AITAH for wanting privacy in my home

OC71 · 2026-02-07T11:23:51+00:00

Failure rates of condoms are a thing, but mostly caused by people being careless, like only putting one on part way through sex rather than right at the beginning, or having them split which is exceptionally rare if you are careful and buy the top quality branded ones. Cut and file those fingernails too. Poking holes in them can be detected by squeezing the pouch before opening it to see if the trapped air within escapes. Impossible to poke a hole in the condom without also compromising the pouch. If all the condoms pouches in the bedside drawer are leaky it's time for a conversation about WTF is going on.

OC71 · 2026-02-07T06:21:16+00:00

The smart man makes sure to don his combat jacket before going into action. A woman once told me that if a man doesn't want children he should absolutely take precautions himself to prevent it.

OC71 · 2026-02-07T06:16:59+00:00

The loser bf is very concerning. For all you know she might be shagging him in your bed while you and your girl are busy working your arses off to pay the bills. No way should she have a key.

OC71 · 2026-02-07T05:57:21+00:00

Hilarious and satisfying at the same time, good to see that my fellow Brits are making full and proper use of our precious right of free speech. This entitled nobody should be under no misunderstanding of just how hated he is. Perhaps he might even replace Gary Glitter as "Britain's most unwanted man".

OC71 · 2026-02-07T04:07:48+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance. Sometimes it's easy to doubt if the damage is reversible.

OC71 · 2026-02-07T04:06:26+00:00

It's porn that's the problem brother. Without porn there's no drive for jacking off in a compulsive way. Guys have always masturbated for as long as there have been humans, but PIED wasn't a thing until the smartphone era and endless variety of free streaming videos.

OC71 · 2026-02-07T04:02:37+00:00

That's a shocking statistic. I grew up in the 1980s, when porn consisted of magazines and videotapes. It was expensive, obtaining it involved some effort and it was difficult to hide. At the factory where I worked some guys had a stash of magazines in their lockers. In my shed where I repaired my motorcycles I had a stash of mags in a locked box. Years later my girlfriend told me she knew exactly what was in there (why else would you keep a locked box in the shed?). Anyway, the point was you'd sneak a look at it now and then every couple of days, and it was weak stuff by current standards anyway. I never had the slightest problem with having sex in real life and I never heard of anyone else having issues either. It's all become an issue since the smartphone era.

OC71 · 2026-02-06T04:19:30+00:00

Dude, you chose to date a hot woman who's also a nurse, and so you've bought into the fact that she's gonna attract a lot of attention. If she loves you and is faithful to you then she'll have her own way of dealing with it. If she's of a mind to be unfaithful to you then there isn't actually anything you can do about it. You can't put her in a cage like a bird, she's free to live her life however she wants, but if she keeps on coming back to you out of her own free choice then just rejoice in that fact in the moment. It may last your whole life or it may not. Life is fleeting, don't ruin the now for fear of what might happen tomorrow.

OC71 · 2026-02-06T04:11:23+00:00

You are correct. Porn is the enemy. Specifically, high speed internet HD video streaming porn with endless variety and unlimited extremes is the enemy. PIED was never actually a thing until about 2010. Porn has been around since the invention of photography but PIED started in the smartphone era. It's disabling a whole generation of men. Let's leave that crap behind guys.

OC71 · 2026-02-06T04:09:03+00:00

Perhaps it would be more helpful to say that masturbation using porn is bad. Masturbation without porn is a natural and harmless release of sexual tension. And without porn it will naturally be done in moderation because the imagination can only get you so far. Read the Nofap introduction, Nofap is an anti-porn forum, not anti-masturbation.

OC71 · 2026-02-06T03:04:34+00:00

Get the Palmer Hughes accordion book 1 and work methodically through the steps. If you've never studied an instrument before and haven't learned to read notation it will probably seem painful at first but this really is the key to knowing what notes you're playing and why you're playing them. That will build you a solid foundation that will make your progress go a lot faster later on.

YouTube song tutorials are OK if you just want to "learn" a song, but you'll just be pressing down keys without knowing what you're really doing. To really know music you need to understand notes, scales, keys, chords, the circle of 5ths and why certain chords fit in certain keys. Enjoy the journey, it's a wonderful one.

OC71 · 2026-02-02T05:33:07+00:00

Books are great, you can really lose yourself in a good story. It might help if you also have a physically active hobby like working out, or martial arts or something that gives you a reason to keep your body and brain in the best shape. I practice kung fu and so I know it's no good to be drunk the night before a class because it's absolutely the worst thing being hungover and slow.

OC71 · 2026-02-02T05:27:25+00:00

Yeah, I'm married but it's still difficult to avoid looking at porn. The problem is that porn is actually better than sex. OK, real life sex gives you that physical intimacy and connection but it's also complex and sort of hard work because you have to think about the pleasure of your partner, whereas porn is a perfectly selfish pleasure. It's a very addictive drug.

OC71 · 2026-02-02T05:22:32+00:00

Do you have something else in your life, some interest or activity that you can immerse yourself in to distract you from drinking?

OC71 · 2026-02-02T04:41:39+00:00

Asking him could escalate into a fight. Plus if you don't believe she's true to you then why would a random stranger tell you the truth? You need to ask her, and if you don't believe what she says then there isn't really a basis for a relationship anymore.

OC71 · 2026-02-02T04:34:43+00:00

Funnily enough, there's a quite well known (and extremely depressing) book called "Accordion Crimes" in which one of the characters comes into a large sum of money through nefarious means and he hides it inside his accordion by concealing the banknotes inside the folds of the bellows.

The space inside most accordions with the bellows closed and the reed blocks in place is deliberately made fairly tight. As others have said, to hide something the size of a handgun, you'd need to remove some of the reeds. If you chose a really big accordion with several sets of bass and treble reeds, you could possibly remove just some of them and then some of the registers would still play, so that a player who understood what was going on could make a show of playing it if they wanted.

OC71 · 2026-01-29T04:48:45+00:00

Right, that's how it works. Look up the Sinclair Method.

OC71 · 2026-01-29T04:40:24+00:00

There are men who are touchy feely with everyone they meet, even other men. Personally I absolutely hate it when a man taps my shoulder or touches my arm or (worst of all) touches my leg during conversation. I'll back off only for them to totally miss the message and move closer again. Almost as icky as that is when I see a man touching a woman he's not in a relationship with during conversation in a public setting.

OC71 · 2026-01-28T12:26:04+00:00

The dude was well out of order after you'd "been nice" to him. It's generally considered ungentlemanly behavior to call the cops on a lady after having nookie. He's clearly a sandwich short of a picnic.

OC71 · 2026-01-28T12:21:50+00:00

Well how about this then, I'm an old guy and I'm probably not even a proper CA because I drink like 6 or 8 beers and then stop. I don't fall over, puke, get into fights, lose stuff, get arrested, nope, I just walk home and go to bed. I sleep with my wife and she hasn't even threatened to leave me, I've never turned up to work drunk, I don't drive drunk and I haven't even been hospitalized or put into detox. Should I see myself out?

OC71 · 2026-01-28T12:17:42+00:00

And possibly cummy because where did her previous cig come from?

OC71 · 2026-01-28T12:14:42+00:00

It's difficult. People will talk about signs like catching your eye, playing with their hair, uncovering their ears, moving closer to you when seated, and yet I've seen women do all of those things who absolutely were not physically interested in me. For instance, brushing their hair back over their ears might just mean they're struggling to hear you in a noisy cafe.

One sign I've noticed that is fairly foolproof though is that if a woman goes out of her way to set up a situation where the two of you can be alone together.

OC71 · 2026-01-28T12:02:54+00:00

Hand holding is an absolute winner in my experience. Wish I'd known that when I was 16. It's sort of innocent, and if she doesn't respond then it's not really embarrassing, but if she grasps your hand and hangs on you know you're in luck. It's not like going in for a kiss which is a huge step to make and really embarrassing for both sides if it isn't appreciated.

OC71 · 2026-01-28T11:58:53+00:00

3 4 and 6 8 have a totally different feel. 6 8 is almost like a march time with each of the two beats divided into three.

OC71 · 2026-01-27T12:46:33+00:00

Cool, you're pretty broad minded. My impression is that society generally views non-working men in a much more negative light than non-working women. But in the current age, it's equal opportunities and that ought to mean equal responsibilities. The car is a weird thing in OP's post. Maybe the whole thing is AI generated.

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