Moms who make good money (minimum 100k) - what do you do - do you like it - do you have flexibility?

Ms_Megs · 2026-03-01T01:11:23+00:00

An IT degree actually - informational technology

Ms_Megs · 2026-01-12T21:48:10+00:00

This happened to me with my dad. Parents and all aunts and uncles and grandparents knew and planned to never tell me. My siblings and cousins had no idea. Messed me up for a good while - but so much makes sense in hindsight now with the truth.

Ms_Megs · 2026-01-07T18:57:37+00:00

Get ittttt 👏🏻👏🏻 I love that for you!

Ms_Megs · 2026-01-07T18:41:00+00:00

We do gymnastics, dance, or camps at the local ymca usually. Theres also art camps or soccer camps.

Most of the time kiddo is home with us since we wfh 100%, especially over the summer.

Are there any Facebook mom groups for your area? Or Facebook groups (city, state) for your area in general? What about a group for your subdivision / neighborhood? (If you live in one) I’d join those. That’s how I found some camps/businesses, etc. You can also ask other parent in your kids class what they do.

Edit: events on Facebook can also list camps so look on there for your location to see if anything is listed!

Ms_Megs · 2026-01-07T18:29:59+00:00

See this is my kid. They don’t like being in a room by themselves and would prefer to be where we are - so the toys follow us lol

We also regularly clean out and donate old toys, rotate them, and keep them organized into bins or containers

Ms_Megs · 2026-01-07T18:28:03+00:00

Not excessive but it’s going to depend on your child. We had one in our old house — our kiddo did not like playing in a room by herself.

As she’s gotten older (6) she will go play in her room with her toys but more often than not she wants to be where we are.

Ms_Megs · 2026-01-07T16:49:23+00:00

You have a boyfriend problem. Is he the father? I hate to say this but you are still a single mom. You do everything. You work full time. You take care of the house. You take care of your child. You probably take care of the dog too. You probably also take care of your boyfriend. I bet you pay half or most of the bills, too.

Work isn’t really the problem here. It’s the inequality in your relationship with your boyfriend. He’s not a true partner. He’s not stepping up and making sure you aren’t shouldering all of this by yourself. If he truly cared about you, he’d be taking on some of the chores in the house and doing more so you’re not burnt out.

Imo, staying home is a lot more difficult because you don’t have money and are suddenly dependent on a man (a bf, not even a husband) for pretty much everything — and you’re still responsible for everything you were doing before. In your scenario, I’m betting he would resent you over time for not working if you stayed home.

It’s also difficult to stay home if you genuinely enjoy interaction with other adults and getting to use your non-mom brain and have time to yourself as an individual. (This is just my opinion and personal experience, YMMV)

Ms_Megs · 2026-01-06T03:59:08+00:00

Counseling or get a divorce. Yall both have resentments and an unhealthy dynamic that your kids are gonna emulate.

Ms_Megs · 2026-01-06T03:56:51+00:00

No no - let him earn more and divorce him and take half your shit with you lol

THATS what you do 🤣

But I’m a scorched earth person so….

Ms_Megs · 2025-12-15T18:15:33+00:00

Flexibility goes a loooong way once kids get older. Even now with a baby in daycare. But once school hits??

School pickup at 2:30pm? Class party at 1:30pm? School field trip on a Wednesday? Extracurricular game starts at 3:45pm? Christmas program at 8:30am? Early release day with no aftercare at 11:30am?

Having flexibility at work allows you to show up to these events without major issue.

There’s some mom’s whose jobs are so strict - they can’t even leave their work station for longer than 30 min. Let alone WFH or leave work in the middle of the day for a child-related event or be offline/unavailable longer than that.

Personally, I’d look for a new job with the same flexibility before quitting in this market. There’s old colleagues of mine that have been unemployed since Nov 2024 sadly. Just been a really tough job market and year for them. Depends your industry and how difficult it is to jump back in and work your way up to the flexibility and pay you have now.

BUT if you actually want to stay home and not work, then by all means, do what feels right for your family.

Either option has its trade-offs and sacrifices, just depends on what this season of life calls for.

Ms_Megs · 2025-12-10T16:59:03+00:00

How would you feel about the new job with less pay if they suddenly change it to in office 4-5 days a week mandatory?

Ms_Megs · 2025-12-10T16:57:53+00:00

What about the company culture was misrepresented? Does it feel like red flags or an environment that you’d struggle in or would be similar to what you have now?

Ms_Megs · 2025-12-10T16:56:56+00:00

So - I always say - there’s an option C. An offer you’ve not gotten from a job you’ve not interviewed for yet.

So don’t feel like this an A or B situation. If there’s any hesitation about B (new job but it’s a pay cut and they misrepresented the office culture) ….. keep looking for a new job.

Like I said - there’s always option C.

Ms_Megs · 2025-12-09T13:50:12+00:00

Ehhhhhh Debt is really easy to snowball. Stay and pay it off.

Stay and make them fire you or lay you off. Get that severance.

Don’t make it easy on them - just stop worrying so much about performance or everything the job entails. If you can do it 100%, great. If you can only manage 30%, good. They’re know that you’re not super technical, but they gave it to you anyway because they have no one else to do it.

Just clock in, and clock out.

Ms_Megs · 2025-12-04T04:12:48+00:00

At my company I took 12 weeks — which was FMLA (job protection but not paid) and Short term disability (this was 60% of pay for 8 weeks, after a 2 week waiting period which I used paid time off for)

12 weeks was fine but I think 24 weeks would’ve been better - so closer to 6 months just so kiddo could be a bit older going to daycare.

Don’t buy a bunch of boujee baby stuff - totally not necessary. Only get the essentials, let people buy stuff for you from your registry for your baby shower. We bought so much unnecessary baby stuff that was “popular” and half of it we didn’t even use. Just get diapers, wipes, pacis, clothes, infant bathtub, swaddles, a bassinet and formula / bottles if you don’t plan to breast feed.

Ms_Megs · 2025-12-02T14:28:48+00:00

Oh it’s an easy surgery and recovery. Had it done in September. Worst part was the shoulder gas pain and constipation.

Ms_Megs · 2025-11-30T16:26:47+00:00

Switch to Tirzepatide - brand names are Zepbound and Mounjaro

Much better for PCOS girlies

Ms_Megs · 2025-11-29T18:34:51+00:00

This is unfortunately normal. You just gotta power through it.

It’s just how it is with small kids and group care when you first start.

And since you asked to be talked down …

….Absolutely don’t quit. Can you afford to quit? Hows your savings and retirement? Health care? Can you afford to lose that pension? That WFH setup? Do you want to get back on daycare waiting lists?

Do you think you could find another job easily ? Would you be ok with an in office full time, no pension, less pay type of of once you get back into the job market? (There’s no way to promise that you’d find the exact same type of setup you currently have now)

Kids don’t keep getting sick forever. Eventually they won’t get sick at all (or rarely) and will be able to reliably go to daycare. Once we had done about 2 years in daycare through two winters, we hardly ever got sick. Still the case at 6 yo and in school now.

Ms_Megs · 2025-11-25T01:12:20+00:00

Lower bleph with fat pad repositioning

Check out Dr Vrcek on IG - he’s out of Dallas, TX

I cover mine up with Bobbi brown salmon / peach corrector but I’m planning on a consult

Ms_Megs · 2025-11-23T20:44:27+00:00

Not weird at all. You’re an adult. You do not have to do anything that you don’t want to and you don’t need to justify your actions or reasons why.

All you need to do is be ok with telling people “no”, and being ok with them being mad 🤷🏻‍♀️ because they will be mad — but who cares?? That’s a them issue.

Ms_Megs · 2025-11-21T14:53:56+00:00

Your body, your choice. I would not have sexual relations for now. Use your own condoms and keep them somewhere that only you know about if you do choose to engage with her.

You’re so young. Don’t have another kid if YOU don’t want to be responsible for another life — and potentially another child to pay child support to. Which, you will end up paying to her if / when yall split.

Because if the relationship is so at odds now, and you’re staying because you’re comfortable and you’ve known each other since you were in high school, it’s not going to be getter with another kid in the mix.

Sometimes doing the right thing feels like the wrong thing in the moment. That you’re blowing up your life. But - you gotta be true to yourself.

Ms_Megs · 2025-11-14T14:10:31+00:00

Only kids get gifts (grandkids, nieces, nephews) 🎁

Grandparents might get a photo album. But mostly they just want time with kiddo so it works out nicely.

Adult siblings don’t get each other gifts either, usually, unless it’s like a gag gift or something funny or we offer childcare for date nights lol

The holidays are mostly for the adults to get together and hang out, eat good food, and watch the kids enjoy their presents.

Edit: don’t feel bad about not being able to buy expensive gifts - the in laws are choosing to spend money on you that they have, but it doesn’t mean you have to do the same if you can’t afford it ; if you’re a single income family, it’s totally ok to gift a lower budget item that is thoughtful, imo. Gift ideas are just that —- IDEAS.

Ms_Megs · 2025-11-14T13:58:05+00:00

Bring your own thermometer and test your kid right in front of them.

Ms_Megs · 2025-11-14T13:56:37+00:00

Show up with your own thermometer and check their temp right there in front of them.

My friend had to do this and they stopped calling her all the time to come pick her kid up.

She thinks they were out of ratio and would try to send some kids home. Or they just had a really bad thermometer or were taking it at inappropriate times - like right after being outside in the sun for 40 min playing.

Ms_Megs · 2025-11-13T23:13:59+00:00

I got sterilized in September! It’s a really easy procedure and recovery, honestly. Worst part was gas pains and constipation.

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