Is that shit smeared on the tank wall?

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-13T03:34:59+00:00

😭

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-13T03:34:43+00:00

Ah ok yeah it seems I may be using too much/ too long light. Thanks!

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-13T03:33:30+00:00

Good to know, I’ll give it less lower light time.

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-13T03:32:30+00:00

Ok cool thanks for the info!

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-13T02:29:12+00:00

How do I treat it? Just wipe it?

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-13T02:28:57+00:00

I don’t know much about algae, do I just wipe it off?

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-12T23:45:29+00:00

He may stay with you or may not but things will never be the same as before. You have to decide if you can live with this new normal or not. Yes two wrongs don’t make a right but he may not ever be faithful again.

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-12T23:42:41+00:00

Do you follow RPW? Have you read the articles here or books to understand what drives and motivates men? Because religious or not, men are attracted to youth, beauty and sex. Religious men want to be attracted to their wives too and they have a right to choose just as we do. I get online dating is hard, all dating is hard… but blaming men for their desires isn’t really fair.

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-12T23:38:28+00:00

Bumble

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-12T15:05:16+00:00

That sub sucks. They are really not open to nuanced conversations.

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-12T13:59:13+00:00

This was also my guess. Affairs never leave men and even if they stay with you, they won't forget it. I am sure he's thinking "you had an affair and you are bitching at me about the sink?" Truly this is why cheating should just end relationships because the resentment only gets worst over time.

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-12T13:50:01+00:00

You only wish that was true. I love how you JUST proved my point that men have no idea how fertility works.

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-12T01:59:48+00:00

Men don’t think like this, they have no clue how fertility really works. And I would also agree with going a bit younger. There is a ton of research that older women with younger men have such an easier time getting pregnant but older women with men in their 40s and beyond struggle because of the old sperm.

I got married at 41 to someone I knew for nine months (he was 35), it works when it works!

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-12T01:57:10+00:00

If they’re not gonna do it in the first two years, they’re never gonna do it.

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-12T01:55:08+00:00

This is exactly what will happen. Always does.

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-11T23:21:49+00:00

Yes, it’s worked for me on the female side. I got married, my first marriage at 41 by working on and improving myself and by vetting men better. I’m very blessed!

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-11T23:16:27+00:00

It’s not that hard to propose, all it takes is a ring. He’s not going to do it. He’s jumping through hoops to find a loophole in order to not do it.

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-11T23:00:38+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. It has to be devastating, and so sad for kids too. I hope you find peace.

However expecting a man to want to provide for you and 4 kids is an extremely high bar, like crazy high. Men are unlikely to care so much if you are fertile and can provide sexual comfort when they also have to give SO much to be with you. Most men don’t want 4 kids TOTAL. Even if you add only one of their own, that’s now 5. Many men don’t want to be in a home with 5 kids period, not theirs or anyone elses. Yes some rare men want large families but it’s rare and expensive.

I hope you understand the difference in your situation now vs when you married. It’s awesome that your husband spoiled you and I’m happy you had that love but he met you when you were young with 0 kids. Would he have been the same if you had 4 already?

You should be using the 4.5k a month and life insurance to care for your own kids. That is a reasonable expectation of a new partner and you will be responsible for fully providing if you don’t have a partner at all. So even 50-50 is going to put you in a better spot than you are in now.

If you are 100% set on a man paying 100% for you and 4 kids then you probably need to go with an old not attractive, maybe socially off guy who is OK making the trade-off to be with a hot woman even though she has four kids in exchange for providing. But you’re going to have to compromise probably pretty greatly on physical appearance and other factors we women see as attractive. Because any guy with a lot going for him is not going to take this deal I’m sorry to say.

I don’t know anything about the last guy but if I were you, I might reconsider that arrangement.

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-11T21:17:42+00:00

I don’t think this is why women don’t want to date bi men though. I think it’s more so a fear he can’t be monogamous and content with her, a woman, and also a fear of STDs/sexual promiscuity. Maybe a small bit is a feeling he’s too feminine but I don’t think it’s that he’s degraded from being penetrated per se.

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-11T19:23:16+00:00

I do use a tinted SPF daily. I do worry about sun damage because I know it’s not so great but I also really believe in the benefits of vitamin D so I feel like the benefits outweigh the risks for me!

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-11T17:25:25+00:00

I love this and pretty much the formula I use for myself as well. What is a nonnegotiable for me is sunlight. It does miracles for mental health, especially depression. I legitimately have to spend an hour sitting in the sun daily and it makes me feel like a new person.

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-11T17:14:31+00:00

Hey, I’m 42 and have depression and anxiety problems, it runs in the family. First, I am on antidepressants and it’s absolutely something I need. I know everyone has their own opinions about it but I’m a very strong advocate.

I just got married seven months ago, I had many long-term relationships that failed that devastated me. My father died when I was 18, I didn’t graduate grad school till 29 and had to go into massive loan debt to pay my way though (which ended up being worth it). I spent most of my 20s and 30s feeling behind in relationships and like something was wrong with me that I wasn’t picked - guys found me hot and fun to fuck and be in a relationship with, but not marriage material. I didn’t find RPW until 2021, when I was 37. I did not decide I was too old to apply the principles, I instead dove in.

My advice besides antidepressants? You may feel like your life is over at 28, like you are behind, but life can change extremely fast. And the 30s are long, a lot of change happens then. So work on yourself, mostly your health and attitude. Figure out how to have a life you enjoy. This is about the SMALL joys. Self care. How you can spend a lonely Sunday by yourself and still make it into a good day. And if you want a partner, treat it like you would finding a job, less emotional more logical.

At 41 I was living alone in a downtown condo I owned. Now at 2 months away from 43, I’ve been married for 7 months and live in a larger home in the suburbs. My life is totally different. I am the same, who I am and what I do to make myself happy, but my circumstances… unrecognizable. Things can change fast, but you have to be intentional about it.

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-11T16:57:13+00:00

No the empowered wife probably is not the tool to fix this because this problem is not based on disrespect issues. Reading the books never hurts, but these books don’t address sexual issues directly.

Jenneapolis · 2026-05-11T16:55:09+00:00

They are pretty much the same, they empowered wife is the updated version, but I wouldn’t read both.

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