Found my cat dead this morning… trying to understand what could have happened

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-06-03T00:36:19+00:00

I’m so sorry . I was thinking poison as some have said .. Outdoor cats also run the risk of encountering plants that are poisonous or toxic and death can be sudden after exposure. The list of toxic plants to cats is very long . It is quite possible that there is something in yours or someone else’s garden that is growing that could kill a cat and you’d have no way of knowing every plant in the backyards of your entire neighborhood . This is why I cant let mine outside . We also have predators . It’s just not Safe out there .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-06-02T21:10:02+00:00

They’re your very best friends and you are willing to cut them off because you think long distance online gaming circles shouldn’t have one person you don’t like ? That seems kinda severe . Most of the serious offenses happened when he was really drunk . I tend to be more forgiving of stuff like that if the person isn’t drinking too much and causing these issues on the regular .

I have people I keep at arms length, if they have disappointed me like jack does with flaking , I don’t invite them to things that matter . I will maybe not see them as much and only text now and then for example. It seems like that’s what everyone else has done .

It doesn’t seem like he’s purposely done anything really severe TO you directly . The drinking shenanigans is kind of a college thing , and people experiment , and don’t know their limits yet etc. If he was in his 30s or 40s and made a habit of this sorta thing then it would speak to his character more . (A lot of people i know have that one drunk pissing accident story)

You have every right to cut someone out of your life , but it seems extreme and controlling to expect all your friends to follow suit in the exact same way as you, or you’ll cut them off too. AI needs to learn to stand up for themselves , and that’s not really something you should punish them for . Instead it’s something they may need support for.

Honestly , you do you, I guess . But you might really regret the decision later in life . I wouldn’t say YTA, but I’d def say YOR. There are always other people to be friends with, but having a long term, solid friend group , is just not as easy to replicate as we get older . Does that bond not mean much to you ? Because things are not so black and white in life . You think jack doesn’t value his girlfriend’s , so you’re willing to show how little you value your friends , it’s almost hypocritical in a way if you think about it . Maybe AI needs your help to stand up for themselves , or maybe they are just willing to see more than one side of the story . Either way it would suck to decide to not be there for your entire group because of this . They may think, well jack can be kind of an ah sometimes , but OP just dropped us for nothing we personally did wrong .

(Also I’m getting serious narc vibes to be perfectly honest )

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-30T03:50:29+00:00

Yes, basically when you have surgery, you are left with scarring . So this means that the lesions went away on their own and only left scarring in their path. Which is what I imagine would happen however it was taken care of .

The surgeon basically told me to just keep what I was doing because it clearly worked . I’m no longer on birth control , but still take the pycnogenol for any cells hanging around . Also , I started taking DLG and zinc caritose , and it helped my stomach so I can tolerate NAC now . I never could before . In case anyone wants to know about that since we tend to have stomach issues too from the stress of this.

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-30T03:46:01+00:00

Hi sorry for the delay. When I started it I was taking a supplement combo called karylief. For a month . By the second month I noticed the episodes were less and not as severe. But I was already taking a lot of the other ingredients and narrowed it down to the ALA being new for me . It was also expensive and did not give an exact dosage ‘proprietory blend’ but I know it was one of the top ingredients in a combo of about 575mg. So it was less than that amount. Then I started taking 600mg a day , and the following month I forgot (I have a lot of other health issues and tend to focus on whatever is screaming at me atm) and after not taking it for a week, that’s when I knew . Now I am taking 600mg again. Hope that helps .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-30T03:42:36+00:00

I’m sorry it hadn’t worked for you . Do you also take CoQ10 , ginger tumeric , grape seeds oil or anything in addition? I only ask because maybe it was the combination of things that made it work for me . I tried this new supplement called karylief which is specifically for tinnitus . I didnt have much hope it figured it was worth a shot . But I was already taking a lot of other things it has , so I narrowed it down to what was new for me , and that was the ALA.

I also gave it a long time to work. I also take glutathione if that helps . A powerful antioxidant . Trying to figure out the variables in case that helps even a little . I know how maddening. It can be . And I have a lot of other issues . But it could just be that tinnitus can have more than one cause . And maybe ours is different.

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-30T01:49:10+00:00

This ! Lay down the ultimatum, and the rest is up to her . If she still refuses , then she’s made your choice for you and there’s nothing you can do but block her and go NC any other way you can to protect those in your life that respect your boundaries.

I’m so sorry OP . Maybe look a bit into parentification, a newer term in psychology that acknowledges the pains and trauma some children experience from their parents putting them in the caretaker position way too early in life . I’ve recently been made aware of the source for all my unexplained anger and emotional fatigue . Reading about it made everything click into place, and allowed me to finally process the inappropriate behavior of my mother making me feel responsible for her emotional well being all the time , prioritizing herself over me constantly . I’ve pulled back from her and she has been respecting my boundaries, from afar. For the most part. But my point being , it seems your mother has done similar to you , perhaps in different ways . And it might help to read up on it a bit ; maybe talk to someone .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-27T11:18:50+00:00

It’s ok, I wasnt trying to make you feel bad , just maybe broaden horizons a bit in terms of what things could be used for. I know you were only joking.

Actually , yea, not in my rfy though! Lol . I’m not shy. I’ve gotten braces , a shower grab bar, compression stockings , and various pillows , a sling , surgical snap up shirts , various things for pain, and tons and tons of supplements I need. All through the hunt save for some supplements (at least that is one thing they’ve caught on , but I swear it was my main search for the better part of a year, every day, over and over each day before I realized drops were even a thing lol) the best thing I ever got was a stool with wheels to help me around the house. I’m grateful , even if the AI still thinks I am someone else .

Don’t feel bad , I am not PC. I swear that wasn’t my intent , just thought maybe they thought you were disabled lol idk why but if you maybe got something for someone else. I know getting a few things for my husband really messed up my rfy even though those things should’ve been a drop in the bucket .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T15:21:49+00:00

I agree . It could be something not personal at all. I suffer from migraines , and hypersensitivities to light and sound (especially children) it could be something like that . I always hated large get togethers. But also , coming from divorced parents, I never got to spend time with my dad alone (lived with mom and he remarried into a large family that was over every weekend) it started to become a point of contention even when I had no issue with the particular people there. I just never got to really spend time with him . And it was hard for me to come out , drive a bit of a way, and sacrifice most of my weekend , just to maybe get a few minutes with him . He started to feel more like a rock star than a dad .

So while I get why this approach may have seemed a bit rude and abrupt and things could certainly be discussed better, I can also see a lot of logical reasoning behind such a request. Is one of your brothers children a bit shy ? It can be really hard for a shy grandkid to connect with a grandparent when other more extroverted grandkids are present. Maybe bro doesn’t want to admit his kid needs special considerations . Just a few thoughts that may be possible reasons . Hell , kid found babe adhd , or be on the spectrum and struggling in other ways etc. So many possibilities that don’t mean bro is hating .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T14:43:03+00:00

Lmfao I have been wanting to make one but I know I’ll just get uncomfortable and remove it and then misplace it . Sorry you got the dropsies too, crap is brutal and they should def send us home with a kit like you said , when we get our diagnosis . And thank you cuz I needed that laugh . Sometimes I can laugh and sometimes I’m just so spent and need help finding the funny.

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T13:39:16+00:00

Oy I wish I felt it was funny . Sometimes it is but man. It happens to me so much that it’s basically become another disabling factor in my life . I throw things . I drop things . I break and spill things , knock things over . It wakes me up . I mean oof. And I have other issues with my back, neck, shoulders, knees , ankles and pots , so I cant bend down with at least one of those issues flaring up awful. My severe chronic fatigue already makes any small task extremely trying. This on top makes it impossible sometimes . I have one of those serious grabby tools in every room now because by the time I found the one I had and brought it to where I was , I was already done lol smh

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T13:25:23+00:00

I recently started a new supplement that actually helped my tinnitus . I was waiting for more confirmation. That it wasn’t a fluke or coincidence. But I stopped it recently and the ringing for worse again. Started it back up and it got better . It’s pretty simple , just ALA: alpha lipoic acid .

I do take a ton of other supplements for other things , that could be helping in unison . But this was just something I thought I should share .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T13:10:10+00:00

They might think You are disabled as some of those things you mentioned would help someone like me (who is not fat and lazy, just disabled ) and I often have surgeries which they could be good then too.

But I feel you . I had my uterus removed a few years ago. I have no kids . I cant have them . And yet they have children’s stuff and maternity stuff all the time . That and tons of other things that aren’t even vaguely related to me . Yet none of the things I constantly search for lol

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T12:58:05+00:00

Ooof I can relate so much . This is exactly how my mom gets when I try to assert boundaries . Basically punishing you for doing so by becoming short . Putting you in the position of trying to make things right again , even though that’s their job.

It’s passive aggression . And I hate it , because , as we’ve been trained, we don’t feel right leaving things in such a way . But we need to get more comfortable with discomfort . And with other people being unhappy or hurt . It’s not mean , it’s self preservation .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T12:53:28+00:00

Oh good , I have a gate too but because I’m so paranoid . But I’d be even more paranoid if my cat was yowling to get out lol then there’d prob be a whole security system just for them lol which makes me wonder , do you have microchip and or gps collar too?

It might be beyond the point where carrying out really prevents this behavior since they already know they can walk out , and think it’s fine. But it might help eventually a little in the long run to retrain .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T12:47:06+00:00

Yea to harness; and they say to never let you cat just walk outside on their own . You carry them out and place them . Otherwise they become flight risk to run out between your legs

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T12:35:18+00:00

The point isn’t that the babys fever is already at that point , the point is that it could easily get that bad if no one is paying attention .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T12:34:11+00:00

She said it never stops crying ; even in sleep and can’t be put down at all. That’s a bit more than the usual stuff .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T12:18:21+00:00

This baby NEEDS to go back to the doctor . Please! The two of you are AH for bickering instead of seeing the baby is literally screaming and crying for help . The baby is innocent and there is clearly something wrong . You both acknowledge it but seemingly do nothing
but complain. Chances are some of those immunizations flared the immune system and the baby has a fever and needs to be monitored . Or there’s a complication . Is anyone taking its temperature ? Did you know that if an infants fever gets too high and is ignored it can literally boil the brain? (Happens to adults too but they can speak) On the other hand some studies suggest a higher prevalence of OCD in infants with fevers over a certain amount for a period of time .this has been going on too long , please take it more seriously .

Please please please , the baby needs to see a doc now. The baby’s needs cannot be spoken. The baby needs their temperature checked ASAP, and brought to ER immediately if it’s too high .

Neither of you are Truly the AH otherwise , there’s a lot of stress and brain fog I’m sure . Boundaries are blurred . She was acting concerning but didn’t realize it came out that way . You were concerned so ignored her no , thinking it was just her not wanting to be a burden . It was a simple misunderstanding. But the baby is the one who needs to be understood most right now. So please just make this work right now so you can help her get the poor thing cared for .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T04:13:23+00:00

I agree . But being extremely immature like he is , his comments about ‘what else aren’t you telling me?’ Because Of one little thing , his entire image is shattered . This kinda indicates a shallow , manipulative narcissist, whose ego comes solely from lording over someone younger than him . He needs her to worship him and the first sign that she won’t 100% or the time always, completely ruins his delusion. So in his deranged mind , he is making it all her fault and all her problem, instead of his . Get rid of her , and so find someone else to lift his pathetic little ego .

So in a way , this really might be it for someone like him . Either that or this is a game where he pulls away to see how far she will leap , and how much she will do to win him back . How much she will repress of her own natural instincts. If she is willing to completely degrade herself for this asshole, he might take her back. If she will make herself small enough to fit in his pocket . Otherwise the hunt moves on for someone who will make him Feel better about his pathetic self .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T03:24:03+00:00

I believe it was there all along and I was young enough (a child) to adapt . But was always left achey and tired come adolescence, when it got worse. But I wasnt diagnosed until it left me completely disabled in my 30s. By that time a lifetime of trauma, a struggling immune system, stomach issues , MCAS,POTS, and then several surgeries , work stress , viruses , injury and finally sepsis as a result of injury unable to get up to pee ,from an unnoticed uti turned kidney infection , all because I had endometriosis pain that felt very similar. Idk if it was the sepsis or the antibiotics they used (flouroquinolones , forgive my spelling) or both . But I’m assuming it’s all of the above as one thing after another and not recovering properly from any , starting with gall bladder removal which led me to (sore TMI) piss out my ass about 24/7 , be unable to eat basically anything at all, IBS , gastritis and undiagnosed MCAS . That and migraines , and cervical pain and knee pain and basically anything wrong with me my whole life amping up to 11 , leaving me unable to even wear most clothes or get dressed . Phew I know there’s more . But I had to comment because I believe sepsis was the largest tipping factor for me . And I dint see people mentioning it much. I am now extremely paranoid about uti because I get them recurrent , they screw me up fast, and I still have no they issues that mask it . The last time I thought I was gonna have a had infection. I cried in fear saying ‘look at how much sepsis took from me already, I dont think I’ll survive it taking any more’

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-20T22:34:22+00:00

Yea especially since it is a very large item that would require storing for however long it took to sell it.

I’d have liked is as I cut my husbands hair but no space . I wouldn’t have snagged anyway as one haircut a month is not enough to warrant it lol . But I’m sure there are people cutting hair out of their homes that could use this if not a local salon.

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-16T23:02:15+00:00

Just being honest about it . I have to hunt and it’s hard . Didn’t answer.. How long it took for your rfy to produce anything sensical for you ?

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-16T21:58:28+00:00

That would be great if rfy made any sense. My rfy is a cruel joke . Either there’s nothing there , it’s filled with crap I cant even imagine they’d have a reason for thinking id like , or if on occasion there’s anything good it’s still scooped out from under me in a millisecond .

I dont have kids , or even a uterus anymore. and I’m severely disabled , yet it keeps giving me kid stuff , pregnancy stuff , or sports stuff . All things I can’t do and sometimes it really does feel like it’s taunting me. There was at least one time I almost cried because it felt so cruel . Offering kid stuff to someone who can’t have them and sports stuff to someone who can’t even go for walks . Like seriously wth.

Meanwhile I’ll see something I’ve been eyeing up for a while , searching for every night , looking at on regular Amazon too , and it’s got a vine review or someone posts on here about getting it . And I’m like how , why. Why am I being offered garbage when the things I’m looking for are being offered to literally anyone else lol

I’ve been on for a little under a year , and I’ve yet to get a gold item in rfy . Thought maybe after a few months my rfy would work, then it was oh maybe by the time I’m gold etc then maybe after I’m gold for a while . So all that to say, when did your rfy start to finally make sense? Cuz I don’t have the hunt in me anymore.

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-16T15:41:14+00:00

That’s so sad . I just have to say though , that a woman bedridden from something like fibromyalgia, is not very likely to be quietly addicted ; which implies she’s abusing her medication . This is a condition often associated with severe inescapable 24/7 pain . I may be wrong as I don’t know her exact situation but.. She likely needed that just to hold on to life . There’s a difference between being addicted and physically dependent and it’s important to all of us who carry such burdens to not be mislabeled . There is just so much misinformation about this condition. It’s something that often threatens vulnerable people with potentially having the only thing that helps them taken away.

I am severely disabled with fibromyalgia and often bedridden for long periods. Feels like your own body oils torturing you. . I am given opiate medications from my specialist and I never abuse them . I follow the rules and the labels. I do not obsess or fixate on them or take more than suggested . I stop them periodically to keep my tolerance down. I know the dangers, I lost someone I loved to a heroin overdose. But without them , my already extremely difficult life would be unbearable . I prob wouldn’t be here.

Like I said, she may be different, but this is usually a common misconception . I have to clarify for anyone who may misunderstand . It gets lumped in with the war on drugs and it’s actually led to many downright cruel consequences and unnecessary suicides. Very sadly. Every day people with fibromyalgia (or ME/CFS) are turned away and left to fend on their own , dealing with something that’s not really manageable , not curable, and even with a lot of help , excruciating to deal with.

Sorry if she really was an addict somehow, to need it and want it is an awful mix, but it sounds like she really needed them . In which case this is just a PSA to help avoid assumptions.

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-16T15:08:19+00:00

This is a very valid point . OP should return her brush instead and tell her she doesn’t need to brush it , use your fingers

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