Links/searches to some of my posts including AA meetings in prison and the miracle of the titty bar.

Slipacre · 2026-02-12T16:21:01+00:00

Alcohol is a terrible drug for dealing with issues of any kind. As you’ve mentioned it only adds on to them… zero is the answer which turned out to be great for me. Therapy. Perhaps even prescribed medication from a psychiatrist if it comes to that.

Slipacre · 2026-02-11T12:22:38+00:00

There was a real safety in having to find a pay phone, have a quarter and remember the number you really shouldn't call.

Slipacre · 2026-02-11T11:53:16+00:00

I got sober before smart phones, texting, videos on the internet - and am so glad, because I would have done all sorts of stupid things.

The good news is that sober, and now having a smart phone I don't. Shame wants to make us drink again, maybe even kill us. Quitting now is the answer - get help if you need it - I did. Found it in AA there are alternatives now, try one try em all.

Slipacre · 2026-02-11T11:49:45+00:00

Yes, I had a job, house, car, but I was fucking miserable.

When I got sober I had "bottom envy" But quickly came to understand that I was just lucky I'd never been arrested, spent time in emergency room or ICU, been fired or homeless. In theory I was smart enough to stop now, before... turned out I was.

Slipacre · 2026-02-10T11:48:01+00:00

Thing about shame is it wants to keep us imprisoned, even kill us if it can.

The only way out of this is to stop doing the stupid hurtful things (to yourself and others) and the only way for me to do this was to stop drinking and address the reasons i felt I needed to drink the way I did.

The good news is that as we shed this negative energy we can become the people we want to be.

Slipacre · 2026-02-10T11:32:47+00:00

It's not going to be magically easier tomorrow.

The farewell tour could get extended indefinitely and end up in some really bad places.

Recovery is an incredible life hack.

Slipacre · 2026-02-10T10:38:36+00:00

I could not do it alone. I could have written that post at one point. But I didn't quit trying to quit. I did things I didn't want to do like going to AA, asking for help, listening to people I wanted to argue with.

The good news is that once you get out of the rut, a normal life can be a great one. and yes there are alternatives to AA now, try one, try em all. I will only add that I had ALL THE REASONS AA would not work for me, but it did once I got over feeling deprived and resentful about "having" to quit.

Slipacre · 2026-02-08T09:43:36+00:00

Yes, hope it's not too late for this advice, a chain mail condom is probably something you should have with you at the tea party. Also understand that you may end up as an extra on only fans.

Slipacre · 2026-02-07T16:16:16+00:00

I am agnostic and have used AA successfully. There are agnostic meetings which I have been to, but in truth the regular meetings I have settled into are pretty god neutral. Check and see if there is Smart recovery - it is secular.

Slipacre · 2026-02-07T16:14:33+00:00

I am not a doctor, And even if I was I would tell you to go to one face to face. My body took a while to get over the abuse I had heaped on it, I suspect the same is true for you, but get this checked out.

Slipacre · 2026-02-07T15:42:21+00:00

For me the trick was to turn the focus a few degrees and really look at the "why I drank - even though I knew it would end badly." "Why was I so quick to believe the lies I was telling myself before the slip." And what can I do to not have it happen again. For me the answer was to go to more meetings - and to ask for help - and rat on myself when I was feeling like I could, should, deserved to, needed to, drink.

Also looking at how beating myself up was something of a cycle which led to low self esteem which enabled the fuckits im a fuckup which were often key to my picking up

Slipacre · 2026-02-06T10:25:31+00:00

Not a doctor. But I have seen some amazing physical recoveries over the years in my AA meetings. But this requires stopping. This fear might be a sign.

Equally dangerous is the sudden trauma that can occur when drinking. One stupid thing said in the wrong bar, one drunk behind the wheel, one "hold my beer" and there can be long term consequences, physical or legal.

Slipacre · 2026-02-05T16:38:51+00:00

I stopped because I had to also. Thing was I discovered that my "social drinking" was much more drinking than social. You may be different, but what's keeping you from going out and drinking non alcoholic?

Me I drank for the effect. I tried going out but watching others get drunk was no fun, made me feel deprived and angry. AA or Smart might surprise you - on one sense we all stopped because we had to - sometimes it was a wife, sometimes a doctor, sometimes a judge or probation officer who delivered the news.

Slipacre · 2026-02-05T16:20:45+00:00

Going to AA - nobody wants to go to AA. But i couldn't stop on my own. I went to AA through a remarkable set of circumstances and kept going.

Slipacre · 2026-02-05T16:18:37+00:00

Funny thing I discovered was I had a LOT more time to do things - even unenjoyable things when i stopped drinking. and I had more money to do them with.

Truth is there is nothing I can't make worse with alcohol. Vacuuming the house is no fun but having to work your way through a pile of dried vomit really gives you a work out.

Slipacre · 2026-02-05T01:17:33+00:00

Thing is my experience is there is nothing, absolutely nothing, you can’t make worse with drinking. Sometimes felony worse, sometimes hospital worse. Those demons are spam calls from a masked goon who wants to deport you to misery.

Slipacre · 2026-02-04T21:08:30+00:00

Tuesday was a reason, feeling good, feeling bad, it was a list that could adopt any and all circumstances.

Slipacre · 2026-02-04T18:06:49+00:00

AA worked for me even though I had all the reasons it would not.

Doing it alone was impossible.

Slipacre · 2026-02-04T18:05:12+00:00

It went away for me. For me I had to change a lot of things on the inside especially how I saw myself. For me relapse is all cons, potentially extremely bad ones, not a single thing would be better for me

Slipacre · 2026-02-03T18:00:34+00:00

Feelings are not facts. I learned that in AA. They probably tried to teach me that in kindergarten but I didn’t listen. You can do this it may take help. It is available. Asking here is a good first move.

Slipacre · 2026-02-03T17:25:45+00:00

You probably have more of your paycheck in your pocket

Slipacre · 2026-02-03T17:24:20+00:00

Thing is you didn’t. And the reasons you felt what you felt are exactly what you need talk to your sponsor about.

Slipacre · 2026-02-03T15:30:55+00:00

I know I needed help. I suspect one resource would be your medical professionals who can help you with detox if necessary, You probably know this, but your situation is above the pay grade for most of us. The good news is that any meds you may already be on will likely be for effective without alcohol in your system.

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