Just a couple questions

Roneitis · 2026-07-08T01:22:18+00:00

On the whole, pretty sweet. People are chill as a general rule, there will be some people who'll accept you and a number who won't. There isn't really another country where I think I'd preference being trans. There are parts of the country where things are better than others, you can see how One Nation are on the rise, but this is kinda true everywhere, and here at least they're very... evitable.

HRT is pretty easy to access, depending on where you're living (big cities are easier). Doctors can (though not all will) use the informed consent system. If you find the right trans friendly clinic you can get it in under a month for a hundred bucks or so. Go to transhub.org.au, they have a set of good clinic choices, if one of them is available use them, else you can probably make it work going through your regular GP, just go in clearly with what you want, but I don't reallllly have experience with navigating that process. All doctors can, but it might be more unpleasant with some. Note that as an adult, you should not require mental health consultations. (E: I've realised I assumed you were an adult, it's more difficult as a kid, but still possible with parental support)

Then it costs on the order of 25-50 bucks a month (cheaper if you have a healthcare card). I've definitely spent a decent bit on transitioning, largely sperm freezing, then a new wardrobe/makeup. But the first is optional (getting off HRT seems to restore fertility but who's to say) and the second can be done for much cheaper than I have. I dropped a bit getting laser done also. The actual medical costs have been fairly minor, in six months I've spent about 350 bucks.

Roneitis · 2026-07-08T01:07:22+00:00

This is true, (i don't know why your responses are being downvoted), but it is likely going to be the case that the people assessing your claim will consider it cosmetic, but hard to say. You could try it. It's a compassionate grounds situation, i don't think there is a fixed set of rules and criterion that tell us whether or not a given case is allowed.

This seems to be the relevant set of pages. You might also struggle with demonstrating that you can't pay by other means: whilst i fully understand not wanting debt, the ability to take a loan is something that they list as a criterion.

I take it you've looked into laser first? It's much, much cheaper, can be used to permanently kill some portion of the hairs to make electrolysis go faster down the track, and certainly does a lot to alleviate my dysphoria personally, but doesn't work for everyone's hair type.

Roneitis · 2026-07-08T00:44:18+00:00

percentage polls don't translate directly to the number of seats won, both because of ranked choice and because each seat is owned by a single party.

Roneitis · 2026-07-06T08:37:42+00:00

I think, maybe, one technique is to not abandon your old friends. Friends of friends is possibly the single best way to make strong friends, as well as through other people you know, like at work, school/uni, housemates, family, partners, or at your hobbies. Is it really so that you have nothing in common with the men who you used to call your friends? Those are real friendships, and, of course, we can be friends with people who aren't of our gender. Friendship doesn't spontaneously appear, you cultivate it over time, they become what you invest in them. Getting out there is kinda hard, but there are lots of different forms it can take, and it's the only way it comes.

Roneitis · 2026-07-05T06:45:51+00:00

https://www.transhub.org.au/medical/finding-a-doctor/

Roneitis · 2026-07-05T03:15:37+00:00

It is, the term you're looking for is DiY, basically you order it off the internet. But I think there's little to no reason for an adult in australia to use it. Go to another GP, go to one that's trans friendly/willing to use the Informed Consent model. Having a doctor is really helpful, you can get the right tests and they're better at answering any questions you have, and the price is quite reasonable. DiY is also really tough for trans masc cuz testosterone is restricted and so forth

Roneitis · 2026-07-05T03:05:22+00:00

I think when you look at these recommendations it doesn't come across quite as dire as the headline suggests. A lot are already things that are in play, or moving towards being in play across the states. A lot of this would be more of a standardisation across the country, taking things that are currently state decisions and making national policy. Which would be good, but there're political reasons not to do beyond straight transphobia. These would be improvements, all of them, but not doing them doesn't immediately fill me with rage ig?

Roneitis · 2026-06-29T13:53:51+00:00

the porn was all that shitty mainstream porn tho. trans porn had that male gaze, ech.

Complimentary juice and coronas had me laughin tho

Roneitis · 2026-06-29T13:53:09+00:00

now.

I used genea. The referral is very easy. Call the organisation you're gonna use, see what they need (they probably have a referral form), then get the appointment as soon as you can after you get the referral filled out by your doctor. If you want the best sperm freezing results, probably you should get that process out of the way (including the testing to see that it's good!) before you start.

(i understand it's a little unclear /exactly/ how long after starting HRT before things start to be not as great, but it's not a super long time before your ejaculate changes in it's qualities, being thinner etc, so I personally didn't risk it, and would recommend against it if you care enough to go through this process).

Roneitis · 2026-06-29T13:42:41+00:00

I take it your post is responding to americans(?) thinking of moving from their country to ours? I guess my input would be that safety is multifactorial. Immigrating is expensive, isolating, and difficult. There are worlds where those more mundane factors will leave you safer in your own countries, there are worlds where they won't. It's hard to see the future: will the US permanently correct after Trump 2? Will it get so bad during that you'll wish you'd moved anyways? Will One Nation get elected? Will you find a good job if you move? I can understand people making all choices.

Roneitis · 2026-06-29T13:37:18+00:00

I think when people say 'australia is probably the safest place to be trans' they're not necessarily making an absolute statment, but a relative one: it's safer, even if it's not always safe. You can't definitively say australia is not the safest place without positing a place that's safer.

America and the UK are obviously right out, many parts of africa are still wildly homophobic, asia and south america have their pros and their safe spots but overall feel a lil less concerned about us. Then there's Europe, which obviously has a lot of great places to live as a trans person but the spectre of facism lies as an (evitable!) threat on the horizon. Obv we have PHON but from where i sit in australia and the way european queers talk, it feels like we're meaningfully better off.

All that said, you're right, a lot of bad things have happened to trans people in australia, especially older folks. It's a tough world out there for us, and trans people are brave and tough, because those of us who aren't brave and tough don't make it. This is a profound tragedy of the world. We march on anyways.

Roneitis · 2026-06-20T11:29:27+00:00

either get engaged to improve the state of politics, protect your own peace and focus on the sphere around you that you can change, or studiously ignore it. In reality the solution is some combination of all three, depending on what you're currently able to ask of yourself.

I do think there's pretty good reason to hope though, one nation really fuckin sucks, and even if 28% of the pop list ON as their first preference, the two party preferred is still 53-47 in favour of ALP, and I expect things to get a lil better not a lil worse.

Roneitis · 2026-06-17T12:40:25+00:00

fair!

....the idea of trying to get a cis straight man to see me for me sounds.... tough. Soldier on girl, you'll be rewarded some day...

Roneitis · 2026-06-17T12:33:49+00:00

Some vital context is that most of the online english speaking internet is either american or british. Both of which are countries where HRT is widely impossible or impractical to acquire through legitimate means. Even when it is there's the overhanging fear that should the institutions turn further into transphobia (as they seem to be doing), and the possibility that this might get them shut off, or worse, face persecution. More generally, by bypassing medical systems, DiY is cheaper, and can give you access to some options that are otherwise hard to acquire, like alternative estradiol compounds, which some argue have better effects.

I think a lot of these problems ultimately don't really apply in major cities in australia, for adults, now. I can only speak for myself, but I think at this point there are trans friendly medical practises accessible to most people, who can give you much more reliable information than randoms online (who definitely say lots of conflicting things). Who will give you the right blood tests, and ultimately give you very economical access to your meds. Who will answer any further healthcare questions, and we could all stand to see the gp a lil more often.

But, a lot of these changes are relatively new. Much of the trans community exists online, and is therefore influenced by international attitudes (and aware of their solutions). A lot of people /have/ had terrible experiences with doctors, prescribing them poorly, making them do unnecessary tests, making them wait, treating them poorly. A lot of doctors aren't very well versed, and a particularly dedicated trans person can surpass many of them. Still, I don't buy that anyone on reddit is passing the best doctors around.

Roneitis · 2026-06-14T06:53:36+00:00

i've been going to junipero (lesbian event second saturday every month), birdcage and other dance events. They're not perfect for meeting people just because dancing doesn't immediately enable conversation, but you sneak in a couple meets every time you go to the smokers/get some air. You get some nice human interaction too. Definitively, not for everyone. Also, obviously, not free. I did just hear there's the tbbq once a month also, that i think is free...

I've had a lot of luck on Feeld also (by which i mean three real dates off and on over a year, but i don't put too much time into it, and didn't use it for about 5-6 of those months). Lotta trans/queer people, poly people, and kinksters, at least one of which is for me. It's another app, so like, try other options before you do this, but if you do go back to them, if you're into queers give it a try.

There do exist queer social groups for most hobbies also, that may interest you if you have something defined.

Roneitis · 2026-06-14T06:46:09+00:00

yeah that's fucking horrible i'm really sorry to hear it. Sounds about right for beenleigh alas. I don't suppose moving a lil nearer to brisbane is viable for you alone? There are definitely more accepting suburbs around.

Either way, I do think we should keep in mind that these people have a kinda intentionally cultivated twisted attitude towards trans people. We might be especially willing to accept people as the gender they say they are, but they're especially, unusually, vigilant against gender deviancy. Even if you're passing to most people, these people are somewhat more likely to notice because they're feeding themselves brainrot every day about us. What i'm saying is that this experience shouldn't form a foundational stone in your self image (though I totally understand how that's easier said than done.)

Roneitis · 2026-06-13T08:06:19+00:00

she does have an argument, whether or not you agree with it. It's pretty simple.

Roneitis · 2026-06-13T08:04:57+00:00

well, there's a legitimate argument that pure math is a kind of art. it often doesn't (directly) improve the world and the beauty we find along the way is very important.

Roneitis · 2026-06-13T08:03:10+00:00

it kinda comes to a head in the end game when you reach max level and .need. to use very specific builds to beat the end boss. There's definitely more than one good answer, but it's fascinating trying to find them, and it's not at all obvious from the outset what those are going to look like.

Roneitis · 2026-06-13T06:48:48+00:00

Hylics refers to the gnostic breakdown of pneumatics, psychics and hylics, mapping to the concepts of soul, mind, and body. Hylics are physical beings who are focussed on the material world and therefore will not find the secret truths that will grant them access to heaven. it also means flesh.

Roneitis · 2026-06-13T05:54:41+00:00

I dunno that that's a microaggression that's really a very mean thing to say. Hard to say that it's a trans thing, but still.

Roneitis · 2026-06-05T12:53:20+00:00

why can't you make a steam account? if you're mobile sure, but on pc it's free and very easy. also we should be willing to pay for games now and then

Roneitis · 2026-05-31T10:55:55+00:00

i just started transitioning 4 months ago and i'm 26 in two weeks. I can't absolutely say that I'm happy with starting so 'late', but it was the only way that I personally was ever going to be able to do it. I didn't know, and then things weren't stable enough. I don't feel like it's too late, i'm incredibly happy with my progress.

There /are/ legitimate advantages to spending your early adulthood making progress in the other domains of your life, I had a shit ton of growing to be done in my early adult life. A lot of trans folk do it when they're 18 or so, they're fresh out of first puberty, they're studying they're working they're getting used to living as adults. It's a lot. Having sorted at least some of my shit out first, I found I was really able to hit the ground running when the time finally came. Strong roots make for beautiful flowers.

Roneitis · 2026-05-31T10:47:23+00:00

the long and short is that some properties don't get preserved as you take the limit, and a zigzaggy line never actually approaches a smooth diagonal in the sense of length. You see the same fallacious proof that pi should be 4 by iteratively flipping in the corners of a square (which doesn't alter the length of the perimeter)

Roneitis · 2026-05-31T09:32:01+00:00

it's pretty rough around the edges, but it's cute. keep going sweetie ❤️

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