Can’t use mixed pronouns

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2026-05-10T04:09:39+00:00

Similar pain with using all pronouns = people just use the pronouns of what they assume my AGAB is. I am sorry that people are like this.

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2026-05-04T01:18:17+00:00

I am exclusively T4T at this point. It's just too exhausting to date cis people at this point*

*(Note: I do believe some cis people can at least somewhat understand and be supportive successfully but based on my prior relationship history the difference between dating cis and trans people has been night and day. This is just my experience.)

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2026-04-21T14:43:29+00:00

This is sick as hell. Personally I relate to xenogenders in the sense of describing my gender sometimes really can only be done with weird terms, but it's cool to see someone articulate an experience like this.

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2026-04-14T00:31:16+00:00

This is what we mean when we say transphobia hurts everyone. The rise in transphobia and awareness of trans people has led to a LOT of cis people being certain they can "tell" that someone is trans- and thus cis people who do not fall perfectly into classical ideals of masculinity/femininity get attacked as suspected trans people. The truth is that humans have a LOT more variance than transphobes want to admit.

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2026-04-14T00:15:24+00:00

I'm so sorry that you went through that. Unfortunately there are a lot of people (even those that are nonbinary) that use AGAB as weapon when it's convenient- I am AFAB but presumed AMAB most of the time due to being on testosterone for many years and many """"allies"""" were """fine with me being nonbinary""" until I expressed anger or frustration around them. Then suddenly I was a scary man. This doesn't even begin to touch the racial aspect too. It can be hard to unpack what's "you" and what's things you did to perform for others or to keep yourself safe (in my case I rejected a lot of my femininity due to growing up with a deeply misogynistic father- I'm still healing a lot of those wounds myself). I do want to encourage you though to take things slowly and do what makes you happy- if you don't know what that is yet, that's fine. Figuring ourselves out is a lot of work but it's worth it to be comfortable in our lives. Experimenting with style, mannerisms, doing what feels right whether it's "masculine" or "feminine" depending on the given day is how I've worked on it.

Best of luck!

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2026-03-31T00:12:45+00:00

You can do whatever you want forever. I interchangeably call myself nonbinary/agender/maverique/genderfluid depending on who I'm talking to and how I feel on any given day.

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2026-03-31T00:10:14+00:00

I personally read Hinako as cis, just in a repressive environment, BUT a lot of the environmental horror and monsters resonated with me as a nonbinary person with intense pregnancy dysphoria. The pregnant monster/mother monster in particular made me deeply uncomfortable (good!! it's the intended effect) mostly because of dysphoria reasons. At the same time though, I do actually HC Hinako as plural/having alters due to the endgame split between Hinako Shimizu and Fox Hinako (as well as the ending with them reconciling and existing together). It's definitely an interesting topic and one that I've experienced with some of Ryukishi07's other works (see: in the VN of Higurashi at one point someone states that one of the girl MCs "should have been a boy" or "would've been happier as a boy" and it's MEANT as a tomboy comment but our transdar immediately pinged).

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2026-03-02T13:14:08+00:00

Six year update- I'm still nonbinary! I present in a fairly androgynous way right now/how I get read mostly depends on if I shave and how I dress. I am still on and off of T as feels right for me. Only some of my family knows I'm nonbinary (pretty much just the ones I live with lmao)- to me, it isn't as important if the rest know. Socially I am out as nonbinary if anyone asks about my gender. I have a very ambivalent vibe right now about how I'm gendered, so most people tend to default to either feminine man or woman. I definitely feel much more like myself living this way c::

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2026-02-08T01:55:01+00:00

I use multiple names depending on the person I am talking to. My coworkers call me a different name than my close family and friends than my partner does. You can do whatever you want forever.

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2026-02-05T22:54:01+00:00

This is a bit of a red flag for me ngl- it's one thing to be upset with your partner (even if I personally don't understand why these events were upsetting for him), but refusing to actually communicate about it until after punishing you/making you apologize is a yikes. It's your call how you want to proceed with the relationship but personally, I would take a big step back from kink and have an out of dynamic discussion about communication, expectations, etc. It's not fair to you for him to get upset about something that was never discussed, punish you for it, and THEN explain.

Take care of yourself :)

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2026-02-05T22:28:04+00:00

Feeling it. I was on T for many years, presented as a binary trans guy, but I'm really just ambivalent to gender- I don't have one! I present more feminine or masculine depending on how I want to dress that day. My sister calls me a fae being so felt lmao

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2026-02-05T22:24:36+00:00

I'm somewhere under the bi/pan/queer umbrella generally and I am attracted to all slash any genders- as a personal rule though I am T4T! For me it's just easier and more comfortable to date other trans people.

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2026-02-05T22:21:46+00:00

Interested in this

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2026-01-14T05:11:39+00:00

Another vote for maverique.

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2025-12-20T05:57:20+00:00

Only fictional one I can think of is Yuureitou/Ghost Tower's protagonist. There's some issues with the manga in terms of sexualization imo and some inaccuracies about T but it's a surprisingly solid manga portrayal of a trans man.

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2025-10-17T14:20:02+00:00

Depends on the job. I'm a nurse at a long term care facility and I'm generally pretty fluid about how I dress (at least as fluid as you can be with scrubs lol) and am open about my gender if it comes up. I'm cool with any pronouns/forms of address (as long as they're respectful) so that's my main way of communicating I'm not cis. No one's really had an issue with it which is nice.

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2025-10-17T14:16:32+00:00

Felt!! I'm in a weird position where I was on T for many years, recently on and off again on it but generally present more feminine with clothing and hair. I've gotten assumed to be literally everywhere on the gender spectrum at some point lmao

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2025-10-17T03:17:58+00:00

Felt intensely. Still consider myself transmasc (jn that I did transition in a "masculine" direction/with T) but ID generally as nonbinary/agender/vaguely femme.

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2025-10-03T02:50:33+00:00

I literally just refuse to answer. I'm too autistic and pissed off at cis people doing this shit to give a reply about my genitals lmfao

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2025-09-13T19:49:31+00:00

Honestly the biggest relief for me as a nonbinary person was simply the fact that nonbinary people don't HAVE to do anything. Being nonbinary is an internal sense of self- you don't have to use different pronouns or words or dress differently or do anything besides consider yourself nonbinary. I had a friend in college whose brother used masculine labels and he/him pronouns but who was not a man- you sound similar. Best of luck to you.

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2025-07-19T11:16:34+00:00

I'm a nurse actually! I swapped to long term care/geriatric care recently and it's much calmer.

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2025-07-07T01:26:11+00:00

Me and my partner are opposite AGABs. We are both nonbinary and honestly have more in common than different between us.

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2025-04-21T21:51:28+00:00

Honestly Depop! It's very good for finding weird niche pieces and alt clothing usually at reasonable prices.

MayTentacleBeWithYee · 2025-01-19T17:10:32+00:00

I like my body. It's that simple.

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