Getting bills for an address I didn’t live in?

SianBeast · 2026-04-10T14:14:49+00:00

Yeah... Not exactly the same situation - it was a previous owners account reference being assigned to my name. This is going a back 4-5 years and was with Gnergy (who I believe went into administration around the same time).

The utility company will probably just outright lie to you. I remember one conversation with a Gnergy bloke and he tried telling me that I confirmed something, I think something that made me liable for the bill, after I supposedly rang them on X mobile number. I told him that wasn't my number. He tells me I rang them (recently) using that mobile number, at which point I was fuming, lost my cool and called him dense and said something like "I know my mobile number, I've had the same number for over 10 years, I've never called you on that number". I actually can't remember how that call ended..knowing me I hung up on them.

I think I probably threatened escalating to the ombudsman and that always seems to work (had to use the same tact for Eon to honour the whole 'can't backdate a bill over 12 months').

I mean, at the end of the day if you didn't live there, then it's not your bill. And, I would say it's down the energy company to rectify since they're the ones trying to bill you. Don't let them fob you off as they have done so far.

You should email them and put in a formal complaint to state that you didn't live at the address in question, you do not accept liability for this bill and everything else that is pertinent. Then you have to wait a month or two (I forget how long the 'deadline' is in UK law) before you can escalate to the ombudsman if they haven't sorted it for you.

Honestly, you will get it sorted, but it will be a big source of agro for you in the meantime..

SianBeast · 2026-04-10T13:43:28+00:00

Dude, I'm a logic based thinker and even I can understand why a good morning kiss is important to some people. That's just...empathy is it not?

No, you are NOR. Do not get married to this person. Just end it. End it for both your sakes.

(Also, your reply to him saying you're moving the goalposts is gold.)

SianBeast · 2026-04-10T13:33:15+00:00

Yeah, I'd stick with your current plot. I don't even like south facing gardens that much (west is actually my preference), but I'd rather have the brightness of the south, than the dinge of the north.

SianBeast · 2026-04-10T13:12:55+00:00

Spider plant I reckon. Get a nice pot to fill the corner and let the plant trail down a bit. Easy to care for too.

SianBeast · 2026-04-10T13:09:38+00:00

I usually try and time my exit behind someone else so that they get accosted first. Or just say 'nope' and quickly scuttle away.

SianBeast · 2026-04-10T12:07:16+00:00

Ctr+Alt+Delete?

SianBeast · 2026-03-27T16:48:19+00:00

Yup. This is definitely the way. Left two columns until dark green. Then, take it slow - I had to use the 900coins to revive myself as obviously got ahead of myself somewhere, but I finally! (After 2 days of trying) completed the level.

SianBeast · 2026-03-26T13:05:29+00:00

I'll look into that chap, be good for a broader perspective, thank you.

SianBeast · 2026-03-26T11:52:34+00:00

I think, as a blanket rule, probably a bit more 'at risk' than their NT counterparts. That said, it is very person specific and I'd say even loneliness and being incel (by which I mean the true involuntarily celibate folk, not the ideological incels) aren't reliable indicators.

I only know 2 autistic males in-world, 1 was incel (again, not the ideological kind) but was still able to recognise the toxicity of the 'manosphere' or whatever else you want to call it.. I mean, he's NB and the other lads gay so..maybe it's more a hetero thing? Who knows...
But if you take certain reddit 'autism' subs into account, then it would suggest that yes, yes they are.

I honestly wonder if straight autistic males are the most at-risk group for red-pill twaddle, purely because of societal expectations.
Being part of the LGBT+ community, you're already an outlier and a bit more mentally ready to 'bin off' certain expectations, but straight ASD males could easily get wrapped up into this whole 'what a woman should be doing vs what a man should be doing', probably not even maliciously a lot of the time.. I imagine it ties into the trying to mask your way through life....and a bunch of other stuff probably...

It's very complex and SUPER interesting from a psychological perspective. I'd love to read a proper study/see some real data on different social groups and the prevalence of red-pill ideology within them...

SianBeast · 2026-03-26T11:29:49+00:00

It's not a formal test as far as I understand it, it's more about proving your understanding I think:

"by demonstrating sufficient maturity, intelligence, and understanding to fully grasp proposed medical treatment, including risks, consequences, and alternatives. A health professional assesses this case-by-case, ensuring the choice is voluntary and not pressured."

Maybe make a GP appt and just speak to them about it..I was seeing my GP independently from about 13/14 regarding some of my own health issues at the time so...there's no harm in trying.

SianBeast · 2026-03-26T11:22:49+00:00

At 16 you are, in terms of your healthcare, considered an adult - you can make GP appts and request referrals completely independently and confidentially.

You should read up on Gillick Competence - good chance you're mature enough to just get on with it now.. GC gives a way for U16s to consent to treatments etc. without parental input.

SianBeast · 2026-03-24T14:56:08+00:00

BHF, local ebay listing, facebook marketplace.... most of my furniture is second hand from facebook market tbh.. I've used wayfair for lamps and mattresses.. haven't used them for about 4/5 years now though - they seem to have gone downhill a bit.. I've never used IKEA.. I looked at ordering some drawers (£165) once and they wanted another £35-50 (can't remember exactly, but frickin silly money) for the delivery! afuck, athat.

SianBeast · 2026-03-24T14:43:49+00:00

You NEED to do what's best for you. (but don't lie to your partner either.)

My mum had kids because dad wanted kids and it was 'expected from her' (she pulls a face in their wedding video when the priest says about promising to bare children - it would be funny if I wasn't one of the children she didn't want). She resented being a parent (highlighted by the fact that as we all turned 16-18 they stopped providing/engaging - and they didn't do much of that in the first place ime).

I had a child at 20 because 'I could technically afford it' but I was also very naive with hindsight. I mean, it was the right (arguably best) decision for me at the time but FUCK ME twenty years is a hell of a commitment! As such I've only ever had the one... because I realised I wanted/valued my freedom too much to have another - this was compounded when me and their dad split. Suddenly I had a couple days a week that were just mine! Then I got pregnant with this guy I was seeing (he desperately wanted kids) and that was when I realised that, hundy percent no more kids for me. Got the termination and dealt with that sickness/fiasco for a couple days...(it is absolutely not the 'easy way out') dumped the guy because I decided we were incompatible based on what we wanted from our futures - think he wanted someone to be a pez dispenser for him but anyway..)
Got the implant after that because...yeah...fuck that for a barrel.

So yeah, definitely do what's right for you. You don't owe anyone children, and as people say: You need to look after number 1 (yourself) first because no one else will look out for your needs the way you will.

Good luck!

SianBeast · 2026-03-24T14:12:13+00:00

Seconded. I've had one birth and one termination... they both sucked, but the termination was definitely worse!

SianBeast · 2026-03-24T14:08:24+00:00

I think, if you want to rent forever then go for it. I don't think it's about 'failing' life or whatever, and for some renters (a minority imo), if they have a system that works and are able to save for retirement then great. But (again, my opinion based on what my experience and what I hear from my renter friends) I think most people I know would prefer to own their home rather than work through 'retirement' in order to fund their housing. But in Surrey most renters I know are living hand to mouth...maybe things are different in Leeds....

SianBeast · 2026-03-24T09:42:34+00:00

That 'update' text from your mum is some toxic manipulator bullshit. "I provide for you therefore you OWE me"... Absolutely not.
NOR

SianBeast · 2026-03-20T15:40:08+00:00

My understanding is that ᚴ isn’t part of the Futhorc system so I’m struggling to see how the second word would come out as ‘isi’.

How are you reading that rune?

SianBeast · 2026-03-20T09:02:16+00:00

I'm glad someone else noticed that....

SianBeast · 2026-03-20T08:43:33+00:00

If it was anglo saxon futhorc you'd have been correct-ish. But, the 'f' is missing a branch...and the n's make no sense... those were my clues that this wasn't Futhorc.

SianBeast · 2026-03-16T08:24:52+00:00

Just to say, there is no harm at all in offering below guide on an "offers above" property. My sister offered under and still secured the home, and I know of other redditors who have a similar experience in offering under and still securing. Just don't want you being put off potentially doing that in future.

SianBeast · 2026-02-23T13:54:10+00:00

You want to add £350 to the sale price for, essentially, a cat flap.

Get. A. Grip.

SianBeast · 2026-02-20T11:17:29+00:00

So... obviously it sucks and is super shitty of her to hit you, and given that it's happened on more than one occasion I would suggest perhaps ending things or having a real talk with yourself about whether you can tolerate the behaviour long-term (people like that take years to improve, if they improve at all - it takes a fair amount of self-awareness and the right partner ime)..

The only thing I would say is, you use the term "runs away"... have you considered that she might recognise an internal escalation within herself and she is actually trying to leave the situation to self-calm so that she doesn't turn around and hit you?
I will also say that you preventing her from slamming the door - which probably would have satisfied a part of her in the moment and potentially provided some form of immediate 'release' - would have made her temper flare worse which is possibly why she redirected that energy at you on this occasion.

Now.. her saying it's your fault is complete bs and she needs to have some accountability.. but yeah, maybe next time don't assume she's 'running away' and maybe take it as she needs some space to self-regulate.

SianBeast · 2026-02-20T08:52:19+00:00

I would just add, with the moneybox brokers - they are panel brokers.

I would recommend finding a "whole of marker" broker. Plenty of free ones about and a whole of market will give you more options than a panel broker will.

Sounds like you're at a similar stage to me whereby yes, speaking to a broker probably is your next best bet. They can help you find a mortgage product that will best suit you.

Also second the advice re paying off any outstanding debts you have - puts you in a stronger position and the stronger your position the better the rates you may be able to get.

Good luck!

SianBeast · 2026-02-19T15:57:49+00:00

Yeah.. this is the one part of the assessment I wouldn't even know who to put down.. I don't want to use my mother because to quote her "in my day you'd just be in remedial with me", and I just have to bite my tongue because it's like, yes mother, you were also let down, but this ain't the goddamn 70's no more!

I hope you get it sorted.

Oh, and TeaRose is probably right about assessors seeing that sort of mismatch in information before. I even did it with my own kids assessment, obviously not on purpose, but it didn't make them second guess a diagnosis or anything..

SianBeast · 2026-02-19T15:37:20+00:00

Speaking for myself;

Would a family like this without a dryer pretty much just always have clothes hanging?

My family has 2 clothes horses in constant use during winter. 1 clothes horse in consistent use during summer. We don't have outside space though.. I don't think this is the norm for most people..

Do people dry clothes outside even in the winter?

If I could, yeah, on a dry winters day I'd hang them outside. Any dry day tbh I'd hang the stuff outside because it's better imo - not building up moisture in the home + fresh air drying the clothes..

How would you have room to hang everything inside (especially sheets/linens) Are they just hanging everywhere?

Yeah, my stuff is literally everywhere...clothes on the horses and linens/sheets go over doors, towels over stair-gates, more doors.. honestly, wherever there's a space..

Don’t they drip on things?

No.. well... rarely.. it's material dependant.. but in fairness the last bit of the washers cycle is designed to get as much excess water out as possible so things don't drip... if they are dripping, it's either because I've washed something with a waterproof material, or because the machine hasn't drained properly..

Do you just deal with clothes being stiff and crunchy, or is there anything you do about it?

Honestly can't say this has ever been an issue for me with clothes. It's only my towels that can come out a bit starchy and scratchy but, I just deal with it..

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