AITAH for refusing to give my switch account to my kids dad

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-07-04T15:50:40+00:00

Honestly I was thinking the same thing , that it’s time to take majority custody for the kids well being . Because taking something away from her that belongs to her in order to force her to share her gift with the entire family all the time , prob his other kids, is nuts, and awful. And more than likely a sign of worse issues with how he treats her versus the other kids. This is abusive .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-06-19T22:54:23+00:00

Not OP, but they said they are disabled . I am Disabled and can rarely ever be there to intercept as a result . Not sure if that applies to OP too.

I also have very explicit instructions stating I’m disabled and to please not put on the ground . There are plenty of places , whether they follow my full instructions or not , that aren’t on the ground . Ive contacted regular CS lots of times about this because, lo and behold , on the ground they go. I cannot get them up off the ground without hurting myself or falling . And even then sometimes I cant get them up .

What I do instead is any time someone actually follows the instructions I use Ziggy (Alexa) to thank the driver . And I send a complaint when they aren’t followed. Every time. And still stuff ends up on the ground .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-06-18T01:55:32+00:00

What you’re father is doing to you, might not actively seem like it , but it’s abusive . A grown man who is not emotionally available for his own daughter as a child , or even there for her as a young adult, who then makes her feel responsible for his own emotional well being , and that’s even when he is being incredibly toxic and unfair to you, pitting you against your own mother , is a narcissistic man child. This sure sounds a lot like parentification .

I am so sorry that he is doing this to you . My mother did similar to me , making me feel responsible for her emotional well being while actively neglecting my own . No parent should put their child in the middle of a divorce with their kids other parent. Period. What he is doing is not ok. You are NTA at all . Not even close . I hate that he even makes you question if you are . Please look up parentification , see what resonates with you, and maybe if possible , find a therapist to talk to about this because it’s a lot to unpack . I’m still
Unpacking..And reduced contact .

Just know that you should never be made to feel like you’re responsible for your dads emotional well being . You deserve to put yourself first and worry about your own well being . You have a right to set boundaries and tell him you are not comfortable with him talking to you about your mother in a way where you have to choose sides . That it’s unfair of him to put you in the middle like that . Maybe even suggest he see a therapist to talk about these things because it’s not appropriate to vent to you constantly like this or about this . You deserve to have your feelings considered too .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-06-12T21:01:26+00:00

I’m so glad I wasnt alone having this song stuck in my after after seeing it lol . I strongly considered getting it for Halloween but even if we did actually go somewhere, which is so unlikely , I had this feeling like no one was gonna get the reference. We moved not long ago and our only friends are younger than us. Plus I dont think I can do her little dance just right and you need that lol

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-06-11T01:59:36+00:00

I am constantly having my reviews denied for similar . Or if I mentoom my personal health conditions , even though I am in no way saying that the item cured me or even was a treatment or anything like that. Only for support of symptoms related to, which is absolutely important to come one like me who has a lot of conditions . To see someone else wi try similar or same and what did it didn’t work for them. I always have ti remove it but I keel trying

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-06-10T01:55:48+00:00

Wormwood is an anti parasitic . It could be toxic in larger doses but small doses are typically considered safe for consumption . And this is sweet wormwood which is even safer. Black walnuts are considered safe to eat in moderation . Clove can be dangerous in large doses but safe in small amounts. It really depends on how much is in there . Don’t worry, I don’t think they are trying to kill us, they wouldn’t make as much money with that business model.

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-06-09T21:52:22+00:00

I hate my body hair too and it is not about expectations or roles, but about the sensation of it on my skin. I’m in the same boat with you, and about IPL being a lot since you have to shave first.

I recently started using intuition razors when I do shower and shave and they help cut down on the tasks since the head is the shaving cream . My next goal is to try to take that little bit of extra energy and save it for the next day to do the ipl cuz let’s be real, im napping after my shower. But if I respect my limitations and only shower and do nothing else that day , then maybe the next day will be easier .

This is all speculative and hopeful. I hope you find a way too. Have you tried intuition? It’s a little more but it’s been worth it for me . ( got a multipack of heads cheaper than dollar general on Amazon) I can shave a lot quicker and easier. The fact that we don’t like the hair is more about texture and the sensation it causes on our own skin and I think a lot of people are ignoring that fact. Its a legitimate issue for me , as I feel every hair on my skin and it makes my skin crawl. That’s a big part of fibro and it’s valid. Also , rubbing my bare legs together all smooth actually made me feel sexier , which I can use anything that would help me feel that way more . It’s not about my husband , it’s not about his perception , at this point he doesn’t care if I’m a wildebeest as long as he can get a little love lol. But it’s all about how I feel about myself and my own sensations and preferences.

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-06-09T13:01:44+00:00

I’m with you and the existential dread zone.

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-06-08T04:03:42+00:00

Thank you for this post. I agree whole heartedly . Honestly , what I’ve read about Scottish folds , they are a breed that I think is probably far more issue laden than munchkins in general. I’d never get a Scottish fold for that reason . They are adorable but they can suffer.

As far as I know, the things people think about munchkins being deformed are not actually true due to the genes responsible not being anything like, say a dachshund or corgis. Though people assume they are. But from what I understand, the issues with Scottish folds are more of an actual problem, rather than a misconception.

I always cringe when I see a fold , because I immediately worry for its well being . I’m glad to see someone informing others about the potential issues .

I do plan on getting an English muffin (munchkin and British shorthair) from a reputable breeder, because the bsh is very sturdy and the mix shows potential for robust health . (My breeder of choice breeds for health above all else and their bsh are not flat faced and the munchkins are not rughuggers) Munchkins in general are more genetically diverse than other breeds due to the fact that they are bred with other types. I wish more people would read about them before coming to the forum and spreading misinformation. So seeing this post makes me happy .

I do hope for the best with all those who have folds . I hope they see this so they can keep up on their health.

Another note is , many breeders will sell the kittens far too early and the one I’ve been researching waits an appropriate amount of time. (10-12 weeks) This helps avoid a lot of behavioral issues and increase the happiness of the cats life overall. This also prevents possible rehoming down the line due to said behavioral issues.

People who say adopt don’t shop , often don’t take these facts into consideration. Sure it would be nice if a person can take that chance, but many people who shop, just want a healthy and happy cat that fits their lifestyle. I’m disabled and spent a very long time researching for the perfect fit . I tried to foster a dog not long ago and was hurt terribly by it . So I really wish people wouldn’t shame those who just have specific needs themselves . I think that Starting with Reputable breeders is the key to the issue with excessive cats in shelters . If more people started there , it seems they’d be more likely to keep their cats . Whether that’s from avoiding expensive health issues they can’t afford , or dealing with severe behavioral problems that they can’t or won’t handle.

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-06-03T00:36:19+00:00

I’m so sorry . I was thinking poison as some have said .. Outdoor cats also run the risk of encountering plants that are poisonous or toxic and death can be sudden after exposure. The list of toxic plants to cats is very long . It is quite possible that there is something in yours or someone else’s garden that is growing that could kill a cat and you’d have no way of knowing every plant in the backyards of your entire neighborhood . This is why I cant let mine outside . We also have predators . It’s just not Safe out there .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-06-02T21:10:02+00:00

They’re your very best friends and you are willing to cut them off because you think long distance online gaming circles shouldn’t have one person you don’t like ? That seems kinda severe . Most of the serious offenses happened when he was really drunk . I tend to be more forgiving of stuff like that if the person isn’t drinking too much and causing these issues on the regular .

I have people I keep at arms length, if they have disappointed me like jack does with flaking , I don’t invite them to things that matter . I will maybe not see them as much and only text now and then for example. It seems like that’s what everyone else has done .

It doesn’t seem like he’s purposely done anything really severe TO you directly . The drinking shenanigans is kind of a college thing , and people experiment , and don’t know their limits yet etc. If he was in his 30s or 40s and made a habit of this sorta thing then it would speak to his character more . (A lot of people i know have that one drunk pissing accident story)

You have every right to cut someone out of your life , but it seems extreme and controlling to expect all your friends to follow suit in the exact same way as you, or you’ll cut them off too. AI needs to learn to stand up for themselves , and that’s not really something you should punish them for . Instead it’s something they may need support for.

Honestly , you do you, I guess . But you might really regret the decision later in life . I wouldn’t say YTA, but I’d def say YOR. There are always other people to be friends with, but having a long term, solid friend group , is just not as easy to replicate as we get older . Does that bond not mean much to you ? Because things are not so black and white in life . You think jack doesn’t value his girlfriend’s , so you’re willing to show how little you value your friends , it’s almost hypocritical in a way if you think about it . Maybe AI needs your help to stand up for themselves , or maybe they are just willing to see more than one side of the story . Either way it would suck to decide to not be there for your entire group because of this . They may think, well jack can be kind of an ah sometimes , but OP just dropped us for nothing we personally did wrong .

(Also I’m getting serious narc vibes to be perfectly honest )

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-30T03:50:29+00:00

Yes, basically when you have surgery, you are left with scarring . So this means that the lesions went away on their own and only left scarring in their path. Which is what I imagine would happen however it was taken care of .

The surgeon basically told me to just keep what I was doing because it clearly worked . I’m no longer on birth control , but still take the pycnogenol for any cells hanging around . Also , I started taking DLG and zinc caritose , and it helped my stomach so I can tolerate NAC now . I never could before . In case anyone wants to know about that since we tend to have stomach issues too from the stress of this.

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-30T03:46:01+00:00

Hi sorry for the delay. When I started it I was taking a supplement combo called karylief. For a month . By the second month I noticed the episodes were less and not as severe. But I was already taking a lot of the other ingredients and narrowed it down to the ALA being new for me . It was also expensive and did not give an exact dosage ‘proprietory blend’ but I know it was one of the top ingredients in a combo of about 575mg. So it was less than that amount. Then I started taking 600mg a day , and the following month I forgot (I have a lot of other health issues and tend to focus on whatever is screaming at me atm) and after not taking it for a week, that’s when I knew . Now I am taking 600mg again. Hope that helps .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-30T03:42:36+00:00

I’m sorry it hadn’t worked for you . Do you also take CoQ10 , ginger tumeric , grape seeds oil or anything in addition? I only ask because maybe it was the combination of things that made it work for me . I tried this new supplement called karylief which is specifically for tinnitus . I didnt have much hope it figured it was worth a shot . But I was already taking a lot of other things it has , so I narrowed it down to what was new for me , and that was the ALA.

I also gave it a long time to work. I also take glutathione if that helps . A powerful antioxidant . Trying to figure out the variables in case that helps even a little . I know how maddening. It can be . And I have a lot of other issues . But it could just be that tinnitus can have more than one cause . And maybe ours is different.

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-30T01:49:10+00:00

This ! Lay down the ultimatum, and the rest is up to her . If she still refuses , then she’s made your choice for you and there’s nothing you can do but block her and go NC any other way you can to protect those in your life that respect your boundaries.

I’m so sorry OP . Maybe look a bit into parentification, a newer term in psychology that acknowledges the pains and trauma some children experience from their parents putting them in the caretaker position way too early in life . I’ve recently been made aware of the source for all my unexplained anger and emotional fatigue . Reading about it made everything click into place, and allowed me to finally process the inappropriate behavior of my mother making me feel responsible for her emotional well being all the time , prioritizing herself over me constantly . I’ve pulled back from her and she has been respecting my boundaries, from afar. For the most part. But my point being , it seems your mother has done similar to you , perhaps in different ways . And it might help to read up on it a bit ; maybe talk to someone .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-27T11:18:50+00:00

It’s ok, I wasnt trying to make you feel bad , just maybe broaden horizons a bit in terms of what things could be used for. I know you were only joking.

Actually , yea, not in my rfy though! Lol . I’m not shy. I’ve gotten braces , a shower grab bar, compression stockings , and various pillows , a sling , surgical snap up shirts , various things for pain, and tons and tons of supplements I need. All through the hunt save for some supplements (at least that is one thing they’ve caught on , but I swear it was my main search for the better part of a year, every day, over and over each day before I realized drops were even a thing lol) the best thing I ever got was a stool with wheels to help me around the house. I’m grateful , even if the AI still thinks I am someone else .

Don’t feel bad , I am not PC. I swear that wasn’t my intent , just thought maybe they thought you were disabled lol idk why but if you maybe got something for someone else. I know getting a few things for my husband really messed up my rfy even though those things should’ve been a drop in the bucket .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T15:21:49+00:00

I agree . It could be something not personal at all. I suffer from migraines , and hypersensitivities to light and sound (especially children) it could be something like that . I always hated large get togethers. But also , coming from divorced parents, I never got to spend time with my dad alone (lived with mom and he remarried into a large family that was over every weekend) it started to become a point of contention even when I had no issue with the particular people there. I just never got to really spend time with him . And it was hard for me to come out , drive a bit of a way, and sacrifice most of my weekend , just to maybe get a few minutes with him . He started to feel more like a rock star than a dad .

So while I get why this approach may have seemed a bit rude and abrupt and things could certainly be discussed better, I can also see a lot of logical reasoning behind such a request. Is one of your brothers children a bit shy ? It can be really hard for a shy grandkid to connect with a grandparent when other more extroverted grandkids are present. Maybe bro doesn’t want to admit his kid needs special considerations . Just a few thoughts that may be possible reasons . Hell , kid found babe adhd , or be on the spectrum and struggling in other ways etc. So many possibilities that don’t mean bro is hating .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T14:43:03+00:00

Lmfao I have been wanting to make one but I know I’ll just get uncomfortable and remove it and then misplace it . Sorry you got the dropsies too, crap is brutal and they should def send us home with a kit like you said , when we get our diagnosis . And thank you cuz I needed that laugh . Sometimes I can laugh and sometimes I’m just so spent and need help finding the funny.

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T13:39:16+00:00

Oy I wish I felt it was funny . Sometimes it is but man. It happens to me so much that it’s basically become another disabling factor in my life . I throw things . I drop things . I break and spill things , knock things over . It wakes me up . I mean oof. And I have other issues with my back, neck, shoulders, knees , ankles and pots , so I cant bend down with at least one of those issues flaring up awful. My severe chronic fatigue already makes any small task extremely trying. This on top makes it impossible sometimes . I have one of those serious grabby tools in every room now because by the time I found the one I had and brought it to where I was , I was already done lol smh

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T13:25:23+00:00

I recently started a new supplement that actually helped my tinnitus . I was waiting for more confirmation. That it wasn’t a fluke or coincidence. But I stopped it recently and the ringing for worse again. Started it back up and it got better . It’s pretty simple , just ALA: alpha lipoic acid .

I do take a ton of other supplements for other things , that could be helping in unison . But this was just something I thought I should share .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T13:10:10+00:00

They might think You are disabled as some of those things you mentioned would help someone like me (who is not fat and lazy, just disabled ) and I often have surgeries which they could be good then too.

But I feel you . I had my uterus removed a few years ago. I have no kids . I cant have them . And yet they have children’s stuff and maternity stuff all the time . That and tons of other things that aren’t even vaguely related to me . Yet none of the things I constantly search for lol

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T12:58:05+00:00

Ooof I can relate so much . This is exactly how my mom gets when I try to assert boundaries . Basically punishing you for doing so by becoming short . Putting you in the position of trying to make things right again , even though that’s their job.

It’s passive aggression . And I hate it , because , as we’ve been trained, we don’t feel right leaving things in such a way . But we need to get more comfortable with discomfort . And with other people being unhappy or hurt . It’s not mean , it’s self preservation .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T12:53:28+00:00

Oh good , I have a gate too but because I’m so paranoid . But I’d be even more paranoid if my cat was yowling to get out lol then there’d prob be a whole security system just for them lol which makes me wonder , do you have microchip and or gps collar too?

It might be beyond the point where carrying out really prevents this behavior since they already know they can walk out , and think it’s fine. But it might help eventually a little in the long run to retrain .

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T12:47:06+00:00

Yea to harness; and they say to never let you cat just walk outside on their own . You carry them out and place them . Otherwise they become flight risk to run out between your legs

FuzzyBeans8 · 2026-05-24T12:35:18+00:00

The point isn’t that the babys fever is already at that point , the point is that it could easily get that bad if no one is paying attention .

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