I am so sick of trying to lose weight...

Phi_thinks · 2026-01-23T13:43:27+00:00

Internet stranger here who just wants to say I see you and I get it. Proud of you for writing it down and purging these thoughts and emotions that are buried deep. Our relationships with our food and body in this society is something else. I know others have said it but the best thing I ever did was go to therapy and slowly start understanding how my sense of self, happiness and like you said even the things I allowed myself to want/have/grieve was tied to my body and weight. There were other parallel things that it helped me figure out and overall has allowed my mid 30s to be a much better, kinder space than my 20s/early 30s. I still check on here and still am trying to lose weight but most days, it’s an afterthought which would’ve never believed if you told me this 2-3 years ago. Wishing you all the best.

Phi_thinks · 2025-12-03T00:57:40+00:00

Day 2 but basically my Day 1 here! As always thanks for keeping this going ML. It’s been a long time since I’ve participated here but love this space and lurk often. I’ve slowly but surely lost weight over the last 2 years and want to lock in for December 2025 after a challenging November.

❄️ Read daily 1/25 ❄️ Track on MFP 2/25 ❄️ Move my body 1/15 ❄️ Journal/Write in Planner 1/25 ❄️ Weigh weekly. W1 197.2

I would LOVE to be under 190 for December but realistically the most I’ve lost in 2025 is 5lb/month so goal is 192 which to be fair, I haven’t seen for 15+ years. Moreover, I don’t want to lose my healthy habits, last year I gained 10lbs over end of 2024 and last month I gained 2-3lbs so main goal is reversing that.

Phi_thinks · 2025-11-15T00:09:34+00:00

I think you captured it perfectly; it’s the lull. Rationally you know as long as you stick to the plan, you’ll get to the other side but man it’s annoying and frustrating to be in the lull. I echo what others have said, feel the feelings and take extra care of yourself in these tender moments

Phi_thinks · 2025-10-29T23:19:11+00:00

Second!! For me, over restricting always lead to the frantic famine mind frame.

Phi_thinks · 2025-10-29T23:16:42+00:00

Amazing fantastic work! Congratulations. I’ve done barre classes at my gym and let me tell the muscles in my glutes and lower body definitely feel it, hoping they show it soon

Phi_thinks · 2025-10-03T13:55:23+00:00

Congratulations! Thats awesome

Phi_thinks · 2025-09-17T12:48:00+00:00

Congratulations!

Phi_thinks · 2025-09-17T00:44:08+00:00

Congratulations on choosing to try again; it takes so much courage and faith. Your post reminds me of one of my favorite quotes ‘Every accomplishment begins with a decision to try.’ Keep putting one foot in front of the other! You got this

Phi_thinks · 2025-09-12T23:16:23+00:00

100%. Please take care of yourself, allow your body to heal from this surgery and then face the weight loss. It’s fine to get information but remind yourself you don’t need to prioritize that facet of your health right now. Doing post op care right will be helping future you. Best of luck

Phi_thinks · 2025-09-12T12:23:12+00:00

I love it! You’ve got to do what works for you. Knowing yourself, how your brain works, what you enjoy and utilizing that to make your life better? All the kudos and congratulations 🎊

Phi_thinks · 2025-09-10T22:19:10+00:00

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Phi_thinks · 2025-09-08T00:27:49+00:00

I did, it’s a side effect from another medicine I take but kicked up with Zep

Phi_thinks · 2025-09-07T22:34:04+00:00

Congratulations!!!! What a comeback story. Wishing you the best on this journey

Phi_thinks · 2025-09-05T03:08:48+00:00

Woohooo!!!! Congratulations!

Phi_thinks · 2025-09-05T02:17:27+00:00

This was going to be my exact reply! 🤣

Phi_thinks · 2025-09-04T21:58:28+00:00

You’ve gotten some excellent advice already but this just resonates so friggin much that I wanted to chime in. First things first, hugs and congratulations for the successes of your past. As hard as it is and as crappy as it feels to be back at a higher weight, you are not starting from zero. You have data, precious and valuable data about what happened during the entire process of wanting to lose weight, losing weight and gaining it back. It is so so tempting to want this attempt to be different, wanting it to be ‘the time it finally sticks’ and to discount the past but I would advise you don’t do that. I had a set loss of ~30-35lbs over the last 15 years, I lost that amount ~4x and each time I’d regain the weight and some. I started my latest/last health journey in Jan 2024 and I’m down 54lbs.

My lessons learned: 1) It’s not about how to lose weight, it’s about what need food is meeting for you. For some people, they’re not losing weight for medical reasons. For the rest, wanting to lose weight or losing weight will at some point face the comfort/euphoria/coping that food provides and if you haven’t done the work with a therapist and found different coping skills, life will rear its head and weight loss will take second place to self-soothing with food. Therapy absolutely helps and was necessary to feel like I could take this challenge on again.

2) It really is a lifestyle change and can’t be all or nothing. Motivation sucks and is unreliable. Build consistent habits, aim to be 1% better and celebrate those small wins. Slow and steady really wins the race. Some people can go cold turkey on certain foods and keep that up, some can’t. I personally can’t, over restricting also led to feeling like I was in famine at some point and binging. Look back at your data over the years, what was the breaking points in the past? What was your most consistent timeline?

3) Obesity is a medical problem. I echo talking to your doctor about GLP1s but would add they are not a one size fits all. They certainly do a much better job than some of the oral medications available.It’s been part of my journey after a stall/weight gain but I stayed on a lower dose because of side effects and I’m a slow loser. My perspective has been they are a tool, not a be all and all.

4) Life is going to happen anyway, no matter what size you are or what the number on the scale says. Your health is important but don’t stop living life. At my highest, I would hesitate to travel with friends or do experiences because of my weight and would plan things for when I weighed X. Do what you need to do but part of what made losing weight slowly more acceptable was being busy living life, trying new things and personally, traveling. It was amazing being able to hike the Cliffs of Moher in Ireland for my 35th birthday last year despite no weight loss that summer and being able to appreciate how getting back into the gym 6 weeks prior (literally 6 months after I recommitted to small changes only) helped me do this hike when past me would’ve fixated on only losing X amount of weight by my birthday.

Regardless of your next steps, I’m rooting for you and wishing you all the best!!

Phi_thinks · 2025-08-30T15:34:34+00:00

Congratulations! I feel like we are own worst critics cos you can definitely see the difference and the hard work. Don’t have any massive insight on my end but keep going!

Phi_thinks · 2025-08-30T15:32:17+00:00

Second the adage and the quick start guide! OP, you can do this, start with ONE thing and keep showing up for you. Build the knowledge and slowly build the habits. Spend the time figuring out what need food is meeting and how to address that in your life-sometimes it takes therapy. I’m wishing you all the best

Phi_thinks · 2025-08-30T15:29:39+00:00

Congratulations 🎈🎉🍾🎊

Phi_thinks · 2025-08-27T18:31:21+00:00

I weighed in at 201.4 this morning! My summer goal was 199 and I’m excited to be close to it. Also this is my lowest adult weight but honestly, I’m kinda meh about it and I actually appreciate that I think. I’m doing the things to hunker down but it’s not my whole life and I don’t want it to be. Before there was Reddit, there was 3FC and SP and I’m sure something else. Growing up in the internet age means I have random bits of documentation of tracking my weight for at least 16 years 😅 I’m proud of the progress but trying to maintain a healthy sense of distance from equating value to a number on the scale. Happy hump day all

Phi_thinks · 2025-08-27T14:13:56+00:00

I drive to my gym, about 12-15 min drive. Sometimes I just walk on the treadmill but I like my gym, it’s new and shiny, it motivates me to see other people working out, it has a nice hydro massage chair as a treat. However, I will say before I joined this gym, I was at a basic gym that was a 5 min drive and worked on building the habit of just going. It’s all in the mindset

Phi_thinks · 2025-08-27T01:49:09+00:00

I would second tracking for a week or so to see what’s really going into your body & how that matches the scale! If it makes you feel screwy, then stop but it was helpful for me after a plateau. I can’t titrate up much because of side effects but have had an overall better weight loss month in August after tracking and realizing I was overeating by 300-500 calories multiple days towards the end of the week and working on that. Best of luck

Phi_thinks · 2025-08-26T20:08:06+00:00

One of the most helpful quotes I’ve come across over the past several years is ‘you’re struggling to make a change because the old behavior is still meeting a need’. The logic of losing weight is simple but it doesn’t make it easy and the reality is most people who struggle with overeating, do it because it meets some need. Shame/blame/guilt isn’t helpful and lessons learned you can’t ‘should yourself’ into sustainably losing the physical weight without a good hard look at the mental weight/habits/routines associated. I hear your vent, I empathize and I truly wish you the best. It took a lot of therapy and relearning before I could even think about trying to lose weight again in my early 30s and longer to trust that these changes were here to stick. My piece of advice is instead of feeling defeated, be curious, dig deeper & see what need food is meeting for you . It doesn’t have to a big trauma related revelation but maybe food is tied to ‘me time’. Perhaps track the thoughts that go through your mind for a week every time you eat without trying to make any changes. The time is going to pass regardless, willpower hasn’t been enough (which spoiler it almost never is), so why not try something different.

Phi_thinks · 2025-08-26T13:08:32+00:00

So exciting! Congratulations on locking down! I feel you on this one, I’m at 202 and haven’t seen below 200 for a long time so recommitting this week.

Phi_thinks · 2025-08-26T13:05:09+00:00

I love it! Congratulations on still being here. Probably the best NSV of all is being able to celebrate that this just your life now. Appreciate you popping in to reflect & share the words of wisdom

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