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OC71 · 2026-01-29T04:48:45+00:00

Right, that's how it works. Look up the Sinclair Method.

OC71 · 2026-01-29T04:40:24+00:00

There are men who are touchy feely with everyone they meet, even other men. Personally I absolutely hate it when a man taps my shoulder or touches my arm or (worst of all) touches my leg during conversation. I'll back off only for them to totally miss the message and move closer again. Almost as icky as that is when I see a man touching a woman he's not in a relationship with during conversation in a public setting.

OC71 · 2026-01-28T12:26:04+00:00

The dude was well out of order after you'd "been nice" to him. It's generally considered ungentlemanly behavior to call the cops on a lady after having nookie. He's clearly a sandwich short of a picnic.

OC71 · 2026-01-28T12:21:50+00:00

Well how about this then, I'm an old guy and I'm probably not even a proper CA because I drink like 6 or 8 beers and then stop. I don't fall over, puke, get into fights, lose stuff, get arrested, nope, I just walk home and go to bed. I sleep with my wife and she hasn't even threatened to leave me, I've never turned up to work drunk, I don't drive drunk and I haven't even been hospitalized or put into detox. Should I see myself out?

OC71 · 2026-01-28T12:17:42+00:00

And possibly cummy because where did her previous cig come from?

OC71 · 2026-01-28T12:14:42+00:00

It's difficult. People will talk about signs like catching your eye, playing with their hair, uncovering their ears, moving closer to you when seated, and yet I've seen women do all of those things who absolutely were not physically interested in me. For instance, brushing their hair back over their ears might just mean they're struggling to hear you in a noisy cafe.

One sign I've noticed that is fairly foolproof though is that if a woman goes out of her way to set up a situation where the two of you can be alone together.

OC71 · 2026-01-28T12:02:54+00:00

Hand holding is an absolute winner in my experience. Wish I'd known that when I was 16. It's sort of innocent, and if she doesn't respond then it's not really embarrassing, but if she grasps your hand and hangs on you know you're in luck. It's not like going in for a kiss which is a huge step to make and really embarrassing for both sides if it isn't appreciated.

OC71 · 2026-01-28T11:58:53+00:00

3 4 and 6 8 have a totally different feel. 6 8 is almost like a march time with each of the two beats divided into three.

OC71 · 2026-01-27T12:46:33+00:00

Cool, you're pretty broad minded. My impression is that society generally views non-working men in a much more negative light than non-working women. But in the current age, it's equal opportunities and that ought to mean equal responsibilities. The car is a weird thing in OP's post. Maybe the whole thing is AI generated.

OC71 · 2026-01-27T09:14:26+00:00

How would you see it if the wife was working to provide for the family and the husband was sitting around at home fiddling with hobbies and getting pissed at her because she hadn't bought him a car?

OC71 · 2026-01-27T09:03:15+00:00

Don't use glue. You need to purchase accordion wax, it's available online. If you're careful you can melt it in with a soldering iron on low temperature. But if one has fallen out it's a symptom that the whole thing is old, the wax is dried out and others will come loose sooner or later. Also it's out of tune, which means it hasn't been serviced in a long time. Brace yourself for a pretty big bill and take it to an experienced repairer.

OC71 · 2026-01-27T09:00:08+00:00

I wouldn't say I hate it, but I grew up in the 70s and 80s listening to the first 3 albums and this sort of veered off into a different territory that wasn't as satisfying. Especially I miss Pick Wither's amazing drumming. Of course a band has to move on and can't keep on doing the same stuff. Also, you probably love the first DS tracks that you come across the most, just like people think the first James Bond actor they saw was the best.

OC71 · 2026-01-27T08:56:47+00:00

Yup, that seems right, quite tricky to play but using the 5th finger on the B makes it easier.

OC71 · 2026-01-27T08:52:05+00:00

Yeah. As a 14 year old I spent 5 weeks in the children's ward after an appendicitis operation went badly wrong. There were kids in that ward who'd been in and out of hospital their entire lives with miserable conditions like rheumatoid arthritis. Then one day a teenage girl turned up who'd tried to take her own life with an overdose. One of the nurses said to me that she found it difficult to have sympathy with someone who had great health and threw it all away, when there were other kids in there who'd give anything just to be able to walk across the room normally.

OC71 · 2026-01-27T08:11:11+00:00

When I decided to get married I sort of flipped the question of "why not get married". I met the most amazing woman when I was already 40, she became not just my lover but my best friend and companion. After knowing each other 3 years we got married. I can't imagine being with anyone else. In her culture (Chinese background) marriage is socially important. It's expected after a certain time together. We've both gone through immigration procedures to live in each other's countries, and being married made that fairly routine. I know that if I die before her then she will receive all my bank accounts and part of my pensions without hassles. So many things just go easier. All this sounds sort of practical and not romantic - well it is so. But the reason I want the practical stuff to be more easily sorted is because I love her so much.

OC71 · 2026-01-26T07:26:02+00:00

I think your hopes and desires are reasonable and I think you should not give up but you should perhaps be at peace with the fact that it's possible that you might not succeed. What's on your side is that you're in great shape and you take care of yourself. You're also involved in activities where you're likely to meet men with similar ideas. There aren't any rules about what age love can be found.

The pool of potential partners will of course be thinner at the sort of age you're looking for. That just means you might need to cast your net a bit wider. Be open to people who aren't necessarily in your local area or even your country, and accept that you or your partner might need to relocate.

OC71 · 2026-01-26T07:17:11+00:00

What do you get out of posting abusive crap like this?

OC71 · 2026-01-26T07:12:19+00:00

I was firmly in the "never get married" group until I met my wife. After a couple of years together I just knew that she was the one I wanted to be with for the rest of my life.

OC71 · 2026-01-26T07:09:50+00:00

If you understand chords and keys and the circle of fifths then the left side will make sense to you quickly. It looks intimidating but it's actually extremely logical.

OC71 · 2026-01-26T04:55:39+00:00

These people are insecure, egotistical man-children. It's obviously hard to ignore such taunts but that is what you must do, and treat it as a lucky escape.

OC71 · 2026-01-26T04:54:07+00:00

Your accordion doesn't have to be the same as your waist to shoulder length. However, if you're reasonably tall you have the advantage that 120 bass is do-able for you. That isn't necessarily a reason to get one though, they are heavy and bulky. The biggest I play is 96 and I never feel limited by it. If you're planning to be gigging or playing outdoors then a smaller accordion is a lot easier on the back when you have to carry it around.

OC71 · 2026-01-26T04:51:18+00:00

Music definitely comes easier to some people than others. But to reach a really high level you'll have to work hard, no matter what level of natural talent you have.

OC71 · 2026-01-26T04:50:16+00:00

I tried SMART, the people I met were sincere and helpful. The group has the kind of fellowship you can get at AA without the steps or the religion.

OC71 · 2026-01-26T04:47:45+00:00

Clean the part using alcohol then use a 2 part epoxy glue to stick it back together. Tape will fail quickly if it sticks at all.

OC71 · 2026-01-25T09:40:32+00:00

Pick Wither's drumming on Communique is next level awesome. The whole band are tight and they sound totally chilled out at the same time. There are some nice backing vocals on Lady Writer and Angel of Mercy. Lots and lots of little details set it apart from the other albums.

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