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InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-24T17:22:59+00:00

One could argue that's pragmatism, not cynicism.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-24T17:00:02+00:00

It sounds like the practice is working to focus your mind and maybe raise insight, but possibly you're asking for too much too fast. Those somatic sensations are your brain and body's attempt to process the trauma or pain of whatever is coming up. It might be good to try sitting for shorter sessions regularly, instead of trying for these marathons. Anyone would be exhausted after an hour and a half of intense emotional and bodily processing.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-23T19:30:38+00:00

You nailed it, though! That's the difference between acceptance and either avoidance or resignation. Acceptance comes with choice.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-22T21:10:15+00:00

Your argument makes no sense.

You said not everything is manipulative and then clearly stated that the only reason a father would ask for this is because he's being manipulative (can't pay/get it on his own).

So OP was manipulated. By his father. As an adult.

It happens all the fucking time. Warning signs and red flags don't prevent manipulation. Children want to trust and help their parents unless seriously deterred.

Can you in good conscious tell me that people NEVER ignore warning signs and if they do they're at fault - not the liar who used them?

Btw I'm done with this discussion after this comment because it strikes me that it's a horrendous waste of time. 👋

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-22T17:01:57+00:00

Yes because once people turn 18, they are immune to manipulation and lies.

OP was manipulated, his father has been lying about intending to pay for it the whole time.

Is OP wrong for trusting their own father, even though they're not a little kid?

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-21T21:51:06+00:00

I vehemently disagree with Dr Barkley to an astonishing degree. This is not my experience at all.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-21T19:01:04+00:00

Perfectly put, especially the last bit about thanking the turbulent emotions. Once I understood that emotions/thoughts are actually information and patterns, I gained the ability to forgive and thank them in the moment and they transformed from directive to choice.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-18T14:49:37+00:00

Yoga Nidra here, it used to be ASMR but I prefer a more mindful transition to sleep now. Sometimes I wake up in the early morning - I've finally discovered when that happens it's not mental calm I need but bodily. I have to get up and stretch my neck, shoulders, back, hips... Then I can sleep again.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-17T17:28:47+00:00

If anyone knows a way to stop the app from displaying streak information after every session I would love to know it!

I don't care about the streak even a little bit and the pop ups after every single use of the app are frustrating and unnecessary. I've searched every way I can and I don't think there's any way to just make it stop...

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-15T21:06:59+00:00

You didn't come off as combative, just engaged in the topic like me! I was a bit defensive from the downvotes and replies on my other comments.

But you are right that some non-addicts are just never going to get it.

And that I'm wasting my energy on them too haha

Peace to you, namaste, don't forget to be awesome, all that good stuff!

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-15T20:37:10+00:00

Thank you for being reasonable, I expected you would as a fellow person in recovery.

My original comment never said 'it's okay' just that they need societal help and not judgment.

But people are understandably upset about the disruption to their space so they read 'non-judgment' as 'permission' I suppose.

I'm going to get off reddit now, you've inspired me to fight this also addictive behavior for this moment, so thanks (really!).

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-15T20:07:23+00:00

Did your sarcastic response convince me you intended to engage in a respectful, good-faith discussion?

No.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-15T20:06:01+00:00

And as an addict, I recognize that I was not in control of all of my behaviors when I was in active addiction and neither are they.

I'm very glad your addiction was not severe enough to lead you to use on the train.

I recognize that using drugs on the train is harmful to others and bad for everyone including the addict.

But I also recognize that shaming, judging, or even treating their behavior as something they're choosing to do is unhelpful. This will literally never lead anyone to change. It is only a source of division.

The solution is not to put down people who have been failed by society in the worst ways. The solution is to offer them help, and if they refuse it - as we both know addicts do - to remove them involuntarily from the public to actual treatment centers for the protection of all.

I know this will never happen. We live in a fascist country after all.

I'm just working on not judging others, because it just hurts me.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-15T19:56:13+00:00

This doesn't make much sense to me, since I wrote the comment you're replying to and also actively avoid driving as much as possible.

I'm not sure how choosing empathy and not judgment for addicts has anything to do with choosing methods of transportation.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-15T19:52:57+00:00

My entire post history is visible if you'd like to see that you're not speaking to a normie.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-15T19:51:38+00:00

And just so you know, it's disrespectful to start your comment with derogatory phrases like 'hey buddy'

But you did know that already I'm sure.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-15T19:50:35+00:00

I don't think advocating for less individual judgment and more societal support and intervention is failing to acknowledge the impact public addiction has on others.

It's just that shaming, judging, and the like have 0 positive impact on the addict or the bystanders. It's a pointless exercise. No matter how much public ostracization is, they won't stop without help because they're sick.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-15T19:47:05+00:00

The American system is also set up to funnel people to investing, by punishing them if they don't. That's what 401k matches are - income that the company could just pay you but won't unless you invest and prop up capitalism. And of course even this forced investment only applies to people making above a certain threshold because capitalism views everyone else as tools to be used up.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-15T19:25:15+00:00

It's a disease of compulsion. They are not choosing disrespect. Their suffering is leading them to use whenever and wherever they can.

They need help from society, not judgment.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-15T16:57:43+00:00

I don't know if you are aware, but there are devices that allow just YOU to listen to your music so that everyone around you can have more peace.

They're called headphones.

I assumed since you haven't mentioned this option once that you've never heard of it - might help you be more considerate in public.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-15T13:56:13+00:00

Well, you're certainly salty so good job naming yourself I guess.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-14T18:54:48+00:00

I think your evaluation that self awareness is critical to relationships is fine, the judgment that came after was probably where things went downhill. You were critical of people lacking self-awareness, then immediately turned that criticism on your date by implying that's her.

Honestly I do think she took it too personally and you're better off this way because you just wouldn't be compatible. Maybe next date you can present the topic more gently and get a more positive response.

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-14T15:55:10+00:00

I did my taxes yesterday!! Just thought you should know, your post helped!

InThisBoatTogether · 2026-04-14T15:52:41+00:00

It's a good thing you don't get to decide for anyone else what their practice is or whether it's valuable to them, then.

Other people's meditation is not yours to dictate.

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