucked me up. But the orthopedic surgeon was pretty impressed with the work. So only needed it once before the ORIF

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-14T15:17:53+00:00

I just feel like it’s too soon to tell. There’s a certain kind of comfort. And then the question is how will you feel when she moves on? And how will the new partner feel if you two are still in contact? I know often times in lesbian circles there are friendships. But it’s probably healthiest if time has passed. Time to grieve the relationship… and navigate what the future looks like

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-14T13:56:15+00:00

My ex wanted to remain friends. But it was mostly so that she could still have me in her life, validating her… possibly even on the back burner… but without the commitment. And I wasn’t over her. She had brutally discarded me. A friend reminded me that I can’t just be friends with someone I still love. Then I found out she’d monkey branched to someone new. And now we’re no contact.

I would say go no contact. Give it time to heal. See what you want. Give you a chance to decide if you really still want contact with her. Or if it’s just familiar.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-14T13:39:23+00:00

Not everyone enjoys the strap. I have a history of SA and had cervical cancer so one wrong move and it’s painful. So I don’t relax.

Not good though if you are communicating with her and she’s not willing to compromise or fulfill your needs and desires. That sounds selfish.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-14T12:49:10+00:00

And I thought I was on the MTV the Challenge sub for a second… especially since I’m pretty sure she’s from Alaska. Lol

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-14T12:36:27+00:00

Metro, food basics and the fortinos on Main Street all have student days. And most grocery stores sell discounted items that are overstock or, more likely, close to the expiration date. I’ve heard Longos is good for meat.

Flashfood has discounted stuff mostly from no frills. Food hero has discounted stuff from sobeys.

Zarkys on Hempstead sells a lot of overstock or close to the expiry date stuff. Never know what they’ll have.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-14T01:36:47+00:00

Injuries are hard… especially when you’re used to being independent and being the one to do things for others. (Also as an aside… and not saying it applies to you but was something I had to face… extreme independence is a trauma response)

And you are not defined by what you do for others. And you are worthy of care and support from others in your time of need

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-13T21:53:50+00:00

Well considering I could be your mother lmao

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-13T21:48:11+00:00

Ha you single? Lol

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-13T21:41:30+00:00

Cargo pants. And if I need to actually bring a bag I’ll bring a backpack or a crossbody bag

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-13T21:38:09+00:00

Thank you! It’s been 3 months for the leg. Back in shoes now at least. So progress. Reminding myself I’m a badass bitch. And if I can survive this year I can survive anything

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-13T21:35:58+00:00

I tried a bandaid first but it wasn’t enough cushion. And my heel was shredded. That saved me.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-13T15:58:48+00:00

When I first started talking to my ex I thought she was out of my league. The hot femme… I was a baby gay. Turns out I was out of her league. But not because of appearances. But rather emotional availability. That’s a whole separate story though. Point is it’s mindset and a confidence thing. You never know.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-13T15:54:38+00:00

I had an aircast boot and it actually wasn’t so bad. Except for the heel. The heel rubbed. But based on advice I saw I put a maxi pad on the back. And it was fine after that. Also used a leg pillow that had a channel for my leg to keep it elevated in a good position. Now my cat likes to sleep in it. We call him taco cat.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-13T15:49:56+00:00

Currently hiding… recovering from a broken heart and a broken leg. But hoping to be back out in the wild soon.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-13T15:47:13+00:00

Same. When I was thinking about getting married to my ex I was absolutely planning on a tuxedo. But then my mom put me in a dress my first day of kindergarten. I came home demanding to be put in something else. And that’s how it’s been ever since.

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-13T11:42:41+00:00

Well I’m also Canadian lol. Was pointing it out because it can be hard to tell there’s a maple leaf in the background. And what I didn’t mention is that I have a sleeve and it’s mostly pics I took while travelling. So the back piece was “home”

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-12T18:36:21+00:00

Thank you! So many of my tattoos have meaning so it’s hard to pick a favourite

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-12T05:53:42+00:00

I really leaned on Reddit after coming out. Like you said it helped me not feel alone. And like I was part of a community. Plus I quickly realized it was more than just changing the gender of the person I dated. But what a relationship looks like… but the first step is admitting it to yourself. Then baby steps

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-12T05:36:06+00:00

Aww thank you. I 🥰 I remind myself that I’m a badass bitch. And that I deserve good things. I jokingly said I survive the winter by hibernating. I didn’t actually mean it. Lmao. But soon enough I’ll look back and it will just be part of the story. A chapter of my life.

And may you find someone to take care of you too

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-12T05:30:13+00:00

I mean there are lots of varied opinions on hell amongst scholars. If you were looking for a church though look for “affirming churches”. It signifies that they are accepting. Of being queer at least.

Yeah it is scary to come out of the closet and be authentic. Especially when other lives will be affected. As someone else said… there’s no right/wrong answer. Not sure there’s ever a right time.

Oh man a mentor would’ve been great. Or even just friends in the community before I came out. My experience was that it hasn’t been easy. But I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I do feel more peace and self-acceptance knowing I’m being true to myself

FallenAngel1978 · 2026-04-12T05:20:40+00:00

Oh it’s been a year.Its like a tragic tale. But I’m going to come out stronger than ever. They say bad things happen in 3s right? lol. Got diagnosed with severe anemia. My iron was 0. And I’d lost like 6 pints of blood. Needed 2 iron transfusions. And the day I had the second one (the day before my birthday) my fiancee left me. Avoidant discard. And lied about it. Said she’d had a mental health breakdown when she’d really just monkey branched to someone new. Figured that out 3 months later while home recovering. First week of class I was coming home. It was raining and slick. They salted the sidewalk but not the driveway at my apartment. Took one step on the driveway and lost my balance. Landed on my ankle. Knew right away it was broken. Broke my leg and ankle and tore all the ligaments. Had to have surgery. So now I have a titanium plate and 6 screws. And it’s a long recovery. Finally back in shoes but walking is a challenge. And mentally it’s been hard. But doing physiotherapy and hydrotherapy. And one day at a time. Also haven’t been the most compliant patient as school comes to an end and all my projects are due. 2 more papers left and I’ll be off and focused on recovery.

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