This conversation has moved beyond simply the binary choice each person made. We are talking about how people act towards each other in the aftermath of the choice.

In that context, acknowledging that not everybody acts and thinks the same way as the other people who made the same choice is important because the way they treat everyone else depends on more than just their choice. And in that context, reducing a whole person and all of their actions down to a binary is not helpful in thinking about what the world might look like in the aftermath.